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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

For those of you who followed my story:

Just got a text from ex, who only now is taking her stuff from the house: "Do you want the lazy boy? I don't want it."

(She said the same for two other items she had insanely insisted on.)

I took a deep breath and texted back that I don't want the lazy boy, that I will no longer discuss "things," and that anything else she doesn't want she should leave out for trash collection.

She texted pissily, "Fine, no problem."

Vile, clueless and mentally ill.

(And I meant it. At this point I don't want the chair. It's "ruined" for me. It's good enough for me that POS won't be sitting in it in front of my children.)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Lol Lol,Lol,Lol,Lol

breathe dammit

( wiping tears from my eyes)

Sigh, I got nothing


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

All I know is, your next chair will be yours alone, and no one can ever use it as a bartering chip in a crazy negotiation intended to break your spirit.

So, that's something.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

wow....just, wow


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Just received this text:

"I'm sorry for your angry attitude; that's too bad."

After running through a thousand retorts, I finally settled on the default, which continues to serve me well: None.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

unbe-fucking-lievable.

Oh yeah, she's fucking cray-cray

crickets.


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

What a B!tch!

Good job on the crickets. Eventually she'll figure out that you're not married anymore.

[This message edited by Gemini71 at 1:59 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)]


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

If you didn't really know her true colors before you know now!

Unfricking believable.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

And I needed to add, I would not respond to anything else. You have more important things to do.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Do you really want no drama, no more "sagas?" Because if you do, then think back to the 80s and go with "JUST SAY NO." Maybe even "no thanks."

She asked a question. A reasonable question really. Because if you drove by and said Lazy Boy was on the curb with no offer to you it would be "She could have at least asked me if I wanted it! My kids gave it to me...."

So. She asked. You decided you didn't want it. Communication necessary. But additional ego kibble and drama llama feeding of "I am not going to discuss this kind of thing with you." and then telling her what to do with all of her future possible offers was just inviting further communication. Kind of like walking through a room and announcing "I am still NOT TALKING TO YOU." If you aren't talking.... You don't talk!!

The follow up "sorry you have a bad attitude" text is a direct result of the extra syllables you gave her. Do you see that? Others have suggested it before. Try to imagine she is a random moving guy and he stumbled on something that might be yours. Asked and answered. Moving on! No drama. No saga. No emotion.

Sure there is emotion. It is natural. But take the emotion out of the exchanges and the actual emotions will go away faster.

eta: read more harshly than I intended. tried to clarify

[This message edited by caregiver9000 at 2:13 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)]


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FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
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S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Nature_Girl

We ALL knew that this crazy lady's crazy would not go away because they are divorced, but COME.ON woman....seriously....


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Think of the extra syllables as gasoline. You don't want that anywhere near a flame...

Now then, just envision a biblical swarm of crickets smothering that batshit crazy biatch.

Put a picture of a cricket on your screensaver to remind you.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Sure there is emotion. It is natural. But take the emotion out of the exchanges and the actual emotions will go away faster.

Point taken. Thank you. I must have the following conversation in my head when this sort of thing happens again:

"How dare she! Does she not realize, remember, etc.?"

"She may or she may not. It doesn't matter."

"But if I remind her of --"

"No. Don't bother. It won't make any difference. It won't penetrate."

"But it's not fair."

"No, it sure isn't."

"So, if I must respond, just the facts?"

"Yes, just the facts. Take some breaths, scream aloud to yourself what you really want to say, and then respond factually, emotionlessly, with as few words as possible."

"Because it doesn't matter?"

"Correct. It doesn't matter."


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

ugggh...

wow she is a special brand of NPD/PA crazy.

she is just trying to hang on to a thread of contact and control with you.

crickets crickets crickets. your attitude is fine. i'm pretty sure it wasn't you making drama to the last minute.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Oh come on.

Who didn't see this coming??


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FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

What a fucking brain damaged psycho. Seriously though.....
Fuck her, and fuck her for attempting to manipulate you....
"
I'm sorry for your angry attitude; that's too bad."

She can suck it.
A dig here and there may give you some tiny bit of vindication. As long as you don't get sucked back in. The one and done response is fine.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Merlin
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

continues to serve me well: None.
Abbondad

Heed your own words. Soon enough, the reaction in your head will follow.

She is a real piece of work.


