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BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Today is our 21st Wedding Anniversary!

The A happened right after our 14th, so we've made it 7-years past that. Looking at those 14-years, gerrygirl and I both have good memories of that period, but we also don't want to let ourselves go back to the type of M we had before. I mean, we got M for a reason right? We loved each other. What we didn't know is that it takes work. We learned that post-A, I think I especially learned that lesson...and now, here we are.

Gerrygirl, I love you, and I'm happy to be able to wake up next to you each morning.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
lostworld
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Member # 19197
Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Congrats to you both! So nice to see good news in this forum


Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married 30 yrs. w/ 2 grown kids
Dday 1: Very early 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.

Posts: 816 | Registered: Apr 2008
brokeback
Member
Member # 41726
Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Congratulations on 21 years together and surviving and thriving post-affair.

I'm happy for you both.


ME 43
BS 38
1 Child 3 years old
Married 18 years
DDay - 10/2013. EA 9 months. PA 4 months. Ended the affair 11/2014



Posts: 69 | Registered: Dec 2013
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!!

Posts: 35252 | Registered: Mar 2011
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary, Bax and Gerrygirl!

Posts: 7114 | Registered: Dec 2010
heartbroken0903
Member
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy anniversary to you both! Congratulations!


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


Posts: 2150 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy anniversary!

Congrats on surviving and thriving.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6236 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
BrokenButTrying
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Member # 42111
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Congratulations! Well done you guys :)


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - 01/10 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
AML04
Member
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!! This brought tears to my eyes.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 867 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, April 24th (Thursday)

Love it!


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17367 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Yay! Happy anniversary!


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 37620 | Registered: Sep 2007
Unagie
Member
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!!!


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"To be loyal to myself is to allow myself to grow and change, and challenge who I am and what I think."


Posts: 2742 | Registered: Oct 2012
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy anniversary!


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1478 | Registered: Dec 2011
Teach8
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Member # 36521
Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary to you both. And thank you for the hope.


Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R

Posts: 506 | Registered: Aug 2012
HUFI-PUFI
Member
Member # 25460
Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

BaxtersBFF - I think I especially learned that lesson ... and now, here we are .... our 21st Wedding Anniversary!



Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

Posts: 3266 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Azilda, Northern Ontario
gahurts
Member
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Congratulations to you both!!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3416 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
justasinger
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Member # 43031
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

congrats, it is great to hear some good news


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Baxter...

It's always such a joy to see you here!!! Give our love to Gerrygirl and job well done!!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197809 | Registered: May 2002
sunnyrain
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Member # 30164
Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!


"I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne."

Posts: 382 | Registered: Nov 2010
BaxtersBFF
Member
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Thanks everyone! (Can't remember ever getting the clapping hand guy...Thanks Hufi)


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Brandon808
Member
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Happy Anniversary!


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 3820 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
ThatGuyNoMore
Member
Member # 42899
Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Congratulations! May you have 21 more years together.


me 48
BS 47
Married 22 years, 4 kids
D-Day 3/5/14
I lied to everyone, including myself.

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