Monster62 - I am trying not to focus on my hopes and stay focused on her healing. She said this is absolutely what she wants for her.
I hope this family vacation is the first of many shared activities that will serve as healing for you and your BW. And while you do need to be realistic about what this really means in terms of R and you need to be "in the moment" with your BW, I still feel that having some faith and hope is important.
Hope you have a happy holiday.
If you have lost hope, hold onto faith. When faith deserts you, hold onto sheer stubbornness and pigheadedness - HUFI.