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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I should just stay out of posts that start with TMI...there are a few right now. Not always bother-some or legit TMI to me...but others, man.

Some of the TMI stuff, I look read as far as I can and slowly back out the door before being seen.

I am in no way saying anyone is wrong for posting their thoughts and ideas, that is not my intention.

I am really private, probably in a bit of a broken way. The sex-talk, vibrator chit-chat (killing me just to write that here) really makes my skin crawl.

Knowing I feel this way, why do I not just avoid the damn posts that say TMI? I should trust the poster...but noooo, it's like a train wreck, I have to go in to only run out like a 2 year old.

Anyone else have a difficult time with TMI posts? Or am I the only one?


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
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Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Yeah.What you said. Same.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, March 21st (Friday)

OMG, thank you Rebreather...I thought there was something wrong with me.

Well, something new wrong with me lol


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I have to go in to only run out like a 2 year old.


I'm reading TMI threads wondering if I'll ever be brave enough to share like that. Maybe it's a stiff upper-lip New England thing, karma?


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

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boontje
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 21st (Friday)

You're not alone. I work with teens and hear enough TMI during a typical school day, then check Facebook to find more, so I usually stay out of TMI threads for my own sanity.


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
― Ernest Hemingway



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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I don't feel there is anything wrong with you Karma, I feel we all are different in what we express. My thread on TMI is D/S was about me and what happened. I loved that people can go to that and post funny things and thoughts but not all of us are that way.

Don't feel like you are different. It took me ALLLOOONNNGGG time to get comfortable to be able to post something like that. But, it feels good I can/able to post and get feed back about something that bothers me in any sense of the form.


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DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012

Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I haven't even seen yours Faithful.... I think I need to go cold turkey and stay out of those lol


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I think the fact that we're (for the most part) nameless, faceless people helps loosen up the tongue.
I would NEVER tell close friends or relatives the stuff I posted in the TMI BOB thread, lol. I would die simply thinking about confessing that stuff.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, March 21st (Friday)

It took me a long time to figure out what a BOB was.
And I just don't click on the TMI threads - unless they're girl/PMS related. Not sure why.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's


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Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Ok, this is how clueless I am rachelc: BOB????


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, March 21st (Friday)

(battery operated boyfriend)


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I have to say thank god this place is ANONYMOUS!! I posted to some of those threads. Some very private stuff and some of it pretty graphic too. I don't think I would be able to discuss any of that in a public forum if I wasn't able to hide behind the anonymity of this place.

[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, March 21st (Friday)


..

..

we're (for the most part) nameless, faceless people

..my face has been plastered all over this site in the photo threads down in F&G..

..God knows who may have come in and said, "Holy shit...I know that guy!"

..and I've posted on a few threads some TMI that would make a sailor blush

..too late now!!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, March 21st (Friday)

that is true, yearsofpain. Two years ago I had a TMI issue, posted here and got tons of great advice... I wasn't alone, I realized.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's


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Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Thanks GabyBaby for enlightening me!!!!!


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I usually check out the TMI posts just to see if it''s something I can contribute to, but I usually back out quietly and move on.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I don't have a problem with them. I've posted in a few. I figure no one here will ever know who I am..so why not? If my answer/response on one of those threads helps anyone, Im ok with being bold.

I have talked about things here on SI that I would never talk about with anyone IRL. I am an incredibly private person. I have trouble letting people get to know me(trust issues..whodathunkit??). On here, I can let it all out, so to speak. It's freeing.


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FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I've gotten quite an education from some of the TMI threads. Even if it's about an issue that doesn't really pertain to me.....I'm always interested in learning about something new. I mean, I haven't gone into a *sex shop* in years and I don't browse the internet sex toy sites, so where else would I have learned that there are BOB's with ears....and that they are the most awesomest (supposedly) thing on earth?
The knowledge base on SI is just too vast for me to resist reading those threads. But notice, I said *reading*. Posting? Not so much.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Well I just have to state for FACT that my TMI thread would make anyone feel better with laughter! And I am glad to say that I for one am out of my shy phase now thanks to SI.... I say hell bells, other woman know what my wh private looks like and feels like so why be private anymore.. If he can put that out there then I can put my shit out there also on SI.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012

Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong


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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I, too, am uncomfortable with them. However, I still go in and read in case there is a legitimate question concerning whether certain things are normal or not. If I have experience with it, I answer (even though it makes me uncomfortable) if my answer might in some way make the poster feel he or she isn't the only one going through something. If it's just TMI with no question, I stop reading and don't post. I don't really find other people's sex lives or lack thereof amusing so I leave those to the people who do.

