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better4me
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, April 13th (Sunday)

My wedding anniversary was April 8th, and I didn't think about it at all. Like in totally forgot about it. At church this morning they were asking for updated contact information. My wedding date was listed, after my name and address etc. I looked at that date, said "huh" to myself and scribbled over that puppy with my pencil. Scribbled it into oblivion even.

I knew the day would come when I wouldn't feel sad about my anniversary, I really didn't believe I would completely forget about it though. Huh, Who'd a thunk it?


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3213 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, April 13th (Sunday)

Yeah, that was this past year for me. I remembered it before the date…but the date of? Totally forgot.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4186 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
inconnu
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Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, April 13th (Sunday)

Good for you!


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12166 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, April 14th (Monday)

You are racking up the wins lately!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
thebighurt
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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Isn't that a great realization?? I even forgot my first anniversary after DDay and it was only 6 weeks later, still lots of contact with the pos, now xpos. The only reason it came to mind was that one DS *insisted* on talking with me *that day*, which made me question it to myself. I thought he had a problem he needed to talk about that weekend.

Part of figuring out why was to look at the calendar. It took a while, but the date finally stood out as the reason. He was worried about me and didn't want me to spend the day alone, so wanted to talk to me. I was totally upbeat during our talk and it wasn't an act. I hope that came across to him.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2388 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Awesome.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
stronggirl72
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Member # 37293
Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Yeah!!! I'm so happy for you. I, also, didn't notice mine. Best realization ever.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 154 | Registered: Oct 2012
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Unfortunately that will never be the case for me. Got married on my birthday, which happens to be the day after Christmas.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 725 | Registered: Aug 2013
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, April 14th (Monday)

WOOWHOO! I've always been terrible with dates so I've had a few pass me by. I remember months but not the dates without looking them up. I don't look them up.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
PurpleRose
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Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, April 14th (Monday)

My Divorce date IS my wedding anniversary date... So I will forever celebrate that day as the best day of the rest of my life!


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Holy crap, this post made me realize that mine was three weeks ago on March 28. I literally just remembered when I read this!

Yes, I think that is a huge sign of healing!


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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