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idkam
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, April 25th (Friday)

The man was a serial cheater..., i forwarded emails to myself dating back to 2009....on some he signed "your husband" ....he had also signed up on EHarmony and hooked up with this girl back in 2009-2010 i didn't get that they had sec but there were plenty of conversations between them....he was also talking to at least 4 other women and told them he cant wait to put his head between their legs....WTH!!!

I believe he gave me HPV fuck the fact that lies doormat years, for all i know he's been screwing around since 2009....

I'm stunned about some of the things he wrote to those women..he even told a few he had a girl he sees at least twice a month, no fucker we were living together....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1800 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
lostcovenants
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, April 25th (Friday)

(((Idkam))). You deserve way better!



BS 60; fWH 59; 2 children, 1 grandchild; Married 37+ years, he is my only; D-day 7/8/13; Married OW, PA 2009-2011; sexting with same MOW 2012-2013. Broke it off about a week before I found out.

Update-Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me


Posts: 163 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Gently, I wouldn't assume that the "girl he was seeing twice a month" is necessarily referring to you.

Yes, you do deserve better.


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 350 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, April 25th (Friday)

((((idkam)))) Ick. I'm so sorry.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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idkam
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Member # 18375
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Thx for your responses my fellow SIers....

Damn i never thought he could be talking about another woman but anything is possible.... I'm going to see an apt after work today. Wish me luck... I got approved for the Sprint Framily plan yay....

I'm thinking about taking about $2000 from my 401K because i need a bed and furniture..not sure if i should do that mmmmm decisions decisions....

What say you...


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1800 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Personally I wouldn't touch the 401K because of the taxes/penalties.

Try Freecycle organizations. Habitat for Humanity Restores etc for some of the furniture.


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, April 25th (Friday)

Agreed, 401k should be inviolable. Goodwill and nice second-hand stores or craigslist are great resources.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, April 25th (Friday)

I am so glad to see you are outta there. You derserve so much better than that .........


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, April 26th (Saturday)

idkam.....speaking from my personal experience....do NOT pull money out of your future to meet an immediate need. Do whatever you need to do to get by until you can afford to buy stuff. Walmart sells airbeds for next to nothing. Go to yardsales, check facebook "resell" sites, bite the bullet and get by. This too, shall pass, and you can buy stuff from Habitat for Humanity, Goodwill, hell....all over the place for CHEAP.

Once you pull that money out, it is a bitch to put it back. Don't do it!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
idkam
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, April 26th (Saturday)

Thanks for redirecting my thinking about the 401K....
I like the apt complex so I'm going by there today or tomorrow to pay the application fee and get the ball rolling...

We get WiFI free when you live in the apts around the pool area....I'm not use to living on the 1st floor but oh well first time for everything right?

I'm really excited....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1800 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, April 26th (Saturday)

Oh and by they way. When looking at dressers/tables etc - don't forget when you pick it up cheap you can always get crafty on it to make it something special.

New drawer pulls or some paint can go a long way and can be a fun way to customize things. I even wallpapered drawer fronts once. I also find it makes me feel good to look at the final product and think how it used to look kinda blah and now is unique - and I got it for dirt cheap!


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, April 26th (Saturday)

If you have decent credit, furniture stores offer 6 mos same as cash, no interest payments.

I do a lot of upcycling, most furniture can be turned into something special in a day or weekend. It's turning into a hobby for me! I might try to make money at it soon. Anyway pm me if you want ideas.

I'm excited for you!!!

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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