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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, March 3rd (Monday)

Well that was a weird dream. God knows what it means.

I was sleeping with SO IRL last night too, and really enjoying having him close after a period of being apart. We had had a very peaceful evening.

In the dream I lived with a woman, we were roommates and shared the same bedroom like we were in a college dorm type situation to save money on rent.

I had a girlfriend stay over and fell in love with her. She was someone I used to know IRL, a beautiful delicate Danish blond woman with an accent. I wanted us to be lovers and we slept in the same bed. My roommate was furious with me for having her over.

Then I realized I would have to break up with SO and I dreaded telling him. Then I realized I would have to confess to my SI friends that I was now a WGF and I dreaded that too.

How crazy is all that?


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, March 3rd (Monday)

Dreaming about what we fear OR desire is fairly common. I can understand the discord, though, because my dreams are rarely that lucid--more like Salvador Dali than Lifetime Movie

I had a very lucid dream last night, but it was something I desired rather than feared. It woke me up wondering too... Must be something in the air.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

I have really mundane dream fights then wake up angry because they felt so real. It makes no logical sense, but even in a dream world you can't control normal physiological reactions like anger, fear or guilt.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

Is it something that you would do IRL? If it's not I would just let it go. Dreams can get really wonky. I had a dream that I had a


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

Is it something you would do IRL? If not, then I don't think it's something to worry about.

My dreams can be really wonky. I woke up the other day and I had dreamed about my new BF .. and I even knew his name!! He took my daughters and I to a local ballgame. I am not even dating!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

I am glad I am not the only one who views SI as my living conscience!

There are many times when I think "I can't wait to tell SI!" and the times when I think, "uhhh, I don't want to tell SI..."


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

It's not something I would do IRL at all. I think it is more a reflection of a collection of inner personas I carry: the roommate who was mad, the pretty Danish woman, and me as the lover and betrayer. The SO is a persona too in the dream. SI is of course my conscience. The one that will not let me get away with, 'it just happened!'.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5863 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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