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freeatlast72
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Member # 42758
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Tomorrow is the big day...we will have both attorneys there and a mediator who will help us both to come to an agreement regarding custody, spousal support, child support, etc...

So ready to move forward!!


BS:41 (me)
WH: 41
Kids: DD6
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years
Separated as of 01/16/2014,now divorcing...WH did not want to reconcile.

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.


Posts: 135 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
Chrysalis123
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Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Fingers crossed for you!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2651 | Registered: Jan 2010
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, April 21st (Monday)

It IS a big day. Eat something yummy for breakfast and take some deep breaths. It will all be a memory soon!


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 633 | Registered: May 2013
courageous
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Member # 34477
Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)

So how did it go? Was a settlement agreed upon or are you going to court?


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


Posts: 641 | Registered: Jan 2012
copout
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)

Hope it went well!


Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.

Posts: 290 | Registered: Jan 2009
freeatlast72
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

It went as well as to be expected after 10.5 hours!!

I received full physical custody for DD6- he has "parenting" time EOW and one dinner visit per week...mainly during the school year. He did not even fight me for this one. Of course we have joing legal custody. Although he was a shit of a husband, he really is a good Dad.

During the summers we alternate weeks, etc.

I received alimony for 7 years on a step down schedule.

We will be listing the house soon.

At the end we almost did not come to an agreement regarding the alimony numbers, but he finally agreed.

I am so happy this is behind me! Today was supposed to be our 15th wedding anniversary, oh well, I am keeping myself busy and meeting up with girlfriends later.

[This message edited by freeatlast72 at 8:01 AM, April 24th (Thursday)]


BS:41 (me)
WH: 41
Kids: DD6
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years
Separated as of 01/16/2014,now divorcing...WH did not want to reconcile.

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.


Posts: 135 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
7yrsflushed
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Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Today was supposed to be our 15th wedding anniversary,
Give it some time, you will soon remember it as the day you took soem major steps towards freedom and your new life. I am glad the mediation went well and is behind you now.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

Posts: 1899 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
Dawn58
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Freeatlast72,

My mediation was Monday, ten hours for me. We did not come to a final agreement but my attorney says it may be wrapped up this week.

No kids in my marriage. He gets to keep his house, the house I live in has to be sold because he does not have the cash to pay me out.

Did you have to see your STBX at the proceedings? I had to, he came into the room I was in to receive the judges instructions regarding confidentiality. I just looked down, I did not want to look at him.

I am ready to put this whole nightmare aside. Still feel like I am in transition though, not quite sure what I am moving forward to.


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 468 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
freeatlast72
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Member # 42758
Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Dawn58,

I had to see STBXH for 10 minutes while the mediator spoke about the rules and confidentiality. I looked at him for a few seconds but we did not speak.

His attorney was so detail focused and focused in on every little expense....really?? The mediator was with them for hours at a time.

I knew that he did not want to litigate, more $$ for him so I knew we would eventually come to a resolution. My attorney prepared me for the alimony part- and that was the hardest by far. Everything else we agreed on (more or less).

You will move forward-- I am not saying it will be easy but take it one day at a time. We will get through this.


BS:41 (me)
WH: 41
Kids: DD6
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years
Separated as of 01/16/2014,now divorcing...WH did not want to reconcile.

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.


Posts: 135 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
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