User Topic: Ran into Ex-BiL
Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

20 miles from home, at Harbor Freight.

He didn't see me at first. I said "Hi, <same first name as me>"

We chatted a minute or two. He asked how I was, I said that I was having some bad times, he thought it was about his sister... But it wasn't. It was about a couple of bad things that have happened to me, involving unemployment, water damage to my house, and a problem with my road/dam/driveway.

He told me he still sticks up for me with family, which I suppose is nice. Not that it matters; they're her family, not mine.

I just laughed and walked away after a bit.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5179 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

What a relief that you can laugh instead of shudder after an encounter with an ex-IL.

I hope your bad times level out, and your good times ramp up.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17758 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 27275
Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

The first time running into X-IL's I am not looking forward to.

Sounded like you handled it very well.


Did you feel as calm as you sound in your post


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.

Posts: 3049 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
Member # 42096
Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Ex-IL have been away all winter and get back this weekend. We live on the same street. Small place.
MIL will give me this pathetic shoulder squeeze of supposed empathy but will completely blameshift saying we had a volatile marriage a "must do what is best for the boys..."

"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

Posts: 294 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

I'm friendly with a few of my XIL'S. Just yesterday while picking up my son for Easter vacation I chatted a bit with my XBIL. He have no problems between us and he actually said to me once that I should D my XWW because she does not appreciate the man I am. I laughed it off at the time, but the dude was right. I'm not friends with my XIL'S, but I can have friendly conversations with some of them.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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