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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I met a new guy that I like. We've been on 5 dates, and he's been the initiator each time. He's attentive without being overbearing. He's easy to talk to. And he's the first guy since xwBF that I've had any interest in at all. Most guys just disgust me. Like last night I had a guy flirting with me and I made some excuse to leave early because I had no desire to be around him. But I really like this new guy.

We had a date Thursday, and he invited me to go to the beach on Saturday to hang out with his friends. There's a group of ten people that are renting a house for the weekend. He said he would text me the details Friday night after he got there and talked to them about their plans. Well, I didn't hear anything from him yesterday. I was going to text him, but my female friend told me not to.

Should I text him today to see if he still wants me to come? I have mixed feelings. I hate games. But I also kinda feel like it's rude that he didn't either give me details or cancel with me.

If he texts today, should I still go? Or should I tell him that I made other plans since I didn't hear from him? I don't want to be bitchy, but I also don't want him to think its cool to just leave me hanging by the phone.

I might be looking too much into this. My xwBF stood me up one day when he was with OW, so I guess waiting by the phone is a sore spot for me.

Thoughts?


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notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I wouldn't text him.

Now as to what to do if he texts you today. I guess you'll have to decide how annoyed you are about him not texting last night. If he has a legitimate reason, maybe give him some leeway?

I don't know that I'd lie about making other plans. Just tell him you're not feeling like coming after all if that's the truth.

If you don't hear from him today I'd be pissed if I were you. Plans change unexpectedly, but there's no excuse for not communicating.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

Well, it wouldn't be a lie. I had a friend invite me to her house tonight for a movie. I'm not sure how long to give him to text me before I make other plans. I wonder if I'm being immature by thinking he should contact me first. If I make other plans and he texts me, will he not wonder why I didn't just text him about it?


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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I don't know why people make up so many "rules" about dating-- who can text first, who should call, how many days before you see each other again, do this, don't say that...

Games. No thank you.

If you want to text him and find out what's up then do that. If you want to make other plans so that you will definitely have something to do tonight, well do that. I just think it's so silly that you have to sit around basically in limbo because someone somewhere said he has to call first..


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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

To me, not texting when you have something to say is game playing. Text him and tell him you had expected to hear from him last night and did he still want to hang out today.

He''ll either respond yes or no with an explanation, in which case, fine. You can see him next week. Or he won''t respond. If that happens then you know he''s chickenshit and you can move on.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

Ok thanks. I'm probably just being overly sensitive from the time my ex stood me up. I guess I just don't want to look desperate or over eager, and I don't want to invite myself around his friends for the first time.


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absolut
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I don't think there's any games involved by not contacting him.

And there is a difference between silly dating rules like waiting some random number of days to return a phone calls and adhering to important personal boundaries. The second one really has nothing to do with dating anyway.

You're getting to know someone new. You still don't REALLY know him. He made plans with you and told you he'd call you to confirm. You haven't heard from him.

Don't ignore what he is communicating to you loud and clear (by his lack of communication).


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

He said he would text, but didn't.

Maybe the text didn't go through.
Maybe he texted the message to someone else by mistake (happens all the time) and the other person realized it wasn't for them and just ignored it.
Maybe there was an emergency.
Maybe he forgot.

I would send him a quick text saying something like, "hey new guy, Is everything ok? I think the way we left things was that you were going to text some details about tonight. Did something change, etc.? Hope everything is ok. Look forward to hearing from you."


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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I don''t think there''s any games involved by not contacting him.

It is if you have something to say, a question to ask. Sitting around wondering, hoping, being annoyed or any other negative emotion means you''re making yourself a sitting duck and playing a game when you don''t have to. And saying "he didn''t text, fuck him" is a zero sum game since you are acting and decision making unilaterally.

Just reach out. You''ll get an answer that will clarify what''s what. Or you won''t, which again clarifies. No more wondering. And you can hold your head high knowing that you were decent the entire time. You didn''t sit around like a teenager moping waiting for him to call. Instead, you were an adult who didn''t leave someone hanging.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

Yeah, I guess I keep flip flopping between whether it's playing games or setting boundaries. I despise playing games, and I never do stuff like waiting x amount of days before calling. But I also want to set good boundaries this time because I became a doormat with my ex. Setting boundaries is hard for me.

