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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, March 9th (Sunday)

It actually went really well. I was my usual nervous and neurotic self. He was very nice, and I really like him. We met at a really casual place for wings, and stayed to talk for a couple of hours.

I'm not sure what to think, because he's quite a bit younger than me, and in a different place in life. However, he was intelligent, mature, well read, and ambitious.

It was the most "normal" date that I've ever had. I guess that's a sad commentary on my life. Great kiss at the end of the date.

The best part : I got carded. Hey, I realize that they must card everyone, but I'm taking it for what it is and calling it an overall good night!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Brave woman, wings on a first date. I'd be wearing them...

He sounds nice. And *normal*.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, March 9th (Sunday)


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Normal is good; I'm happy for you.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

It's nice to have a good one sprinkled in every once in a while to keep up hope -- glad you had a nice time!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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travels
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

I agree with FaithFool wings + me = a mess.

Normal is alway wonderful.


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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Glad you had fun, normal is always good:) what is carded?


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
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persevere
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Happy for you WM.

Even if the differences, esp place in life, mean the romantic part doesn't work out having a good friend come out of it wouldn't be all bad. And the experience reminds you what a "normal" date should be.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

MyVoice, carded is checked for ID. The drinking age in my stTe is 21. I'm 45. I think they're supposed to card anyone that appears to be under 30.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Yeah!!!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Sounds great! Good for you!


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Why??
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

Woo-hoo! Spring is springing


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, March 10th (Monday)

But the real question is, does he have respectable taste in beer?


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Happy for you. I guess there is hope.


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Yay for a great first date! Any plans for a second date??

I love it when I get carded!


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Yes, there are plans for a 2nd date.

He wanted to see me yesterday, but I told him that I just want to ease into this a bit and take our time. He was OK with that, but has been randomly texting, so that's fine.

It's funny because I want a relationship, just not a 24/7 all consuming one. I think it projects that I'm not interesting in a relationship.

I tried to explain to him that I don't really know what I want, but I know for sure what I DON'T want. It's a learning process for me.

He asked me about my worst date ever, so I told him about my date with Captain Coupon. At least that date had some value to make us both laugh.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Glad it went well!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, March 14th (Friday)

And an update:

Seeing him again tonight. He's bringing steaks to my house. He said he would cook if I provide the grill.

Yikes. I'm nervous.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Make sure there is a bit of alcohol so you will relax and be your wonderful self

Have fun!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, March 14th (Friday)

A man is bringing his meat to your house. Heh! Sorry I couldn''t resist!

Have fun tonight!

[This message edited by cayc at 1:11 PM, March 14th, 2014 (Friday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, March 14th (Friday)

@cayc -

Have fun, Williesmom.


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Sitting here at work smiling for you. Have fun tonight. I mean it!

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 2:18 PM, March 14th, 2014 (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, March 14th (Friday)


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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, March 14th (Friday)


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Thanks, cayc! I'll take that exactly as it was intended.

I would like to leave work a little early to go home and shovel out my house a little bit.

And also let the dogs outside to get rid of some energy. It's not cool for them to be jumping on new young guy. That's my job!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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