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cayc
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Content  Posted: 10:26 AM, April 4th (Friday)

Periodically people comment about not being ready to date and how they think they aren''t ready and that they wouldn''t date themselves so for the record and apologies for my momentary lack of humility but I would date me!!!!!!! I think I''m pretty awesome. I''m a good and loyal friend. I''m in great shape, well educated with a good job, lots of hobbies, intellectually curious and I don''t need to be handheld through life or emotionally propped up by someone else. Now if I could just find a guy who''s the same ....


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 4th (Friday)

Where's that fricken LIKE button when you need it?

WB


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James Taylor


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, April 4th (Friday)

I couldn't love this more, cayc. YAY!!!


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, April 4th (Friday)

cayc you're a rare find. it will take a rare man to deserve you.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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libertyrocks
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, April 4th (Friday)

Awesome! Ditto. Hey, wanna date me bc I'm awesome, too!! lol. Girl date. JK. Good for you!!! So glad you're at a place where you can say this. I know a year and a half ago, I was a trainwreck. lol. Dang, it's so good to be over them.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

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asurvivor
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, April 4th (Friday)

Good on you!!! Love to see positives posts.


I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.



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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, April 4th (Friday)

Excellent Cayc!!!!!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, April 4th (Friday)


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, April 4th (Friday)

HEll yeah Cayc. I feel the same damn way. I just never say anything because I don't want to look conceded. But, I am glad I am not the only one that feels this way.

Hell, I am beautiful, pretty fit, I tell truth, You can look at anything of mine because I don't hide anything. I love to cook and I love to cook with the mans help. I love who I am, I love my big heart and that I don't take shit anymore from NO ONE, I have a good job, I am loyal, I don't talk or try to judge anyone. I am independent, I like a challenge (working on things in house, car, ect), And I love to have fun... I love to laugh


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, April 4th (Friday)

I'd date you too. I mean that in an uncreepy way...


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, April 4th (Friday)

I"m with Ama, in a totally uncreepy way too

Wait….does that emoticon make it creepy?


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, April 4th (Friday)

Not as creepy as would have.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I agree with AMA, but I have to add: if you find that guy, make sure he has a brother for me!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

if you find that guy, make sure he has a brother for me!

And a younger brother for me....how fun would it be to be sister-in-laws with you lovely ladies. You'd be the best in laws ever.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

Love this. I have a window decal that a friend gave me that says that very thing. Haven't had the courage to put it on my car! But, heck it might be a good way to meet people


Just heard this encouragement the other night from a dating coach regarding finding someone terrific: "If you exist, he exists"


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

Late to this party. But just wanted to say:

Cayc, you rock!


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:51 AM, April 6th (Sunday)

Pfffft, please! I WISH I could find the male me! I would date him/me so fast. I'd marry him. And I'm NEVER getting married again!
I'm not conceited either. But hell, if my husband had had half the integrity and honor (well then he never would have cheated right) that I have, I could live with that half forever.
If he were as generous, fiercely protective and loyal, yep, that would be a real catch!
You rock cayc! Don't let his brokenness allow you to forget it either!

edited for misspelling

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:52 AM, April 6th (Sunday)]


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, April 6th (Sunday)

Great thread!


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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ChinaCat
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, April 6th (Sunday)

Love the topic! I would date me too :)


"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

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