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Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 4:23 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Good morning, New Beginnings Friends!

I am SO glad I can finally join you :-)

Whew!!!


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1609 | Registered: Dec 2012
seekingright2013
Member
Member # 37991
Default  Posted: 4:27 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome, Abbondad! Lots of encouragement and wisdom here, glad you made it!


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
“I tramp a perpetual journey.”
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Woo Hoooooo!!!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2583 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Have I mentioned how much I love it that your divorce was finalised on April Fools Day? I love it. Wish it was 2013 alas 2014 is better than 2015.

Welcome, friend. We're a nice bunch here. Mind the threads about pubic hair stylings and BOBs - you strike me as a raging blusher.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5546 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
wildbananas
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Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15391 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome AD


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Williesmom
Member
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome!

And welcome to the new life of Abbondad. You'll be fine.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7629 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
little turtle
Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome!!! I'm looking forward to hearing about your adventures as a divorced dad.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4165 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
getnbtr1
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Member # 40540
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

waving hi.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: CT
FaithFool
Member
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

SBB!

Dad, so glad you made it to our side. Mind your step.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17378 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Chrysalis123
Member
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Hello!!!!


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2669 | Registered: Jan 2010
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome to NB, AD!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25258 | Registered: Aug 2011
hexed
Member
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Hi AD

welcome to the next phase


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8440 | Registered: Apr 2008
Undefinabl3
Member
Member # 36883
Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)

So glad you are here!!! Let the NB's begin!


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Sep 2012
k94ever
Member
Member # 11176
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

If a thread here says TMI it really means TMI. Open at your own risk.

And welcome. We are fun, but not crazy

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6533 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
emmybear
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Member # 42934
Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Congrats! Here's to new beginnings



Posts: 12 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome AD!

You will like this forum, it is a place of continued healing and closure, and a fresh look at moving on into your own new future.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1169 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
ProbableIceCream
Member
Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

I just had this hilarious picture of you going through the plot of Escape by Rupert Holmes, except it's your XWW who shows up at O'Malley's and there's a record scratch and the song stops.

Sorry, I have a twisted imagination. Good luck with your new life!


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

Posts: 822 | Registered: Nov 2012
RavenWood
Member
Member # 39847
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome aboard!


BS: Me (30s)
WW: Her (30s)
10 year marriage with 2 small children.
Status: Divorced.
DDay: May 2013

Posts: 54 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
million pieces
Member
Member # 27539
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome!!!!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
fraeuken
Member
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

Welcome. After all the pain and drama, this is a great place to be. We do struggle and we do go a bit stir crazy at times, but for the most part the lemonade is flowing from all the lemons we were handed.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1253 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, April 4th (Friday)

Thank you for the warm welcomes, everyone!

you strike me as a raging blusher.

Au contraire, SBB. :-)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1609 | Registered: Dec 2012
velveteer
Member
Member # 30997
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, April 4th (Friday)

Ha! Welcome to the other side AD!! You'll like it here.


Divorced

Posts: 876 | Registered: Jan 2011
ProbableIceCream
Member
Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 4th (Friday)

It's actually a cycle.

Just Found Out -> Reconciliation (optional) -> Divorce/Separation -> New Beginnings -> Just Found Out -> ...

Sorry.. I enjoy dark humor.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

Posts: 822 | Registered: Nov 2012
Abbondad
Member
Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, April 5th (Saturday)


Just Found Out -> Reconciliation (optional) -> Divorce/Separation -> New Beginnings -> Just Found Out -> ...

God, I hope not! :-)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1609 | Registered: Dec 2012
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

Welcome good to see you hear at last 😀😀😀

I guess part of the healing in New beginnings is doing all we can to ensure we never end up In Just Found Out again.

My time here has helped me refind the person I lost in my marriage. She will never be lost again 😃😃😃

I have also taken time to ensure I was healthier and top notch At spotting red flags 😀😀😀

I wish these 2 things for you 😃😃😃

Can't wait to see how life unfolds for you.

Those of us with NPD ex spouses still have to deal with their
crap but from observation it seems that things generally calm Down once the divorces are final.

Wishing you and your 2 precious kids all the happiness you deserve.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
idkam
Member
Member # 18375
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

Here's a toast AD. Welcome to the other side.


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
Divorced

Posts: 1786 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
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