Just Found Out
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Since finding emails of the A between my WH and sister, I have been trying to stay busy and focus on taking care of my kids and niece. And staying as far away from WH until my IC appt.

As I was laying in bed last night, I thought OH s** sister had tested positive for hepatitis weeks before her death. I talked to her 2 days before she passed and she had told me that she had to have another test done to make sure that wasn't a false positive. Obviously that test never happened.

I looked through her autopsy report this morning, there is nothing about hepatitis in it. Regardless, I am going to be tested. I don't know how long the affair was and I dont know how long my sister has had this (if she did).

I am sick to my stomach. How is this fair? I have been praying, that's all I can do. I have 3 kids and a niece to care for.

Question, I don't know if anyone is familiar with the military but WH got out of the Marine Corps last year and they did a full check up, would they have tested for hepatitis? I can't ask him, I dont even want to look at him.

Me(BS)~ 28

D-Day~2-10-08 *Even though I "knew" before then...
~~~He can't stop cheating, and I can't stop loving him~~~
~You ruined me~
~How do I start a new life when all I've ever known is you in

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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

CryingInside, I ask this with all gentleness and sincerity.

When are you going to stop the insanity?

Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Get tested, it will give you peace of mind, and do not have sex with your spouse until he is, and can prove a clean bill of health.

I have no idea it that is tested for in the military as a routine thing....I would suspect they do, but not sure. Afterall they know soldiers tend to be very sexually active, and they want them physically healthy, hepatitis, is silent until it's causing real harm.

I agree, you need to stop the insanity. You are right you need to care for your kids, and your niece, it's time to put you as number one.

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Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
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Posts: 8714 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I know they routinely test for all of that in the Navy, as part of their physicals.

Am I understanding that your WH had an affair with your sister... and you found out after she passed away?


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
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Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

(((Hug))) your story just breaks my heart. The cold reality is that you and your WH need to be tested, don't leave it to chance. I am so sorry, it is not fair one bit. That is what I have come to realize is none of this is fair.

Take care of yourself.

I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

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WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
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Member # 18540
Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

After I posted I called my sister's bf. He told me she had hepatitis C, he also has it. He wasn't exactly sure who gave it to who or when. But it was no surprise they both had it because they shared needles. But he thinks my sister gave it to him. I hate this guy. I have an appt with my Dr on Thursday morning. She said hep C Is passed through blood. But I should be tested to be safe.

I guess it doesnt matter if he was tested throughout the military or not, since I will be tested. But thought it might bring me some peace of mind. Tushnurse, I am absolutely not going to have sex with him. I dont care if he gets tested or not, I am not touching him.

Neveragain2013, Unfortunately I can not stop this insanity, because it has already been done. I am trying ny best to live through the aftermath.

Steadfast1973 Yes

Thank you for your replies

Me(BS)~ 28

D-Day~2-10-08 *Even though I "knew" before then...
~~~He can't stop cheating, and I can't stop loving him~~~
~You ruined me~
~How do I start a new life when all I've ever known is you in

Posts: 240 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 14918
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Wow. I'm so sorry. I think you need to see an attorney asap. I cannot imagine the range of emotions or having to work through this. Have you yet discussed with a counselor? I would file, honestly. Like yesterday. He betrayed you on so many levels that you will probably never be able to see him in any favorable light. Ever.
So sorry.

Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

None of this is fair. You are horribly hurt, but you are not helpless. Have you seen an attorney?

I would be worried as well. Get tested asap.

DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

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Posts: 1897 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

Hep add insult to injury!

Good for you being proactive and getting checked ASAP.

Are you in the same house as your WH? It seems like you have the kiddos, is he lurking around the house too?

If so, can you get him to move out. You need some space away from your destroyer. Kick his sorry ass out!

Keep your wits about you my dear Cryinginside. Your are making progress, once you see a lawyer you will be able to make plans with some good info.

Stay strong. (((((Cryingsinside)))))

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BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

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Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

I don't know if they have changed it since I was in, but go to base legal. If he hasn't been there yet and you get there first they can't help him.

Me: BS 31
Her: WS 29
10 years of marriage
12 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014

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