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movingbackwards
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Member # 40612
Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, February 28th (Friday)

Packed up all my stuff last night to leave today. WH is out of town, so he'll find out when he returns next week. I was on the fence about this for a long time, but many recent lies and more TT has given me some peace that is the right thing to do. I can't stay in that toxic environment, and I can't help someone who won't help himself.


You can crawl back home, say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard and cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted!

Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, February 28th (Friday)

You''re doing the right thing, friend. You are strong and fierce!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2080 | Registered: Jan 2013
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, February 28th (Friday)

(((HUGS)))

You're not moving backwards anymore. You were swirling in an eddy, but now you're moving forward. We're here with you.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9819 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, February 28th (Friday)

When you're done, you know it. Sending you strength, honey. ((((mb))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25707 | Registered: Aug 2011
StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, February 28th (Friday)

(((movingbackwards)))


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2326 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
movingbackwards
Member
Member # 40612
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, February 28th (Friday)

Thanks everyone. It is much easier this time since I got the push I needed. Last time I left, I was questioning it the whole time and that made me give in and talk to him and come back. I do know now that I'm on the right path. It totally sucks, but it's the least shitty of all my options.


You can crawl back home, say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard and cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted!

Posts: 85 | Registered: Sep 2013
Pass
Member
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, February 28th (Friday)

It totally sucks, but it''s the least shitty of all my options.

And that''s how you know it''s the right one. I''m sorry that all you have are shitty options at this point. Eventually, the least shitty will show itself to also be the best.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2080 | Registered: Jan 2013
Starzjourney
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Member # 41287
Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, February 28th (Friday)

{{{Moving}}}---FORWARD

Posts: 146 | Registered: Nov 2013
Tripletrouble
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Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, February 28th (Friday)

Sending you strength and hugs. There is so much peace to be had from finding your way forward, even when it sucks.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
Virginiagirl
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Member # 41656
Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, February 28th (Friday)

There is something to be said for the clarity that comes when you gave them a second chance, and they can't come through. It still sucks but it will be easier for you to move forward now without the wondering, worrying about what ifs.

You're not moving backwards anymore. You were swirling in an eddy, but now you're moving forward.

^^couldn't have said it better! now you have a direction


Me- BS-43
Him-WS-42
Married 15 years, living together 20
DDay May 2013
TT ongoing
2 kids, 10 & 15
OW- old girlfriend from High School, and now umpteen stupid groupie local ho-bags

We are done.


Posts: 179 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: utah
Topic Posts: 10