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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I am posting here because I am very stressed. I don't have the ability to be unstressed and I am afraid I will be upset with people.

I never had this problem before but I guess it is another gift from the divorce.

I suppose this shall pass. Thanks I just needed to get it out.


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WarpSpeed
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Member # 32051
Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Hang in there. Don't know what is causing your stress but wanted you to know you're heard.


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1491 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, March 21st (Friday)

I just want you to know that you've been heard fireproof. Hang in there. Maybe go out for a walk or get some ice cream or something.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, March 21st (Friday)

(((fireproof)))

Vent it all out to us. Sending you strength and hope for better days.


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fireproof
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Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Thank you all. I had a really blessed life and I know it is different now.

I have to be grateful and appreciate being married to my best friend but it wasn't meant to be.

I guess I posted so this thought wouldn't attach to a difficult day.

Tomorrow will be better. Truly thank you. It is me and I know it is me. One foot in front of another.

[This message edited by fireproof at 8:07 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Hang in there, fireproof. You're in my thoughts.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7655 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
mixedemotions
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, March 21st (Friday)

Maybe type or write out things you want to say, just to vent it out without actually hurting anyone's feelings? I used to think that was trivial and pointless, but I've really found it so helpful, especially when I'm at those near breaking points. I pretend I'm going to give them the letter, but I know deep down I won't, that way I write it as if it's to them but since I'm not giving it to them I can be brutally honest.

I also think certain people are really understanding when someone says something to the effect of "I'm really dealing with a lot right now, I'm going to do my best not to get upset with you but wanted to say up front that I'm pretty frazzled" ...sort of humanizes you and connects you with that person in what could be an otherwise polarizing/isolating experience

But, if you're not dealing with safe people then that could backfire....that's when I just vent to other people instead.

At any rate, you're safe here and you're heard!


Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie

Posts: 382 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Back in the Southeast!
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, March 22nd (Saturday)

Today was a better day. I just relaxed about life.

Everyone expresses caring differently and knowing they are there is key.

I was reminded that it is a matter of getting use to people. Overtime it will happen or maybe an understanding.

Thank you- it really helped. I think it is really hard to sit with discomfort and believe but it is possible!


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