New Beginnings
User Topic: Question about people?
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, February 24th (Monday)

When people know you are going through a difficult time and you mention it in passing and they don't remark what does that mean?

They are uncomfortable, not interested, don't care, or just missed what you said?

I notice this a lot more with people I know post divorce. Have I changed and never mentioned things or are people just limited in their support?


Posts: 1006 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 21851
Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I think in general people just don't want to get involved!!! Only people who generally get involved are those close to the situation...

"Pain is weakness leaving the body"

Reformed BS 39 xWW 34
Two kids 5 and 2

Posts: 952 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: NW
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, February 24th (Monday)

They are uncomfortable, not interested, don't care, or just missed what you said?
Any of the above? Most of the time, I think people just don't know what to say, or they fear saying the wrong thing, so they say nothing.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25765 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 39362
Default  Posted: 1:21 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I also think people want to respect your privacy and boundaries.

It can be offensive when people stick their nose and ask when it's not their business.

I always try to send light and positive mojo when I see someone going through a hard time, but rarely ask them about it.

If they want to talk to me, I'm happy to be supportive, but feel weird prying.

There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 411 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Topic Posts: 4