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Of COURSE she doesn't want it. She insisted on it to try and upset you. It didn't work. You said take it. Now that it's over, she doesn't have room for it. You knew that. Now, she wants you to take it, so somewhere down the road she can scream, maybe to the courts, that YOU have the chair that SHE was awarded in the D! See how nice she is? She gave you the chair! Your honor! It doesn't matter that I haven't paid my CS, he has THE CHAIR!!

Yeah. Your new lazyboy will be perfect.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

I figured she would do that. The lazy boy was never about her actually wanting the lazy boy. When choosing the TV didn't set you off, she chose the lazy boy because she thought you'd be emotionally attached enough to say you wouldn't agree and then she could say you were the bad guy who wouldn't settle. She wanted the drama then so she could prove to herself and everyone else that she wasn't making a huge mistake divorcing you. You proved her wrong then.

She knew offering it after fighting for it would be another potential way to start drama. You have learned, every time, that the best way to keep the drama out of your life is no response unless necessary. In this case, she asked a question. You had two better choices than the one you went with: 1. No response 2. If you absolutely couldn't bring yourself to not respond, the simple answer of "No".

Personally, I think no response would be your best way to go because I believe even if you'd just said "No", you'd still have gotten some response about your attitude. She projects a lot.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Crickets. These are her death throes brother - I'm glad you shut that shit down and told her no further comms were necessary. No more responding about each item that she offers.

The funnier, totes innapropes response would be: You dumb, crazy bitch. Go suck on a bag of dicks.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)


She asked a question. A reasonable question really. Because if you drove by and said Lazy Boy was on the curb with no offer to you it would be "She could have at least asked me if I wanted it! My kids gave it to me...."

I'm speaking for AD here, but I think the point wasn't that she asked, but that she pitched such a fit over the chair prior to D and refused to sign the MSA unless he gave it to her and now..."I don't want it, do you?"

She is crazy to the nth degree! So sorry you are still dealing with her BS. Hopefully she tires of this eventually and finds someone new to annoy.


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Ignore her texts. It's her twisted way of staying in contact. Leave it be. Take a walk, don't read them for days as nothing she is contacting you for is an emergency. Please NC or as little with her. Go away lady go bother your AP as you had a good man and family. Don't let the karma bus hit u on the way out.

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

Point taken. Thank you. I must have the following conversation in my head when this sort of thing happens again:

"How dare she! Does she not realize, remember, etc.?"

"She may or she may not. It doesn't matter."

"But if I remind her of --"

"No. Don't bother. It won't make any difference. It won't penetrate."

"But it's not fair."

"No, it sure isn't."

"So, if I must respond, just the facts?"

"Yes, just the facts. Take some breaths, scream aloud to yourself what you really want to say, and then respond factually, emotionlessly, with as few words as possible."

"Because it doesn't matter?"

"Correct. It doesn't matter."

I think that's far more headspace than she deserves. It should go more like this, IMHO:

Ping: text arrives from ex
Abbondad glances at phone and notes it's from ex.
Mental check: are kids with me?

Option a: YES. No further reaction required.

Option b: NO, kids are with ex. Abbondad opens text, scans to see if kids are bleeding or otherwise needing emergency assistance.

Sub option a: YES. Abbondad calls ex and asks why the flip she didn't call instead of texting and then proceeds to handle emergency accordingly.

Sub option b: NO. No further action required.

[This message edited by nekorb at 8:06 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)]


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D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
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thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)

^^^^love !


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

You know, it's at times like this where you HAVE to sit on your hands or a "piss off stupid bitch" might go flying through the cell phone! Great job with the crickets.


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Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Um.. I thought the post topic was LADY boy saga continues.


And thought hmm this could be interesting...

Then I read about the chair... And wondered how on earth a lady boy tied into it.

Then I re read the heading

Either way, I got a laugh

Edited to say.. Sorry abbondad. I did not mean to imply I was laughing at your misfortune.. I e been following your story and I kind of hear Benny hill music in the background when I picture your ex wife's shenanigans ....

[This message edited by Sadmumma at 1:32 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Thanks so much, everyone. I'm still angry over it, but it has, yet again, been a learning experience. The lesson: NC.

I'm speaking for AD here, but I think the point wasn't that she asked, but that she pitched such a fit over the chair prior to D and refused to sign the MSA unless he gave it to her and now..."I don't want it, do you?"

