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EB1541
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Member # 42143
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, March 20th (Thursday)

I think my husband and I might finally be in true R. I realized the whole time before this it was false R. He is trying and shows it regularly.

So last night he was on Facebook, and everytime I see him one there I can't help but worry he is messaging girls or they are messaging him. Usually when I ask to see his phone he gets very defensive and mad. But this time he said I can tell you don't trust me, and I just want you to know I am never going to betray you again. So he gave me his phone and let me see everything. He was very sincere in what he said. I know that this is just the first step, but it's nice to be actually moving.forward. I had my first IC last week. I was so confused and was sure we would no longer have a future but this give me hope.

I think I finally WANT to try to rebuild trust again. I am done being mad,and letting it consume me.

I've realized I still love this man. Yes, he hurt me but I am now willing to forgive, with caution of course.

[This message edited by EB1541 at 12:55 PM, March 20th (Thursday)]


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
EB1541
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Member # 42143
Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, March 20th (Thursday)

I just read another post and I think Validation is what we were missing.


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
Breezy150
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Member # 42421
Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, March 20th (Thursday)

That sounds like a really good sign.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 539 | Registered: Feb 2014
swank
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Member # 42835
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, March 20th (Thursday)

That sounds wonderful. I hope I'll be where you are soon.

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: United States
deena04
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Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, March 20th (Thursday)

That is wonderful! Best wishes!!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 946 | Registered: Dec 2013
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