New Beginnings
User Topic: Huh. Well look at that...
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

A few years ago, I ended R with wxbf. He wasn't giving me what I needed to hear. That night seems so long ago. I remember the gut wrenching pain I was in that night, the loving support of members here, the absurdity when he offered to show up at my place naked "if it would make me feel better". The chorus of members saying, "wth" and "what a douche", now makes me laugh. Love SI support!

For a longtime, I wasn't ready to date. It was more important for me to focus on my healing. When guys would ask me out, I would get an anxiety attack and be nauseous. Now? The thought of dating doesn't give me an anxiety attack and I don't feel like I am going to throw up. I'm ready to put myself out there again. Nice and slow. No rushing into anything. Just believing in fate. If I'm meant to be with someone, it will happen when the time is right.

Happy Thursday!

Posts: 35147 | Registered: Mar 2011
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

This is great!!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4166 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

Posts: 25305 | Registered: Aug 2011
Faithful w/Love
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, March 27th (Thursday)


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, March 27th (Thursday)


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52153 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

What a great attitude! This gives me so much hope.

Good luck out there!

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4158 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, March 27th (Thursday)


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Member # 4286
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date.

Sounds like you have a good plan going here. Driving the sedan of dating, not the hot rod that spins off the road into a fiery crash. Fire is bad.

Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink

Posts: 3080 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
Member # 31094
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

Posts: 3381 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

Love it.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17307 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, March 27th (Thursday)

me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."

Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

Not anxiously vomiting is a nice attribute in a date.

Omg. You made me laugh & snort! Yep that's attractive.

Posts: 35147 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

I love the heading for this. Almost as if feeling ready to date was something that you came across while cleaning up your desk. "Well look at that, didn't even realize I had misplaced that ready to date thing. Huh, guess I might as well dust it off and see if it still works..."

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3130 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Sad in AZ
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

Spring is in the air

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20153 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

Yay, jo!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3604 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

Does this mean *I* can show up at your house naked now? I've been holding off until you were ready.

“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

LMAO!!!!! @Threnody

Posts: 35147 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

ditto, LMAO @ Thren.

I do love this post.

Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5816 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1632 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

This kind of post just makes my day. So glad your healing is progressing so nicely :)

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo

Posts: 3354 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, March 27th (Thursday)

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15393 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 4:08 AM, March 28th (Friday)

Good for you.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5067 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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