I think I'll wait until around 11, and then text him something like "hey hope you're having fun. Are you still wanting to hang out today? I'd enjoy it. If not though, I'm going to make other plans with some friends that are getting together. Let me know what you think."


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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

...sounds like a good plan. I'm hoping that there is a good explanation.


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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

I wouldn't text. I'd *call* him and ask what's up? If it goes to voicemail, tell him you're making other plans by noon if you don't hear from him.


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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, April 5th (Saturday)

If you want to text him and find out what's up then do that. If you want to make other plans so that you will definitely have something to do tonight, well do that. I just think it's so silly that you have to sit around basically in limbo because someone somewhere said he has to call first..

Absoeffinglutely to this. I just keep reading where folks are waiting around to see if he or she will call or text or whatever the hell. It seems to me, waiting around for someone you barely know to control what is happening in your life is not healthy. Call his ass and ask what is up my man, or simply go on with your life and find something else to do.


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nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

So, what happened?! :)


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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

No fair - I was also waiting to see what happened.

It's too late now to advise, but I would have said don't bother with him. And I'd also recommend the book "Why Men Love Bitches."

Has nothing to do with being a bitch but EVERYTHING to do with never allowing a man to be the central focus of your life. If someone says they'll contact you and they don't, then it's highly advised you continue living your life and making your own plans without skipping a beat - not sitting around hoping he'll call or worse yet, calling HIM and hoping to get an invitation.

Look, maybe his text did get misdirected. Big deal. Only 10 or so years ago people had to CALL other people and didn't have these silly childish texting excuses to fall back on when they needed an excuse for rudely not contacting when they said they would. Is the guy so lame that he thinks texting is the only way to communicate with people?

So no, I wouldn't have called him - or texted him.

But I would have NEXTED him.

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[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 3:55 PM, April 5th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

Has nothing to do with being a bitch but EVERYTHING to do with never allowing a man to be the central focus of your life. If someone says they'll contact you and they don't, then it's highly advised you continue living your life and making your own plans without skipping a beat - not sitting around hoping he'll call or worse yet, calling HIM and hoping to get an invitation.

Ditto this. Interested to hear the update as well.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

I ended up getting an invite from a female friend to go to the beach. I accepted, and then texted him that I was going to the beach with a friend and would be in the area if he still wanted to hang out. He replied about the house not having hot water, so I took that as a no. When we were driving there, he texted me his location. So we met up with him. He didn't introduce me to his friends though. We layed out on beach, and he got a drink with my friends. He was more quiet than he normally is. He kissed me and said he wanted to see me again.

Afterward my friend told me she didn't really like him cause she thought he didn't seem very attentive. So I have mixed feelings now. I never got an explanation for why he didn't call/text yesterday. I don't know if I was just reading too much into it. And he seemed different today than he is when we are alone.

I still like him, but I'm worried about my picker I guess. My IC told me that I pick damaged men. I hadn't seen any red flags until today, and I'm not sure if these are red flags.


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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

This my thought but maybe I am in the minority:

There are no guarantees- few people fully know themselves 100%.

That being said whether your picker may or may not be off or if they guy is not a potential partner is at this point unreadable.

Casually date and hang out with your girlfriends- time will tell. If he ends up worried about the hot water and not looking clean or he is a jerk you will be glad you spent time with him and your friends and gave things time.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

Yeah, I'm going to give it time. He's taking things super slow which I appreciate. Six dates now, and nothing more than small kisses. The thing I really like about him is that I'm myself around him. He doesn't judge me. I kinda felt like my ex put me on a pedestal and I was never good enough. With this new guy, I talk more openly about my past and we joke about our bad dates. It just seems more honest.

He made a comment about being the only non-lawyer, cause my two friends there today are attorneys like me. So maybe he was uncomfortable or nervous? Idk. I'm just scared of picking someone like my ex again where things seemed perfect when we were alone, but he didn't hang out with my friends and didn't invite me with his. I see that as a red flag now. So him not introducing me to his friends seems a little weird to me.


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nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

Thanks for the update. You've got a good read on the situation. Just keep keeping your eyes wide open. This wasn't a strong weekend for him for sure!


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DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, April 5th (Saturday)

but I'm worried about my picker I guess

I am too.

