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Cascade
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, April 9th (Wednesday)

Wow... I was given my bf's ipad. I just was snooping (admittedly) through his emails... he responded to multiple craigslists post two months ago on a work trip. He is now in the UK until Friday.

I've taken screenshots, can't find response emails (not that he couldnt have deleted those) and... now what? Do I send him an email telling him I know? Do I wait until he is back??

Uuuuuugh! Back story: We havent' dealt with any infidelity before, but I did catch him talking to girls a couple girls two months into us dating.

Friends for 10 yrs, dated for 3. I'm going to go throw up now...


Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Tampa, FL
Cascade
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Member # 28774
Default  Posted: 12:36 AM, April 9th (Wednesday)

JUST TODAY I booked us a vacation to Mexico in 2 months, and emailed him sexy pics to keep him interested in what he has at home. What a pervert! Ugh!!!! I'm so glad he isn't home right now!!!!

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Tampa, FL
Daddo
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Member # 4504
Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, April 9th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you found this group - you will get a lot of support here.

It is probably just as well that you have some time before seing him and hearing his side of the story. His side, will, most likely, to deny, deny, deny - then minimize and trivialize what you saw....when you know full well this is just the tip of the ice-burg.

My advice is don't rush into forgiving him. Take your time - it will take a long time for you to know if you can trust him (years). Don't email him. If you think there is any chance that you will want to reconcile, you want him to tell you everything - to give you full access to all accounts, emails, social networks..... If you email him, he will delete everything from his computer before coming home. Don't give him that chance.

I would cancel the vacation and get your money back. If that is a problem, get travel insurance then cancel.

I'm so sorry - but he is clearly a scumbag and you now have clear evidence of premeditation to cheat


It's just so sad
But I'm moving on feeling better

Posts: 2506 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Cupertino, CA
Cascade
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Member # 28774
Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, April 9th (Wednesday)

So remain calm until he returns and march him straight to his electronics?

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Tampa, FL
lastdance
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Default  Posted: 2:14 AM, April 9th (Wednesday)


FIRST THING YOU NEED TO DO IS GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR AND GET TESTED FOR STDS.......this is your priority.......YOU ARE YOUR PRIORITY

never allow him to touch you without condoms.....you know who he is now....believe him

cancel your trip....uuuuggggghhhh...cant let him touch you......uuuuugggggghhhhhhh

do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering when you are going to contract a sexual disease due to his cheating........this is the only chance you get at being alive......don't let him cut your life short.....take care of your life

move him to the living room

your kids will be fine

just tell them you need to sleep and daddy snores too loud and all night

don't confront him yet ....get more evidence

take care of finances first...be prepare before you confront him...take nothing for granted

OMG.....YOUR BROTHER IS A LOOSER....AND HIS WIFE TOO......stay away from them....who cares if they had an open marriage...you did not and you are his sister.....shame on him


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