SurvivingInfidelity.com Forums
New Beginnings
User Topic: I should have known better
fireproof
Member
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday)

I was misunderstood again

I feel defeated and I need to stay strong. What comes first staying strong or having your confidence?

I guess I just need to vent so I might actually go to sleep tonight.

This NB is full of surprises and unfortunately the past.

Here's to a few happier days


Posts: 972 | Registered: Jul 2012
homewrecked2011
Member
Member # 34678
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday)

I was misunderstood at work the other day...

It is difficult when all of this is wrapped up together,,, our confidence, being strong, putting our best foot forward each day,,

(((fireproof)))


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2120 | Registered: Jan 2012
abbycadabby
Member
Member # 27428
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

What comes first staying strong or having your confidence?

I could be wrong but I think it varies. Sometimes we are more confident than at other times. At times when we feel such defeat I think we try to stay strong until we get our confidence back. You know... the whole, "fake it till you make it" thing.

I'm sorry things are tough for you lately. Don't be defeated. Pick your awesome self up and keep moving forward!

(((fireproof)))

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 8:24 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)]


Posts: 1250 | Registered: Feb 2010
tabitha95
Member
Member # 22033
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

I get this. I'm a bit goofy and make jokes a lot of people don't get.

I've had to tell myself that as far as relationships go, I will be myself and that if someone doesn't "get" me, then they're not the person I should be with.


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3250 | Registered: Dec 2008
fireproof
Member
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Thank you for the positive messages.

Letting out a huge sigh is helpful.

There are over a billion people out there

One foot in front of the other


Posts: 972 | Registered: Jul 2012
Topic Posts: 5