This guy has some flags flying.
*Stopping by* somewhere doesn't require that the stopping-by place have hot water. He invited you to hang out with his friends.....and then he didn't, kwim?

You and your friends were in the same area as him and his friends.....and it seems that he made the effort to keep the two groups separate. That is a flag. The fact that your friend made a negative observation about him is a flag.

I think you should have a "look dude, wtf?" conversation with this guy.


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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, April 6th (Sunday)

Oh yikes.

He made plans with you and didn't even bother to officially cancel. You had to call him to find out that you were being flaked out on. That is so inconsiderate of your time.

Then when you made plans to be in the same place he couldn't even introduce you to his friends?

The way I see it if this guy does keep dating you, you will be so miserable in a year you will look back and wish you had bailed at this waving red banner.


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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, April 6th (Sunday)

Yeah, he did keep the groups separate. It was awkward. My friend was sort of awkward too though. She brought a guy with her that I met for the first time. They kept going off alone and leaving me with him. I think maybe him meeting my friends for the first time and me meeting his friends for the first time may have been too much for one day. I want my next relationship to be one where friend groups mix though. So I'm going to keep my eyes open and take things slow. We added each other on Facebook last week, and I did some research on him. There was a post by his mom in June 2013 about his engagement. He is not still friends with the girl on Facebook. So I wonder why happened with that, but we haven't talked about exes yet. Seems soon for him to date again, but I'm sure he could say the same thing for me.

I have a date with a second guy tonight. I'm going to tell him that I don't want to see him again. He's too attentive, which I see as a red flag. He told me after our second date that he was only seeing me because I'm all he wants in a girl. I had to explain that it was too soon for me for that. His eagerness has reminded me of my ex, which is a turn off for me.


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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, April 6th (Sunday)

He's too attentive, which I see as a red flag. He told me after our second date that he was only seeing me because I'm all he wants in a girl. I had to explain that it was too soon for me for that. His eagerness has reminded me of my ex, which is a turn off for me

Too attentive? Please explain. What do you want?


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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, April 6th (Sunday)

I know what you mean.The guy before The Arse was too attentive (staring into my eyes the first time we met etc etc). I felt so special, but it was actually toxic. He was probably NPD/BPD lied pathologically,cheated and punched something just past my face...

Too intense too quickly red flag for me too.

But so does being stood up. The Arse stood me up in a similar way, not quite the same, but i thought we had plans (because he made plans to meet with a group of friends & go out). He was too busy being KISA to a (female,of course) friend to turn up...but managed to talk me round.

Being stood up red flag

Now I know your guy didn''t actually stand you up...but he didn''t seem keen either, did he? More of, oh well if you''re here anyway...And he did''t communicate with you. That''s a massive red flag too - do you want a LTR with someone who won''t communicate?


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, April 6th (Sunday)

I guess by too attentive I really mean too eager too soon. Things with my ex was like a fairy tale. We were exclusive on the third date, he said I love you after about two months, he always wanted to see me, and he told me I was perfect. I fell hard for it. I now realize though that it wasn't really me he loved. It was more the idea of me. So when this second new guy told me that I was everything he wanted in a girl on a second date, that's a red flag. He doesn't really know me yet. He just seems too eager to be in a relationship I guess. There are other red flags too. He talks about the girls he works with way too much, and they do things like hulu hoop competitions at work. Poor boundaries.

I'm not sure whether the beach guy would have stood me up or not. I ended up texting him my plans around 10:30. We have kept things light so far, with no serious conversations. Should I say something it, or just keep my eyes open going forward?


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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 7th (Monday)

Just because we have similar timelines and I don't feel ready to date yet (though I do think about wanting to be able to)...are you sure you're in a place where you are doing this for the right reasons? Have you really fully processed what happened or are you just trying to ignore it by 'moving on'? There is nothing wrong with taking some time to be truly single and going on a dating hiatus for a time, focusing on just you and your friendships. That way you will have more clarity about your picker when you get back out there (because this guy is not firing on all cylinders based on the beach day).


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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, April 7th (Monday)

I'm gonna say, chill.

You're just dating. If you enjoy yourself while you're with this guy, keep dating him.

If you're not having a good time, or you are too anxious about the relationship, stop dating him.

Whether you keep dating him or not: Hang with your friends. Go out with other guys. Spend time by yourself.


