New Beginnings
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Content  Posted: 3:02 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

I've been dating this new guy for about 7 weeks now. It's going well, we are still in the discovery phase and we are navigating the early dating waters pretty well, steering clear of the icebergs, changing course when we need to (thanks for that analogy cmego) etc. It is interesting to "date like a grown up" for maybe the first time in my life. I'm clearly stating my preferences and my boundaries and he is stepping up and honoring my needs and wants. Wow, what a concept. He admits to being an overthinker about relationship things, and while that is something that has the potential to be problematic, it is so like me too, that I can honor and be patient about it. When he apologized for over thinking, I told him about how I had been "wanting a guy who is introspective and analytical about interactions as I can be that way too" to which he said "Be careful what you wish for". Right?

Normal "getting to know you" stuff is what we are experiencing. Going slowly but not too slowly. He's attentive and shows that he wants to be in a relationship with me. He pursues, plans dates, pays for the meals, remembers what I've said. (I do all those things too in my turn as I am a modern woman ) We've begun to use terms of endearment with each other, which I really really like. It's going well and I'm happy

We live 40 minutes apart so have so far only spent one day/night a week together on dates. Neither of us have spent the night yet. We text every evening for an hour or so if one of us isn't busy doing something else. A text or two during the day is normal for us too. I am enjoying this phase as well as looking forward to spending more time with him as the relationship develops.

This weekend he is traveling to visit one of his dds who lives 6 hours away. He sent a text last night about midnight, after he got back to his hotel after spending the evening with his daughter; "It is interesting how just one night away can make you miss someone so much".

And that made me smile.

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, April 27th (Sunday)


Dating like grownups. Indeed.

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4182 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

Posts: 5982 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, April 27th (Sunday)


divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

Ahhh! Yay, this made me so happy. Good for you two!

Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie

Posts: 382 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Back in the Southeast!
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, April 28th (Monday)

What a lovely post :)

I'm experiencing the same thing - it's wonderful, isn't it?



Posts: 607 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: in the void
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