New Beginnings
User Topic: finally, my NB ring
Member # 24518
Happy  Posted: 8:20 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

5 years ago, around my birthday, I started thinking in terms of a 5 year plan. I was still married, but in what deep down I knew was false R (but wasn't ready to admit that yet). I also knew that regardless of whether my marriage survived or not, my life was going to drastically change over the next 5 years.

And well, I was right.

So now I've got this big milestone birthday next month. Things haven't happened exactly how I thought that would. Somehow though, I've still managed to check off most everything in the plan.

And I am embracing this birthday, celebrating not only my surviving the past 5 years, but also the new beginning I've built for myself. Instead of a freakin' midlife crisis, I'm having a midlife adventure. Life is good.

Here's my birthday present to myself...

[This message edited by inconnu at 8:21 PM, February 27th (Thursday)]

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12168 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Beautiful! Aquamarine?

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10


Posts: 2244 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

LOVE it!!!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3216 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Beautiful!! Love, love this!! Congrats on all you have accomplished. Early Happy Birthday, too!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2394 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Yes, aquamarine. My birthday's towards the end of March, making me an Aries.

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12168 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Great idea, congratulations to you!

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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Oooh, nice! Congratulations.

Cars, rings, guitars, we rock NBs around here.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

we rock NBs around here.

that we do.

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12168 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Just beautiful, inconnu!

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, February 27th (Thursday)


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jan 2010
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Love it!!

For what would have been my Silver Anniversary, I bought myself a very nice stainless steel mandolin (kitchen slicer)! I am so proud of it and every time I use it I think "I made it! I really made it!"

I hope you enjoy your NB ring as much as I enjoy my NB mandolin

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Beautiful! What a wonderful acknowledgement of your brave journey. Happy NB

There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Absolutely gorgeous and amazing inconnu!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4618 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
really trying
Member # 5311
Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

very pretty inconnu

Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08

The future's so bright - I got to wear shades

Plant Seeds of Kindness

Posts: 10397 | Registered: Sep 2004 | From: California
Member # 34543
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Love it!

D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 499 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Lovely! Aquamarines are my favorite. You've got great taste

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, February 28th (Friday)


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo

Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 6:11 AM, February 28th (Friday)

That is beautiful!

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, February 28th (Friday)

Very nice!

Looks great on your could be a hand model.


Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21076 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, February 28th (Friday)

It's beautiful!!!

me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."

Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, February 28th (Friday)



NB mandolin

end t/j

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15417 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Member # 40516
Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, March 3rd (Monday)

It is beautiful!

BW - me 43
WH - 46
M - 23 yrs
D-Day - 6/13/2013
2 DS and 1 DD
There are some things that "sorry" just doesn't fix... But I never even got a "sorry."

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