Dave Barry usually annoys me, but this column cracked me up, and it's apropos to your sitch:

http://www.blameitonthevoices.com/2008/05/difference-between-men-and-women-in.html


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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, April 7th (Monday)

No man who is ready for a healthy relationship wants a woman who is sitting around waiting to hear from him to decide her plans. She makes plans and if he asks to see her and makes definite plans in a reasonable amount of time she sees him. Otherwise you should be busy living your life.

I know you already contacted him and now he's wishy washy. I say don't put your eggs in this basket.

It is not game playing. It's having respect, boundaries and your own life. If you want to know if a man is interested let him contact you and set up plans that have times, meeting places etc. Not let's just hang out sometime.

The women I see who constantly concede and give in and contact first, don't seem to stay in stable, healthy relationships.


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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, April 7th (Monday)

It sounds like beach guy had another romantic interest amidst his friends. If this is the case, it shouldnít be a big deal since you arenít exclusive, but he still gets a red flag. Avoidance and not following through are sketchy behaviors, and the water thing is a really bad excuse (lie). Iíd be inclined to trust your friendís judgment. If you do keep seeing him, proceed with caution and hold him to the same standards you hold yourself. Multi-dating doesnít make people dishonest, donít let that excuse his behavior.

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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, April 7th (Monday)

Just because we have similar timelines and I don't feel ready to date yet (though I do think about wanting to be able to)...are you sure you're in a place where you are doing this for the right reasons? Have you really fully processed what happened or are you just trying to ignore it by 'moving on'? There is nothing wrong with taking some time to be truly single and going on a dating hiatus for a time, focusing on just you and your friendships.

I was on a dating hiatus actually, without intentionally meaning to be. I just had zero interest in dating. I turned down several guys. I don't mean this to be conceited, but I've probably been asked out by around 8-9 guys in the past 4 months. Zero interest. I wasn't actively looking, but I met beach guy and liked him. If I'm completely honest, probably not 100% ready to date. But I'm ready enough that I won't be upset if it doesn't work out for whatever reason. I've been officially single for about 4 months now, which doesn't seem very long I guess. But I feel like I've been single since October, when we did a 30 days NC thing. I think I started pulling away at that point, and I think everything in November and December was more about my own issues in being the "bad" guy versus my actual feelings for him. But I'm still dealing with some triggers, like being stood up. So probably not 100% ready, but I kinda want to see where it goes with this guy too. Not because I feel like I have to have a guy, but because he's the only guy that has made me feel any interest in a long time. The thing I like about him is that I'm just myself around him. I don't feel like I have to pretend to be something else, and it's fun.

No man who is ready for a healthy relationship wants a woman who is sitting around waiting to hear from him to decide her plans. She makes plans and if he asks to see her and makes definite plans in a reasonable amount of time she sees him. Otherwise you should be busy living your life.

Yeah, I came to this conclusion myself last night. It's early, and we're not serious. I actually enjoy being single, and being able to make plans without considering anyone else. So I'm just going to enjoy life, and it'll either progress or it won't. Either way I'll be fine.

I did talk to beach guy last night, and I think he was just nervous. He made a comment about all my friends being attorneys, and asked me if they approved of him. He also said that his friends thought I was cute, and wanted to get to know me better another time.


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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, April 7th (Monday)

I absolutely detest being in that kind of situation! Is the plan happening, or not? Should I make other plans?, etc. My boundary around that is there has to be a firm plan in place a few days in advance otherwise I am making other plans. If someone cares about my wellbeing, and me having a relaxed, good time, they make decent plans in advance, where I don't have be calling or texting after them to know what I am doing the next day or that afternoon.

My read is that this guy is too wrapped up in his own head to be caring and considerate enough to be a good mate. His insecurities about being around lawyers is lame. Man up, for god's sake and get over your insecurities enough to be a kind and thoughtful companion!

I'm glad you have a healthy life of your own and can make your own fun plans.


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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)

1st guy - there was someone amongst his group of friends that he did not want to know about you. Red flag.

2nd guy - too fast, too soon = red flag.


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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)

1st guy - there was someone amongst his group of friends that he did not want to know about you. Red flag.

Maybe... He invited me to go about 2 weeks beforehand, and brought it up several times during those 2 weeks. The whole thing confuses me, but he's back to being normal/attentive again


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