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Member # 11061
Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, March 14th (Friday)

It's not a bad thing. Just...unexpected.

I honestly thought babies weren't in the cards for me. My XH and I were "not careful" for 8 years and I didn't even have as much as a scare. SO and I are "not careful" for 3 months and here we are. (We've been together for 6 years, but have just recently taken birth control off the table).

I have to say, SO reacted much better than I thought he would. Obviously we knew it was possible, with the "not careful" and all, but I really thought he would be a little more panicked. Nope. I panicked for him.

Anyway, it's early days and we're not up for telling people IRL yet, but I had to tell someone, so I came here

Me (BS): 35


Posts: 1456 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: a little bit of everywhere
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Congrats!!! I know the feeling though. Your not as giddy as everyone else yet lol. I feel like the bad guy sometimes

Me "Oh yeah, thanks"

Posts: 271 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Congratulations, bluelady!

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, March 14th (Friday)


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24595 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 14th (Friday)

Congrats bluelady! Sometimes the biggest surprises are the best ones. I didn't plan either of my children, we were so young, but I wouldn't trade them, or the memories, for anything in the world. ((bluelady))

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 12041
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, March 14th (Friday)

I'm with perservere. Didn't plan my kids, but life planned them for me. And what a wonderful life it is . Congratulations!!

“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, March 14th (Friday)


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, March 14th (Friday)


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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Congratulations. Glad SO didn't panic ... that should come later, when the size of the task becomes clearer.

We were always careful, and we started planning for our kid after a pregnancy test came back positive. so is that planned or unplanned?

I well remember our quiet ride home after hearing the news - neither of us knew what the other was thinking or feeling, and we were using public transportation, so we couldn't talk freely.

Parenthood turned out to be immensely more joyful than we expected, and I hope it does for you, too.

One kid for us, BTW - we're both first-borns....

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10352 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 39134
Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Congratulations bluelady!

You are entering a whole new world of love!

DD 1 - 7/7/2004
DD 2 - 10/31/2011
DD 3 - 4/30/2013(or continuation?)(Yes)
DD 4 - 9/25/2013
DD 5 - 2/15/2014 (found phone from 2009)

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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, March 15th (Saturday)


Rule of thumb I learned in med school;

Penis in vagina equals baby maybe!

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Dark Inertia
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Omg, congratulations!! I am a year older than you and just threw away the BC pills this last month. I hope I get pregnant just as quickly.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 6:36 PM, March 15th (Saturday)]

"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1281 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, March 15th (Saturday)


Nothing quite as nice as a sleepy newborn snuggling your shoulder.

Parenting has been one of my greatest joys, I wish you both much joy parenting your baby.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5264 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 32046
Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Didn't plan our third kiddo. I was 34 when he was born and I swear that kid saved me through all the crap that has happened in the last few years. He can make me laugh no matter what kind of day I am having. I didn't know I wanted a third child, but I am so glad he came along. Sometimes the biggest blessings in life are things we never even knew we wanted.


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 11061
Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Thanks for the well wishes!

I broke down and told my best friend this afternoon. She was quite excited - probably more-so than I am. My family can be overwhelming (to say the least), so I'm still waiting to tell them. SO isn't very close to his family, so I'll leave the decision to tell them up to him.

If I'm calculating right, I think I'm about 5 weeks along right now. I didn't realize symptoms came on quite this quickly. I had to force myself to eat today. The thoughts of food had my stomach doing flip flops.

Dark Inertia, I'll have my fingers crossed for you!

Me (BS): 35


Posts: 1456 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: a little bit of everywhere
Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, March 15th (Saturday)

Pass some of that baby dust my way! Congratulations! Pregnancy lasts a long time so you have time to get over the shock & get excited!

We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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