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DepressedDaddy
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Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

I'm so happy I have an IC appointment today. Definitely needing it. I just need to make it till then. Then I'll figure out a new goal for myself for tonight.

Then a new goal for tomorrow...so on and so on.

The next few days, weeks and months are going to be tough. We have a lot of changes on the divorce/moving/responsibilities horizon.

Day by day. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. I can do it, even if it appears I can't. I will continue to always move forward, even if it is inch. The mile will come in time. [repeat] [repeat] [repeat]


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."


Posts: 813 | Registered: Dec 2013
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

The early days are the hardest. I remember feeling like a zombie for those first few months. I'm surprised I was able to keep my shit together. But I did. I had meltdowns, panic attacks and cried so much I barely wee'd. But I kept moving forward - even if I was crawling sometimes.

A year from now you'll look back and be amazed at how the hell you made it through - you'll also be really proud of yourself.

You've got this. You're in the eye of the storm right now but I promise sunshine is coming.

You'll catch yourself doing a big belly laugh, or smiling for no reason - even daydreaming about your wide open future. The possibilities are endless. Scary but exciting.

But that is all later. Right now you're walking around wondering how the hell everyone is acting so normal - like they don't even notice the world has just turned on its axis.

Be gentle with yourself.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

The IC visits were a godsend in the early weeks. Talking through it all helped me immensely. My sister also made herself available whenever I needed to talk, even though she is on the other coast.

Hang in there. It will get better.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 725 | Registered: Aug 2013
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, April 17th (Thursday)

You've got the right attitude. All these steps will add up to take you someplace better. Really.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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