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myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I received a very lengthy text from STBXWH this evening at 5:30. I did good with the crickets for about 3 hours. Couldn't hold it in any longer and had to respond. I kept saying over and over and over .....crickets - but in the end they got loose and I texted back. I didn't rant and held my composure because it's in writing. He is waiting for first draft of the divorce agreement and it seems to be getting under his skin a little. My favorite part of his text-

Alimony- NO

Just to warn him- I did say alimony was being requested. Really no surprise there- it was in the divorce complaint. And EVERY lawyer I consulted with said because of long term marriage - alimony would be requested! He doesn't have a lawyer but has consulted with some. I wonder what they have told him?

Ok, gathering up my crickets again.


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
BAB61
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Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, February 24th (Monday)

You do what you gotta do ... Now may the super cricket force be with you!!!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Holly-Isis
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Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Please tell me you answered:
Delusional- YES

That guy...


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11229 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
roarlouder
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Member # 40921
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I hope you find the crickets - they can be sneaky.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
LoveHerStill
Member
Member # 31504
Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I get it.

Herding crickets has proven to be as difficult as herding my cats!

Get a lawyer for your divorce. You will need one! It will also help with the crickets.

Peace to you.


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


Posts: 494 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA
myowndystopia
Member
Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

LHS- never fear - I got a lawyer! Hopefully a good one. STBXWH didn't have one but the texts are flowing pretty late here and one text did mention he had a lawyer now. He must be a little anxious. And unfortunately we are in a bit of a text war tonight. I'm good though. I frequently have sleepless nights so it's giving me something to do. I'm glad he is having a sleepless night as well. Worried? Feeling guilty? Frustrated? At least I know he is alone---- he's just across the hall.


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:14 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

When I was so tempted that sitting on my damned hands didn't work I imagined that fucker gorging on ego kibbles every time I responded.

It won't feel fun in the morning. Please stop yourself. Post responses here - make them furious and/or hilarious. We'll appreciate it - he never will.

Starve that fucker. Starve him good.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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