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roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I think since DDay I was in survival mode. Since moving out, adrenaline and dealing with the "to-dos". Now there's not really much left.

I am EXHAUSTED. Had a mild anxiety attack at work. I think the stress of it all is hitting me now. I could sleep for a week straight.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
Tripletrouble
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Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Oh Hugs Roar!! I know that feeling well. Sometimes I felt like I had given all I had and was ready to physically and emotionally collapse. Please be good to yourself and do some things you enjoy, especially if one of those things is sleep extra


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 634 | Registered: May 2013
GotPlayed
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Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, February 24th (Monday)

It''s normal. I felt overwhelmed and exhausted after I moved out and I stopped assembling IKEA furniture. But I still couldn''t sleep.

My psychosomatic symptom was that I started sweating profusely while sleeping - that started a couple nights after D-Day. I still sweat, but not as much anymore.

Get some sleep if you can. You deserve it.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 725 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
BAB61
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Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Take care of yourself, as contra-intuitive as it sounds try to exercise. It will help you relax and improve your sleep.


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Oh yes the dreaded night sweats!!!! I also have purple splotches on my arms- stressed much?

2 days until a mini vacation.

I am feeling bad, as my support system is stressed and exhausted too. If not for me, for them I need to try to relax. I can see the stress on my parents' faces.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
badmedicine
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Member # 41692
Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Completely understand. When I first found out it was sadness/shame/depression that wore me out. Then I was angry and got some energy. Then reality hitting and trying to get through the holidays was exhausting again. I haven't really recovered from that yet. I feel like I could sleep through an entire weekend and still need more sleep. I hope you have IC or a trusted friend that can help with the support, too.


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 208 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
LoveHerStill
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Member # 31504
Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Ahhhh sleep! I sleep well now but couldn't for about a year after dday.

I know you have a lot on your plate, but try to prioritize and not overwork yourself. You can get to little things later. It's a matter of balance, try to find that now.

Accept help. You don't need to do it all yourself.

Find time to sleep. Even an hour nap during the day can do wonders.

I remember those days and sometimes you just have to kick your own ass to get to a point where the pressure is off. Just remember to eat and sleep when you can.

All the best, you will get through it. Wish I had more for you.


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


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