^^^^ Yes, this is exactly it. It was the fact that she made such an ordeal over this chair--and the fact that this chair was signficant and had relevance to the children--that this is so infuriating. I really should not be surprised. It is consistent with her Crazy.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Yes, this is exactly it. It was the fact that she made such an ordeal over this chair--and the fact that this chair was signficant and had relevance to the children--that this is so infuriating. I really should not be surprised. It is consistent with her Crazy.
AD, welcome to the next however many years you have before your kids are adults. Pull up a chair with the rest of us and join the "fun". We watch reruns of the same damn idiotic show every single day. It's called "my dumbass ex/stbx did the funniest shit today and actually thought I gave a fuck."

You'll get there it took me a good 6 or 7 months before I finally stopped letting the ex push my buttons or get me to respond to anything other than a kids related question. After awhile you will be able to "Professor X" her responses before she even texts them. Just because you get D doesn't stop the stupid shit. It just morphs into a different brand of stupid. They no longer have D shit to argue over so it now turns into kids stuff or whatever else they can think of at the moment. You actually will get used to this fairly quickly. The next big hurdle will be when YOU actually start dating. She will shit bricks then but by then you truly won't give a fuck. Your doing great man, enjoy your freedom and this shit to shall pass. Well it doesn't pass completely but you get used to it so ignoring it becomes second nature.


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The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
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keptmyword
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

"I'm sorry for your angry attitude; that's too bad."

Be prepared to receive a lot of this "anger" oriented form of trying to assign you blame.

I get very similar from the dysfunctional toxic POS that I divorced. In her mind, my not wanting to have anything to do with her is now something about me dealing with my "anger". Mind you, I don't talk, call, text, or communicate with this woman in any way except when it has to do with our children. I don't associate with any of her friends and have a good relationship with her family.

This is just the nature of the irresponsible and weak-minded. If there is an easy path to take - they will take it. Blaming is probably the easiest thing to do in life so she will always take that easy path.

Always know that who she was before you, while with you, and after you - never had anything to do with you.


I Divorced Her.

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 17th (Thursday)

"I'm sorry for your angry attitude; that's too bad."

I think crickets was a good response. No matter what you say/said in response to her question, she is coocoo and she'll always have some kind of stupid jab for you.

Although I probably would have replied with "LOL" or "LMAO" to her angry attitude comment. That would have thrown her for a loop.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, April 19th (Saturday)

Hello,

CXW texted me from the house to "confirm that I don't want anything else that is remaining in the house" and that she would "throw out" the rest.

I texted back, "That is correct. I want nothing."

I just passed the house to take my kids to their friends. She had thrown out 90% of everything she had demanded in the division of marital property--including her bicycle, a portable air conditioner, her grandmother's antique chairs, and of course...the Lazy Boy.

Over everything she had draped her wedding dress. (I'm sure she knew I would see this; my new house is right down the street.)

That stung for a minute, but then I just shook my head at how melodramatically nuts and pathetic she is.

(I took the bike. It's a great mountain bike ;-)

PS: DD told me what Mommy is doing with the big TV--she is bringing it to AP's vacation house. May it bring them years of bliss.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, April 19th (Saturday)

Good lord, the wedding dress too?

I would have snapped a picture, that would make a great album cover...

Glad you got the bike.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, April 19th (Saturday)

Or you can try a few of these ideas:
http://myexwifesweddingdress.com/the-list/


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, April 19th (Saturday)

Actually, AD, take a pic of the stuff that's on the curb for trash and just tuck it away.
With your CXWW's level of crazy, you may need it.

"AD never turned over my dear granny's antique chairs. I'm going to sue him!"


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, April 20th (Sunday)

GET A PICTURE OF EVERYTHING BY THE CURB IF IT'S NOT TOO LATE!!!!!

You may need this in the future.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, April 20th (Sunday)

Too late for pictures. Someone already picked it clean. :-(


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, April 20th (Sunday)

One more thing: I went over to the house today to do some final cleaning, and looked more closely at the ton of stuff she'd left at the curb for trash pick up. Among it were all the kids' artwork (which adorned our entire kitchen), many special pictures of them, and a huge box of DD's dolls and stuffed animals.

This is very odd even for CXW. While of course she always puts her needs first, she loves them very much, "sentimentally" and in her own way. These sorts of memorabilia in particular are and have always been precious to her.

(She took a generator, though. I guess she figures she can sell it.)

Just very strange, upsetting, and vaguely creepy.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, April 20th (Sunday)

Please photograph what's left, and rescue your kids artwork and toys, your kids will be glad to decorate your new place with their art :)


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