[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 4:22 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, March 21st (Friday)

All right. In honor of all of those out there like me, who aren''t speaking up, I will do the belly flop into the pool.

If I see TMI in the title, I''m there. Jump in with both feet. May not post, may not stay for long, but I head right on in with popcorn in hand.

Not, of course, that *I* would ever post TMI! (whistling, looking around, how ''bout them Chargers?)


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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I'm with Skan

I also think the site should consider changing its name to Surviving Infidelity and Life. I am so much more worldly now


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"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Well, I stay out of the girls/women TMI threads, and I back out of some of the sex ones quickly, but some of the TMI threads have been enlightening, and some have made me lighten up tremendously on a heavy day. (How can I forget a group of women updating their count of kegels for a few hours?)

Most of the TMI threads I've read have increased my respect and liking for the posters. I can't help thinking the posters show courage, honesty, and humor, and that's a very powerful and likable combination.


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DDay - 12/2010
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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Am I the only one doing this at the TMI stuff being recounted in the thread about how the TMI stuff is awkward and embarrassing?


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, March 21st (Friday)

If I see TMI in the title, I''m there. Jump in with both feet. May not post, may not stay for long, but I head rht on in with popcorn in hand.

Raising hand

I look also to see if someone's posting something.I can relate too but am too chicken to post we may anonymous, but I still feel like I can be seen when I post


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Am I the only one doing this <insert a lot of emoticons> at the TMI stuff being recounted in the thread about how the TMI stuff is awkward and embarrassing?

Yea, I notice that karma hasn't been back in a while.

Us SI'ers....we're like trying to herd wet cats into a bag, huh? So naughty.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Well, this is a site about infidelity, which involves deep feelings and sex. The aftermath is pretty lonely, particularly if S or D. And since everyone before was a couple before, and being a couple means you did couple things, it makes sense that the more rawer bits of those topics should be discussed. It''s not like any of us are virgins or anything. It''s a pretty self-selecting group here.

At least here it''s done in a matter-of-fact but respectful manner, which is a big deal, I think. Part of healing from infidelity, or getting into New Beginnings is going to be sexual healing (no, not the Marvin Gaye song)

I''m guilty of starting or t/j-ing some TMI threads myself, because I discuss things here I''d never discuss in person with a stranger or in any other site, even anonymously.

Which when you think about it it''s self-limiting since then you don''t have access to such a wealth of knowledge (maybe that''s why some of you lurk but read on anyway?). I think these topics are just part of the package of our situation. Having said that, I''m glad they''re labeled TMI - awkward to read on mobile at the supermarket or something, nice to know I can skip those for later.

I haven''t gone to a SI G2G yet ever, after posting all this. Hadn''t thought about it until now. Oh well, I''ll cross that bridge when I get there. I''ll probably practice my "So, how bout those Mets?" like Skan says.

If it ever happens, ladies, be gentle. I''m actually rather shy.


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BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I haven''t gone to a SI G2G yet ever, after posting all this.
I just have to comment on this. The very first g2g that I went to, I was frantically racing through all my past posts in my head, trying to remember all the potentially embarrassing things I might have posted about.

And you know what? None of it mattered. The SIers I met were so wonderful, accepting, warm, and friendly. What I had posted, what THEY had posted? None of it mattered. Truly.


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Karma gets caught hiding in the corner by Gonna

Actually very interesting pov's


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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LA44
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I actually don't go to TMI posts - maybe once? I looked at this one bc karma started it and bc it said t/j so I figured there wouldn't be TMI. There would be less....


