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madnessinmarch
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Default  Posted: 2:09 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

Triggers. My bf had his fbuddy come to his house the froom for the most part was the guest room which is right across from "our bed" I can barely walk past that room, and to think we had sex there while he was "doing her". There are so many triggers I wish he had fkd her in the basement Triggers are the worse


Madness dd March 2013


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mesoSTUPID
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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

Yep, triggering sucks big donkey dicks! However, dealing with triggers gets better over time so hang in there. I wish I could give you a suggestion as to how to deal with the fuck room, but other than for you both to move, I don't know what to say.


ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

Posts: 193 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Miami
mesoSTUPID
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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

DOUBLE POST! :(

[This message edited by mesoSTUPID at 4:21 AM, March 13th (Thursday)]


ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

Posts: 193 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Miami
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 2:55 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

Bedroom, guest room, basement....

The fact that she walked the floors of that house will almost certainly cause you to trigger, that's a given.

My WH screwed her in my car, the couch in the basement, and my bed! She walked the floor of my house, sat her ass in his car and in his office ~ Soooooo:

- I traded in my car for a brand new one
- I got rid of the couch
- I replaced the bed, bedding, and all bedroom furniture
- I sold the house
- I made him trade in his brand new car (only 3mo old) and buy another one
- I made him find a new job, in a new state 1600 miles away.

I am a big advocate of eliminating triggers. Ask him to sell the house.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 5:41 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)


..@RidingHealingRd..

..too bad you can't find a way to lop off his dick and order a 'new one'..

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4125 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

My WH screwed her in my car, the couch in the basement, and my bed! She walked the floor of my house, sat her ass in his car and in his office ~ Soooooo:

- I traded in my car for a brand new one
- I got rid of the couch
- I replaced the bed, bedding, and all bedroom furniture
- I sold the house
- I made him trade in his brand new car (only 3mo old) and buy another one
- I made him find a new job, in a new state 1600 miles away.


I think I would have traded HIM in, instead. That would have been a lot less trouble.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1765 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
BPhoenix
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)

The triggers truly suck. WH had several partners in our van, I have to see their location at the hotel if I want to use the commissary on post, and part of me thinks he probably had them in our bed. Thankfully we got a new bed before dday.

NeverAgain is so right, being rid of them would be a lot easier lol.


Me - BS 28
Him- WH 28 (TheBatCave)
1 amazing 5yr old
DDay 2/6/14 TT still going on:


Posts: 23 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: East coast
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, March 13th (Thursday)

smy...

..too bad you can't find a way to lop off his dick and order a 'new one'..

During my "raging" there were days that I almost did.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2109 | Registered: Nov 2011
confused615
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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, March 13th (Thursday)

Mine was our family van. On dday I told him to get it the fuck gone or I would set it on fire. I was serious.

The van was gone that day.

I admire your style, RidingHealingRd.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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