User Topic: Xwh owes a lot in taxes
Member # 23386
Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

And told me we need to talk. He lost 2 dependants from the divorce on tax returns and it is costing him. I don't feel bad for him in the slightest. He had plenty of opportunities to stay married and quite frankly, I'm glad he didn't try very hard. I'm glad he sucked at reconciliation and it set me free! I'm so much happier now. It feels a little strange because I'm an empathetic person, so this indifference is new. But damn I'm happy to finally be here.

[This message edited by imwideawake at 7:18 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]

Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 893 | Registered: Mar 2009
Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Ugh, WS pity parties are so annoying! It's like "Let me get out the world's smallest violin!" Also, they really demonstrate who the WS is - that everything happens *to* them yet they have zero responsibility for their actions or the resultant consequences.

DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid

Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

You could always offer him some cheese to go with that "whine".

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1910 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

OPP (Other Peoples Problems)
NMP (Not My Problem)

Care Factor Zero.

Interesting that he thinks his problem is your problem. We need to talk? Nah - we really don't.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 42510
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Poor tax planning on his part doesn't constitute an emergency on your part!!!

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Member # 16921
Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

My X did the same thing, wanting a pity party. We split the boys for tax purposes. His idea. So I gave him DS1 and I took DS2. Now I did it this way on purpose. DS1 is 8 years older than DS2. When X could no longer "write-off" DS1 he stared with the every other year crap with DS2 - absolutely not I said. Whenever, X brings up crap my standard line is "Read the Agreement". That usually shuts him up!!!

WH - 48
BS (me) - 50
Son - 25
Son - 17
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Reconciling or at least trying. We have reconciled through the A, but he still doesn't get it when it comes to p

Posts: 4472 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

Yay for indifference!!!

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25716 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 41268
Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

I owed a lot of taxes this year myself.

And you should care about your exH's tax situation about as much as you care about mine (a total stranger).


(big difference is that I knew this was happening and planned for it)

Posts: 109 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: AL
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, April 17th (Thursday)

Poor widdle muffin!

Do NOT give up the tax deductions. Don't even respond to him. What a jagoff.

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, April 17th (Thursday)

Heartwarming tale!

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7761 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 19th (Saturday)

Taxes are one of the longest we can go without paying. I think maybe people don't pay them thinking they can use the money for other things. But even IRS only waits so long.

Good for you. Lack of empathy is tough but a source of strength.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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