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Karma gets caught hiding in the corner by Gonna

I'm just here to help, karma.


I was frantically racing through all my past posts in my head,trying to remember all the potentially embarrassing things I might have posted about.


I just *assume* that all anyone will remember is that my stbx is a douche, and that anything I've shared that is <too personal> in regards to me is forgotten in the avalanche of new posts/stories


And you know what? None of it mattered. The SIers I met were so wonderful, accepting, warm, and friendly.

And most of them posted with the same exact amount of embarrassing stuff as you did, right? (although I don't ever remember reading anything that would even be remotely embarrassing from you NIK).
My mantra has always been to "don't put it *out there* if you're not ready to acknowledge and defend/explain (if necessary)"....even if your only defense is "I know, right?"


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I always read them and feel like a perv. Especially when I want to reply with advice because we've been shopping at someplace like Goodvibes and for goodness sake, get a goddamn wevibe or check out askmen for advice on cockrings or something. THE INTERNET IS AMAZING FOR ANONYMITY.

Sometimes I can't help but respond, then never go back out of shame.

eta:

As for the G2G, it was pretty cool. I mean, I am about as monumentally stupid as you can get on the Internet and still be coherent and nobody called the cops or tried to shoot me. All in all SI people at a G2G are about as accepting as they come.

Also, Moo works for NASA and is 8 feet tall.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 10:33 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Also, Moo works for NASA and is 8 feet tall.

No he doesn't and no he isn't.....regardless of what the urban legends want you to believe.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I just have to comment on this. The very first g2g that I went to, I was frantically racing through all my past posts in my head, trying to remember all the potentially embarrassing things I might have posted about.
And you know what? None of it mattered. The SIers I met were so wonderful, accepting, warm, and friendly. What I had posted, what THEY had posted? None of it mattered. Truly.

Oh, yeah, I remember that well. To top it off, W & I were the only people in R at our first g2g.

It was OK, though. I posted about my discomfort ahead of time. Clarissa told me I could go as her, and someone else - I've forgotten who - told me no one would remember what I posted anyway....

Seriously, the water's fine.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Sigh, alright, I look sometimes. Haven't posted yet. I have to admit sometimes it feels like when I got caught by Mom looking at Playboy. I just couldn't convince her I was just reading the articles!

For real now. A lot of the TMI posts contain some pretty good ideas. Granted, the subject matter sometimes will make me , but for the most part, it's handled in a respectful manner.

FTR, we just go into the stores. There's something to be said for the tactile feel before you buy!

(and yet again, )


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, March 21st (Friday)

If you do go in and click on links, be sure to clear your cache and cookies afterwards....


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Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nolight
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, March 21st (Friday)

No they don't bother me because I don't read them. If they didn't have the TMI caveat I would be upset but it's my own fault if I choose to read them and am offended.

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Not in the slightest. BUT I am a college health doctor for over 15 years who has heard EVERYTHING.

There's the one with the girl who has found a really senitive "bump" down there...

And the naive virgin couple the week before their wedding who wanted me to explain "how to do it"... (I sent them to Barnes and Noble )

And the girl who literally said to me "when all my friends go down on me they say I taste bad"...

So you people just keep on bringing your TMI threads! I am impervious!


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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LydiaE
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

I agree with the OP.

I am no prude and am a member other forums with material more explicit than seen here.

I do think it is in bad taste to post about your orgasms and vibrator use on a forum where people are hurting, triggering, and need advice and support. It seems like
attention-seeking behavior and is, obviously, overtly sexual.

Questions regarding sexual difficulties can be discussed tactfully and without using derogatory wording.

Also equally distasteful is creating nicknames with variations of "tard" in them.


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Karma gets caught hiding in the corner by Gonna

I'm just here to help, karma.

Thanks Gonna, I really need to release the inner TMI girl....

Skan this killed me

If I see TMI in the title, I''m there. Jump in with both feet. May not post, may not stay for long, but I head right on in with popcorn in hand.


NIK

The very first g2g that I went to, I was frantically racing through all my past posts in my head, trying to remember all the potentially embarrassing things I might have posted about.

