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hope2014
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, March 17th (Monday)

My WH moved out on friday night at my request. He frankly seems overjoyed by my decision to kick him out and move for a divorce as soon as possible. He after all is simply too much of a coward to address the problems we were having so he chose to have an A to ensure that I would make the decisions that he is too cowardly to make.

I've asked him repeatedly when he wants to see his kids this week. I've asked him for a proposed visitation schedule and how involved he would like to be in our 6-year-old's birthday. while he has basically ignored all of these questions, he feels that it is appropriate and evidently necessary to text me pictures of dresses that he is considering getting her for her b-day and Easter WHILE I'M AT WORK. I don't know if he is doing it because he doesn't like shopping alone. Or he is simply doing it to screw with me, but it is frustrating. I finally reminded him that I'm at work and need to work, which stopped the texted pictures of dresses. But I really should not have needed to tell him that.


Me - BS; 35
Him - WH; 34
Married - 15 years
2 Kids - Agess 3 and 6
DDay - 2/26/14

Posts: 49 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio
sleepless34
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Member # 40274
Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Sounds familiar. My stbx also seemed like he wanted me to end it when he told me about his a, because he didn't want to appear like the asshole that left his wife and kids for some whore. Cowardly is exactly how I have described him.

You are not his friend, you don't need to text with him. Give him crickets. Don't engage, it only makes it more painful.

HUGS


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
Leia
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Member # 42510
Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, March 17th (Monday)

Hugs and I hear you, too. I can't get a schedule either. Found out that STBXWH is already planning DS's bday in may, and we don't even have a custody agreement in place and we haven't been to court for one, either.

It helped me to block STBXWH from my phone. Perhaps block him during work hours when he doesn't have the kids? Worked well for me, and might work for you, too.

Hang in there.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
hope2014
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Member # 42707
Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)

My "poor" H cannot formulate a plan to save his life to accomplish anything. I finally sent him a proposed visitation schedule yesterday for the remainder of the week to which he agreed. Of course, it was a schedule that was convenient for me, but that is what happens when H cannot make plans or do anything other than what he wants to do at that very minute.


Me - BS; 35
Him - WH; 34
Married - 15 years
2 Kids - Agess 3 and 6
DDay - 2/26/14

Posts: 49 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio
Topic Posts: 4