New Beginnings
User Topic: Got some mojo to spare?
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

I posted about three weeks ago about receiving a great job offer in another state... I finally decided I'm going to go for it. Ack!

I contacted my attorney; she helped me word an email to ex-asshat to let him know of my intentions. He has 10 days to respond and file something with the court. She said in light of the facts (no CS for over five years; a job offer that will better support the bunch; bananas he never sees and by now, who want nothing to do with him; him violating our MSA by moving 17 times and only notifying me a few times, including an out of state move and not telling me until he was driving there), even if he did decide to drag me into court, he wouldn't have much of a leg to stand on.

Day one is down... if you could send some mojo so the next nine go as well, that would be great. The bunch and I are on pins and needles waiting!

Thank you!

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15413 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, March 9th (Sunday)


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2707 | Registered: Jan 2010
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, March 10th (Monday)

I'm not sure how good my mojo is, but I'm pulling for you and hoping for the best

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20281 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Loads of mojo headed your way!

Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.

Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Member # 12908
Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, March 10th (Monday)

M O J O !!!

Much luck!


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9188 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Sending tons of mojo your way, WB!

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, March 10th (Monday)

You are sooooo not getting out of hosting a G2G by moving.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 4:40 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Mojo sent

Hope he keeps quiet for you to get the green light to go. Best of luck.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1360 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Mojo mojo mojo!!!

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, March 10th (Monday)

MOJO, MOJO - nine days' worth!!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2381 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Sending mojo

You are sooooo not getting out of hosting a G2G by moving.

and this ^^^^^


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52587 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Major mojo!!! Fingers and toes crossed for you and the bunch.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25717 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Don't worry...the Avocadhead g2g will prevail!

Thanks all!

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15413 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, March 10th (Monday)

So glad that you decided to go for it!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7763 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, March 10th (Monday)

So happy you are going for it too!!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4183 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, March 10th (Monday)

You've got it all, nanners.

In bunches!

Geez, when I read about what an ass this guy has been, I can't imagine any judge saying no.


Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21068 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Good luck. Go for it.

ME-BH (52)
HER-WW (52)
Married 16 years,
together 20years
One beautiful daughter.
DDay #1 - 06 Apr 2011 EA
DDay #2 - 01 Feb 2012 PA

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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, March 10th (Monday)

mojo sent!!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Mojo all the way!

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 32616
Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Sending mojo. I'm so proud of you for having the courage to do this for you and your girls!

Posts: 3445 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Must Survive
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, March 10th (Monday)

Mojos to you and the bunch!

WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

Posts: 781 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, March 10th (Monday)

So ex-asshat contacted... our oldest, BananaBoy20, about the move and not me. BB texted me to give me a heads up and said ex-asshat didn't seem happy.

How old are we again?

As my attorney texted to me... "Knowing your kids are relatively close by doesn't make you a good father. What a dumbass."


[This message edited by wildbananas at 9:04 PM, March 10th (Monday)]

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15413 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Member # 1330
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, March 10th (Monday)

All possible mojo headed your way. Hope everything goes splendidly.


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 29662 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, March 10th (Monday)

Sending you so much mojo that ex-asshat will feel like he is having a hot flash.

There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1666 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 32943
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, March 10th (Monday)

Mojo! With lots of good wishes!

Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 7685
Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, March 10th (Monday)


Red Headed Imps 10 & 8
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09

Posts: 2290 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, March 10th (Monday)

All sorts of MOJO!

Good luck to the whole bunch!

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 8459 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)

Sending mojo your way!!!

BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5857 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)

Sending MOJO your way.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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