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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

ok, so before I chop all my hair off, what do you all think? background... I went my entire adult life with a crew cut (military) til 09, then after getting out I let it grow. not sure what my deal is, if I thought I looked younger with no hair (and if I want to look older or younger), but anyway, here they are... (if I did it right..)



BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Honestly, I think that you look good in both pictures.

That said, I think that you fit more with the short hair then with the long.

What if you did something with more length?

You and David Beckham, Zac Efron, Ben Afleck....ect - have that very narrow oval face. You can actually pull off a more medium male cut.


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dameia
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I like the shorter hair! I think it's more flattering because it shows off your bone structure.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Chop it!
Both look good, but the shorter hair looks better.


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)

My response is conditional: are you a Ren Faire kind of guy? If so, keep it long. If not, chop chop!


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

not sure what a ren faire kind of guy is. I had originally started growing it out to look a bit like Jake Owen, but after a few really horrible attempts to straighten my own hair, realized I'm just not the kind of person that can have hair that needs time preparing.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Cut it. Short hair looks better on you.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

but after a few really horrible attempts to straighten my own hair, realized I'm just not the kind of person that can have hair that needs time preparing.

LOL, I feel the same way. Although my XX chromosomes do give me the ability to operate a straightening iron, my laziness prevents me from actually doing it most mornings.

I think the short hair suits you better, although you do look good either way. I tend to longer hair on guys, but not long-long - more at shaggy, kind of like Undefinabl posted but not so "done."


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Just looked up Jake Owen. You don't need to straighten it, just go get a few layers! You are almost there and it would look great on you. If it doesn't work, then you can chop it all off

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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

OMGosh...you are a cutie pie either way...but I'm kinda privy to the longer on you....what about something imbetween!!!?


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Just went through a few pics while looking for one of me with short hair...

This next one I think is my favorite...

and finally, I did find one of me with short hair... I'm on the far left...


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I think the danger of an in between length is it looking very 90's. The first thought I had when I saw that Beckham picture was Rob Thomas in the 90's. And please don't get those highlights! I had hair like that....in the 90's!!!! You catching my drift?


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Oh yes, definitely looks better longer, just go to a stylist, let them know you don't want to spend time styling it, and get a few long layers in the front.

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

The middle picture is nice, the military cut is way too short.

You could probably do something like this. It's not too short. Talk to a hair stylist. They would know what would look good with the shape of your face.

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 12:36 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)]


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

ok, so I guess I'll try the stylist thing... I have done it a few times (going somewhere to have my hair cut), but I'm guessing the places I went (supercuts and the hair salon in walmart) are probably not the best place to go... So where should I go?


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Please don't get offended but as I look at these I see something happening, your forehead is getting bigger......Which means your skull is growing, or your hair is not.

Personally I like shorter hair on men, and the older you get, and the less of it there is, the shorter it is the better it looks. Trying to keep it long to cover any recession is just icky.

Have you shaved your head before? With the Goat, and the dimples I bet you would rock that look.
BTW that's an awful lot of stuff on your chest there...... Thank you for your service Sir.


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Find some kind of salon/day spa. They stylists at my salon are constantly going for training to keep up with trends etc...


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

So where should I go?

Ask your friends on Facebook or look up some Yelp reviews.


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I don't get offended, not easily anyway... I appreciate any comments. I think I've always had a long forhead though. The first two pics were from today. pic 3 and 4 were from 2010, and pic 5 was 2007


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I like the length in pic #1. Maybe add some long layers. More importantly, you should do what ever makes you feel good about yourself.

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

My SO, at the age of 62 decided to let his hair grow. He is a veteran and spent 34 years in law enforcement - had a crew cut from the time he was 17.

Well he just let it go and go and as it got longer, it got thinner. He rides a motorcycle, so we had to put it in a ponytail that would fit under his helmet. It was a mess, but he loved it. Then he cut it all off and gave the hair to Locks for Love. Now he has a short hair cut, but not buzz. It's very attractive.

I think the buzz cut screams military and makes you look older. If you are enjoying the length but don't know what to do with it, go to a salon, get a good cut and some styling products.

Most of all, do what pleases you!

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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

yea, I ride a bike too. worst thing about riding a bike and having long hair is the tangled mess it makes...


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Yah I have a bike too, or had, without for now.
But I can tell ya that's another reason for going smooth. No tangles and no issues with having to take time to fix it.


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

The guys in my band (and the wives), don't like the idea of me cutting my hair off though.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Well unless they are fixing it it doesn't really matte what they want.
As a former codependent BS, I do what I like for me first. Don't like it lump it. It's like I said in shellybeanz post. Confidence and how you carry yourself make all the difference.


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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

You wear each length well. If you want to keep the length, I think some long layers around the face would freshen it up a bit. And if you didn't like it, the short cut would still be an option. If you want to chop it all off, go for it. But maybe not as close as the buzz cut.

But what I REALLY want to know? Is why NO ONE has mentioned that you met Patti Freaking LaBelle????


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LAFA
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Saw the title and got a little spooked. Thank God you're talking about the hair!


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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

As a long, long-time supporter of our military, thank you very much for your service!

I have to agree with not getting a short cut; go to a salon and get some shape to it (and I'm FAR from the age of the others saying this!!)


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Saw the title and got a little spooked. Thank God you're talking about the hair!

My thoughts EXACTLY, but I was afraid to post that!

I think a medium length is good- not too short, not too long. About the length in your favorite pic.


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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

I like the short hair.

You actually look a bit edgier. For a band this is a good look and the mid length is very 90's.

Go short and rock it!


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Yea, Patti Labelle kissed me, actually. That was pretty awesome. I was on a Christmas reality show back in 07. That's how I met her.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Oh, and I think that with my hair down it looks better if I'm clean shaven, but with it up I like the fumanchu. Also it annoys the WSO when I'm clean shaven, is it wrong that I find some satisfaction in that?


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Hubba Hubba. There are some nice looking men in this thread

I'm with the short-ish crowd. Not crew, a little longer with some layers, but the bummer is you may have to use a bit of styling product. Which is good for you since I don't own a straightening iron or have time for one either.

ETA: I like 5 o'clock shawdowy over clean shaven.

ETA2: I totally missed that was Patti LaBelle! Awesome!!

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 8:25 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]


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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, April 17th (Thursday)


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, April 17th (Thursday)

I have a different opinion. Don't cut it, it looks great!


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Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, April 17th (Thursday)

I'd suggest adding some shaggy layers which would give you an updated look without losing length. That style with a beard is becoming really popular.

Check out pictures of Ashton Kutcher. He wears some great looking mid-length cuts with shaggy layers.


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