Lawyer lawyer lawyer lawyer.
My state has done away with alimony entirely, except for very specific circumstances (over 10 years of marriage AND reparative.... Like if they spent 80k on school out of family money, or did XYZ with family money).
So, in my state, what usually happens is that
- Workimg parent gets both the house &80% to full custody (because they have the job to support them, and the house to live in)
UNLESS... Your lawyer works miracles.
In order to work miracles, they need to be in on the ground floor.
Once you start doing things in preparation for divorce, it changes the ENTIRE ball game (say you get a job, but don't file for 3 more years, her attorney can argue date of separation 3 years prior / bad faith).
So getting a job as a worst case, and trying to save your marriage can screw you.
Nothing about the law makes sense or is fair.
So do zip, nada, zilch, until you have an attorney to guide you through that maze.
Really. It's crazy-town. Where the shortest way from A to B is a double helix reflected on a spiral, folded in half, and swallowed by a chimpanzee.
Chesh"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother
Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam