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mel88
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

This probably sounds like a petty or enviable problem, but I really need to gain weight - 20 pounds at least. Iíve consulted with my doctor (MD, internist) and my IC with no tangible results thus far.

Iíve tried peppermint tea as an appetite stimulant which helps to some extent. Any other ideas?

Thanks in advance.


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gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

I am 5'8" and have been down to just over 100 pounds. I looked and felt awful so I feel your pain. What worked for me was a banana, yogurt and high calorie shake twice a day in addition to my regular meals. It took me over a year to gain 20 pounds and I couldn't look at a banana for about 3 years after but it did work.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Thanks gardenparty.

Care to share your high calorie shake recipe?


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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Well my first instinct was to say "Do what I do.. just follow me around and eat what I eat"

But to actually be helpfulÖ my gramma is sick and losing weight rapidly. She's having some success with a high caloric type of Ensure. I would see about maybe adding that as well as your regular meals maybe?



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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

3 bowls of ice cream a day actually prescribed by a doctor.

Eat the regular full strength items skip low fat.

Carbs but eat your vegetables.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Thanks for the laugh meta! Iíll look into the ensure; Iíve heard about it before.

And sorry to hear that your gran is ill.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Find a registered dietician. I don't know if your problem is related to an eating disorder, but there are RDs that specialize in this.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Ice cream. Cool!

And Sad in AZ, I donít believe that I have an eating disorder. I consulted my IC for just this reason. However, Iíve recently done some research on anorexia which seems to be a much more complicated condition than I realized. I like your advice on seeing a registered dietician. Thanks.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Meta I was going to say the same thing!

My daughter is a peanut & she drinks pediasure on her doctor's advice - they also told me she could have Carnation Instant Breakfast to boost weight gain.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Thanks Jana.

I must need glasses because I initially read your post as Canadian Instant Breakfast.


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Have a glass of wine each day. Easy calories.

Butter, ice cream, milk shakes with instant breakfast mixed in and whole milk.


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, April 24th (Thursday)

Get some Joe Weider weight gain. It's body builder stuff. I used it in HS when I thought I was too scrawny and gained two sizes in a few months. I wish I never did that.


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LydiaE
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, April 25th (Friday)


To be honest, the only luck I have ever had gaining weight was pregnancy and an older antidepressant called Remeron.

I have been able to gain about 20-30 lbs in 4-6 months twice in my life while on Remeron. It helped me sleep and stimulated my appetite. Apparently, being underweight is often caused by overproduction of dopamine. Do you have issues with anxiety?

You just have to watch what you eat while on it because it can cause some serious carb and sugar cravings.

It has saved my life twice!


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, April 25th (Friday)

You need to see a specialist on this if you have tried the obvious avenues and haven't gained weight.
If you have ruled out any and all possible diseases including things like Crohn's, UC, etc then the thing I have suggested to my patients is similar to then Ensure, many people don't care for it's taste. So what you do is you go to a vitamin store, like GNC, and you get yourself a protein powder, or shake mix that you make your own shakes at home with. Use the mix, and WHOLE Chocolate, Strawberry milk for. Of course you can add in fruits and berries if you like them.
Mix it up and use different flavors.

You also need to keep a food journal to make sure that you are eating enough, and getting the right things.

If you are not eating because you are not hungry, then you can get an old appetite stimulant, there is one used for cancer patients called megace, has little to no side effects, and makes you a bit hungrier, other options of course are AD's, or antianxiety meds.

Like Meta and Jana said, you could come live with me. I cook a lot and find great pleasure in making food that people can't resist. Of course that's why everyone in my house, minus DS are overweight.

A homemade smoothie that has a fair amount of calories, and is super yummy is Greek yogurt, 1cup, 1/2 of a banana and cup of berries, frozen or fresh. If you put in a scoop of protein powder then you really can boost up what you are getting. Throw in a handful of granola and you got about 600 calories right there.


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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, April 25th (Friday)

I would GLADLY give you 20 of my pounds

When I was losing to much weight while pregnant with DD, the doctor was just going to put me on high calorie shakes - but thankfully it didnt get that far.

I think you have gotten great suggestions from the others above.


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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, April 25th (Friday)

My son is underweight, which is kind of impressive considering I have seen him pack in half a large pizza in one sitting, I get him those kelloggs breakfast shakes. he also has the heavy protein bars but he usually only eats those after track. After a couple months of the shakes every morning the Doc said he was looking a lot better weight wise.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, April 25th (Friday)

Thanks for all the great recommendations!

Iím definitely not getting enough calories; a lot of food just looks and smells unappealing to me. Cooking and eating used to give me such pleasure but now feel like chores.

Tushnurse, I like the sound of your homemade smoothies. I do need to keep a food journal. I bought a scale yesterday so I can keep track of the weight. If I canít make some success soon Iíll definitely see a specialist.

I canít wait to get back to my normal shape.


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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, April 25th (Friday)

For me, just looking at food seems to do the trick.

Wish we could trade problems for a little while! At least until we both hit some form of "normal" (whatever that is.) Sigh.

[This message edited by osxgirl at 10:31 AM, April 25th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Any chance you are on meds? The reason I ask is I am on two different meds for my narcolepsy, and because of the meds I am so skinny. I am 5'1 and 100lbs which is technically normal, but people constantly make comments about my weight.

When I was pregnant with my daughter I gained 65lbs but lost it almost immediately without trying.

I agree that carnation instant breakfast is good as is ensure. Maybe even try going to a vitamin store and see what they have.


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TheThreeYearFool
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, April 25th (Friday)

I'm coming at this from a non-medical perspective, so this might sound a little weightlifter-y! The standard advice given to athletes who need more calories but lack appetite is to switch to more calorie dense items, and nothing is denser in calories than fat.

Full fat everything -- milk, cheese, yogurt, salad dressing.

If that's unappealing, add liquid calories like a whey protein shake powder made with whole milk and a tablespoon or two of peanut butter.

I completely lost my appetite and my sweet tooth before I got on the AD's, and for a while there I practically subsisted on whey protein shakes and vegetables.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Thanks for the recommendations! Iím making a grocery list for this afternoon and am taking a lot of the ideas from this thread.

And Alyssa, no Iím not on any meds.


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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, April 25th (Friday)

I'm a senior (going onto graduate school) in Public/Global Health, and I've had to take many classes on nutrition, disease, and am currently in food/stress/health.

Gaining weight by eating sugar and nutritionally empty clarions will not do anything, ANYTHING, for your health. Honestly, you're probably be better off being underweight. Depending on your cortisol levels, it could result in gaining abdominal fat, which is incredibly unhealthy.

I would gain weight through protein/fats, and building muscle (if you're so inclined).

Did your doctor tell you why you need to gain weight, or is it purely for aesthetic purposes? Either way, I'd definitely see a nutritionist.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Thanks for the info Want2help.

Did your doctor tell you why you need to gain weight, or is it purely for aesthetic purposes?

She said that my BMI fell into the underweight range. Gaining 20 pounds would put me into the healthy range (just barely). Iíd also be at the weight I felt comfortable with for many years; itís not really an aesthetic reason, itís a weight at which I felt healthy.


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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Want2help when people are truly underweight we don't recommend weight gain "purely for aesthetic" purposes. Being underweight puts you at extreme risk for becoming I'll from just about any bug you come in contact with. Your immune system and decreased protein and fat levels prevent you from getting well quickly and allow you to stay ill when you catch something everyone else dosent get. I. Addition you will be wiped out for a lot longer when you are well.
You also tend to have lower energy levels and stamina when you are severely underweight.

Mel you Har gotten pretty much the same advice from all of us here high protein full fat foods.
Making sure you are getting at least 2000 calories a day and of course keeping track Of what you are eating.


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gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, April 25th (Friday)

me: the shake that I took was called Mammoth 2500 but that was years ago. 2 shakes a day added 2500 calories to your daily diet which is supposed to add 1 pound a week. Took me longer than that to gain the weight but that was 20 years ago and I have been keeping between 125 and 130 since then.


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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Unless I'm real careful, I drop weight.

Careful - a banana every day. Oatmeal and yogurt as snacks. Nuts, cheese. Potatoes. A baked potato is fast.

For nutrient dense, I go by weight. Fruit is heavier that chips. Mix up the colors of your food. Orange & dark green are good.

I'll make up a quiche, and eat that for a few days.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, April 26th (Saturday)

Thanks to all of you for the great advice. I think Iím on the right path. There isnít a ton of great information out there for people trying to gain weight, and I really value the input youíve given.

High protein, full fat foods, 2000 calories/day and a food diary. Bananas and smoothies. Granola and yogurt. Nuts and cheese and potatoes. Visit to a nutritionist or dietician. Visit to metaís and janaís houses for lessons in eating correctly. Visit to tushnursesís home for a meal (Iíll bring the gooey butter cake for dessert, even though I realize thatís probably not what you meant as a quality high fat food).

Thanks gardenparty for sharing your story. Iím hopeful that I can be where you are someday soon. I realize it will take a bit of time. Congratulations on your success!

[This message edited by mel88 at 12:34 PM, April 26th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

Got any thoughts on your loss of appetite, reasons for? And why food is so unappealing presently? (I find it incredibly appealing currently, so please come visit me as well).

What about doing an exotic cookery course to regain interest in food or something? Or trying new restaurants with h or a girls supper club. Or, or, or...


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Default  Posted: 5:20 AM, April 28th (Monday)

Did I read
gooey butter cake for dessert
???

Can I come too? I haven't had real butter cake since I left Tacony


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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, April 28th (Monday)

5ft 9 and 117lbs. I don't look good!

McDonald's milkshakes, full fat milk, cheese, carbs along with your normal healthy diet.

Going to the gym can help too. Try not to do much cardio but weights will build mass.


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mel88
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 28th (Monday)

Hi Edie! Iíd love to have a meal with you the next time Iím out your way. But please donít be offended if I canít finish my plate. Iím embarrassed by this problem and donít want to be impolite by rejecting someoneís cooking.

Causes of my loss of appetite? I really have no idea. Stress, perhaps. Itís certainly been a stressful year. Although I doubt my current life is more stressful than most othersí. If thereís a medical issue, Iíll leave that to my MD to figure out. I found a nutritionist yesterday that I think my health insurance will (partially) cover.

I like your ideas of cooking classes and the like for getting back to food interest. I do watch Masterchef UK without fail; I think thereís a new episode tonight?

NoLongerWantHim: Yes you read that right. Gooey butter cake. I spent much of my summertimes in St. Louis as a kid, and my grandparents would often get cakes from a certain bakery. A few weeks ago I had a craving for gooey butter cake and so I ordered one from the bakery. It arrived promptly and well packaged for its journey. It was divine.

BrokenButTrying: Good advice - I think some kind of weight building exercise is in order. Iím sorry youíre also dealing with being underweight; itís pretty unpleasant. Take good care.


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