You, embarrassing? Never...
These responses really have me laughing though...

On a serious note, some TMI questions are needed and helpful, I just have to leave some of those things to the sexperts...I will never claim to be one of those

Dr. PJ, I shudder at some of the stories you must have locked away and bet they make some great conversations around the dinner table....um... sometimes.

I am not offended by the posts, I think I am just TMI akward. Maybe we should hold a class.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

I am always willing to read and post on the tmi threads.
I think if someone has a legit question or concern it should be addressed. I know lots of folks are embarrassed and would certainly be mortified to bring it up with their medical professionals or friends. Funny thing is most everything folks bring up is pretty normal stuff. TRUST ME!!!!

Havering worked in the land of endoscopy and tush nursing. You all are perfectly normal. Now of you wants to know how to remove a 3" Kong dog toy from someplace that's not normal but I've done that too!


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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Now of you wants to know how to remove a 3" Kong dog toy from someplace that's not normal but I've done that too!


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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Maybe it's a stiff upper-lip New England thing, karma

Heh, heh... you said "stiff" in a TMI thread.


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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, March 22nd (Saturday)

^^^SNURK!

Actually, I can''t wait until a G2G meeting happens around the San Diego area. Trouble is, I am far, far more eloquent in writing than in person.


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Default  Posted: 4:57 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

I've gotten quite an education from some of the TMI threads.

.....I'm always interested in learning about something new. I mean, I haven't gone into a *sex shop* in years and I don't browse the internet sex toy sites, so where else would I have learned that there are BOB's with ears....


I'm like Gonnabe. I was incredibly naive when I was young, but thought I'd learned a lot in the many decades since then. However, SI has taught me a ton of still more interesting stuff that I didn't know and would never have been brave enough, or sometimes would never even have thought, to ask. And I am really grateful to all the members who have enlightened me, whether in the TMI threads, or elsewhere. (Just the other day, I found the thread about shaving really informative and reassuring.) It seems to me that the "TMI" designation is sufficient to warn those who don't wish to be thus enlightened to scroll on by. And even without it, there is no requirement that a thread, once opened, must be read in its entirety. (If there were, I'd long ago have been cast into SI's outer darkness....)


Actually, although I share Gonnabe's feelings, I am apparently in even greater need of the SITMI threads than she is. Because I have to confess that I've never been inside a *sex shop*. They didn't exactly abound in my hometown. Like most readers, I was highly entertained by JRazz's infamous "What the housekeeper saw" thread. But I was also intrigued. I hope sex shops don't have upper age limits. Because I have told my husband that we need to look for one (a very long way from where we live) so that we can find out more about, and purchase, one of these collections of mysterious toys, that are apparently in the possession of every other couple but us!


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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

Ooh the perv in me likes reading the TMI threads

But could someone tell me whT a g2g is??

I thought it was got to go... But doesn't fit in context??


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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

g2g= get together

check out the "Fun & Games" forum for a peek at the regional SI g2g.


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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

I hope sex shops don't have upper age limits.

True story:

JM and I went to the one closest to us on Valentines Day to get lube and some new toys and we were the oldest people in there by at least a decade, if not 2. It was HILARIOUS. We were walking around, trying to make eye contact with all these kids who were looking at the floor, the ceiling, anywhere but us. I seriously wanted to walk around starting random conversations about the products, what was best, etc, but I decided to act like a grownup for once.


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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

but I decided to act like a grownup for once.


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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, March 29th (Saturday)

JM and I went to the one closest to us on Valentines Day to get lube and some new toys and we were the oldest people in there by at least a decade, if not 2. It was HILARIOUS. We were walking around, trying to make eye contact with all these kids who were looking at the floor, the ceiling, anywhere but us. I seriously wanted to walk around starting random conversations about the products, what was best, etc, but I decided to act like a grownup for once.

http://youtu.be/sQuYKmiyHYg

^ Not kid safe but appropriate in context

[This message edited by StillGoing at 10:40 AM, March 29th (Saturday)]


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