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soloney
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, March 6th (Thursday)

I found out about the EA in April 2013. At the time I contact the OW and told her it's not ok for her to communicate with my husband (or any married man). She said they were just friends, blah blah blah, yeah right because friend text eachother naked pictures. She also said that she has a bf who she is going to marry. At the time I didn't care about that guy at all.

Fast forward 10 months and I found out the EA was physical after all. My H (at the time living together bf) stayed at her house on 3 occasions, and they did have sex. This all happened in 2011, she had the same bf at the time.

So now I've been thinking if I should tell this guy or not. I know his name and his facebook, I could send him a message on there. Since this all happened a while ago should I still tell him. Another point, I do not know if they did get married or if they are even still together. Any thoughts or suggestions?


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Newme123
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, March 6th (Thursday)

The general consensus on SI is to tell and I agree. If they new and you didn't, would you want them to tell you? I know I would.


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Posts: 74 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Texas
TrulySad
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Member # 39652
Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, March 6th (Thursday)

If I was him, I'd want to know. I've never regretted finding out the truth. And the sooner, the better. Looking back, there are so many things I would have done different, had I had the truth.


Me: Done with his bullshit and getting stronger day by day

Posts: 424 | Registered: Jun 2013
4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, March 6th (Thursday)

Agreed - If it was me, I'd want to know. Tell him!


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Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
kalimata
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Member # 42104
Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, March 6th (Thursday)

Lack of exposure is probably what got you the trickle truth from your husband (sending naked pictures to someone who is only an EA? PLEASE)

Expose high and wide. To anyone who will listen. I would definitely expose on Facebook. Before doing so first friend ALL of her friends on FB. Then on the day of exposure just start messaging each of her close friends some proof of the affair. Just be careful not to message more than 1/min otherwise Facebook will block it as spam.

To see if they got married, check the county clerk's records. Or else FB itself sometimes people post their marriage pics

Good luck


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