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Leia
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Help! STBWXH came home at 8 last night, and I was stuck with dinner duty--which is fine. Not a complaint on my part. Tonight, I make biscuits from scratch (my thing--always do because I hate the flavor of cans). Rat bastard comes in with stir-fry fixings and is currently in the kitchen chopping up his expensive ass chicken and is going to fry it with his expensive ass vegetables. God, I'm so tired of watching him spend money like it is going out of style when I don't have any support, my lawyer says I can't move out, and he is running around being the "husband" that he never was to me. THis is driving me batty! I've blocked him from my phone--not that he'll call and update me anyway, and told him to email me--which he never does. Limbo sucks!!!


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Leia
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Member # 42510
Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

He bought "head-on" shrimp, new sauces, and frankly, I find the smell revolting. I'm back here trying not to toss my cookies.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
devistatedmom
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Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

In house sucks. Bottom line. Nothing fun about it.

All you can do is make sure you track all your spending, and as much of his as you can. As far as cooking goes, you cook for you and the kids when needed, not for him. If he comes in and cook, you don't engage. Except to demand he wash his own dishes. In my book, it's ok to remind him you aren't his maid anymore.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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BAB61
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Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I wouldn't say a word about his dishes. Clean up yours and leave his sit.

Sorry you have to deal with that ... I know I would kill the fucker if we had in-house!!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Leia
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Member # 42510
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

You know what really sucks? Fucker is downstairs cleaning right now. I've been depressed, told him on numerous occasions in the past two years that I'm burned out and need help. Would he help me? Noooooo. Now that he has a new bimbo he is taking household responsibility. Before, I got the line "you're the mom, it is your job to clean." What the fuck? Seriously. What? The? Fuck?


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

(((Hugs)))

I'm sorry.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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