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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

OMG im so frustrated right now. Fws and I had the dumbest argument ever last night! I wish had a camera crew so I could just play back all of his arguments with him telling me how I dont care about him, im not there for him, or I dont support him. Its all bullshit. True, I may be a bitch from time to time because of a LOT of built up anger and frustration. Never once though have I not been there for him when he's needed me, never not supported his dreams (in fact did everything I could to push him towards them) and HE KNOWS I care about him more them ANYTHING! I think he just does this crap to avoid the actual issue.He says those things to try and take my mind off the subject at hand and go into a whole other argument. I just wish he could see what the hell he is doing...Then again im sure he'd say the same for me. I have every right to feel the way that I do because of the things hes done.

Im sure its very common for fws to throw a disagreement off topic to avoid the actual issue...but I hope im not alone here.




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Ivyivy
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

You are not alone. I have been there and am still there depending on the day. I think it is how WS justify what they did in their own mind.


Me -BW
Him - WH
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DS - 11 and DD - 15

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

This is an email he just sent me..

"but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend. im sorry about the hurtful things i said last night. please forgive me. hope you have a good day. love you"




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Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend

To quote my 13-year-old, "What an ass-wagon!"

Just try to comprehend it, arsehole. Just a little effort, that''s all.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

Lol I caught that too, When I first read it, I read it as..."more then you'll ever be able to comprehend"...

Makes maybe a little more sense that way.

I am happy though that he did take the time out to apologize the best he could comprehend...at least he realizes he was being an "ass-wagon"




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MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

Two words: Nanny cam.

(No, not for revenge or I-toldja-so, so you can have a record of what your fights look like, so you can SEE what and how they work - so you can [maybe] repair the problems. Try very, very hard not to become "virtuous" in fighting once you have it. Remain who you were so you can *really* help yourself. It's not about him, not really.)


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, March 8th (Saturday)

Exactly...I understand that it DOES take TWO people to correctly R. The cam will benefit both of us, if we choose to use it in a constructive manner!!

Im seriously thinking about looking into it....We just started CC and IC counseling, so hopefully that helps the communication and not so being defensive!




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