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4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Exclaimation  Posted: 7:22 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

Is this the right location for this post? If not, I apologize...

Hey guys - What can I do if I'm worried about an SI member that I haven't heard from, isn't responding to PM, and they haven't posted in over a month??

I know people come and go on here...just worried is all...

Any thoughts?? Thanks!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

I usually just ask, "Has anyone heard from XYZ?".

Who is the member you're worried about?


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yearsofpain25
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Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

sometimes the mods will check to see when the last time someone signed on was. I think that's as far as they can go...


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
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4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

haha I guess that makes sense!!

The member is SWANK. I haven't heard from her in over a month, and last we spoke she was leaving on vacation with her W...and that was a month ago!

She will probably read this and think I'm crazy, but I'm just worried for her. I think I watch too much 48 Hours Mystery.


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

Swank last logged in on 3/31. Sometimes members are online steady for weeks/months, then take a break. Also, it depends on what else is going on in their lives.

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4everfaithful83
Member
Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

Thank you Jo2Love!

The 31st is the last time I heard from her. I hope she is doing well.


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)

2 years ago I was absent for a couple of weeks and there was a most thoughtful concerned post asking if anyone had heard from me. My DD14 at the time had an emergency medical situation, then I dropped my phone in the toilet (I post on SI from my phone) so that's why I was gone. So maybe there's something going on that was unexpected. Hopefully she will be back soon.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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Whatever13
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Member # 41468
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, May 1st (Thursday)

I wouldn't be too concerned. I sometimes go months without visiting this site, then something throws me into a tailspin and I come back. In all honesty, my better weeks are the ones when I'm not staring at posts all night here. Not because I don't appreciate SI's function, but because my mind is elsewhere.


Me (BS): 27
Her (WS): 25

DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA

Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.


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WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

Glad I saw this today. I'm hoping someone can check to see if JerseyCowgirl has been on. It's been at least a couple of months since she posted in S/D and her last posts were pretty grim. Any word would be welcomed.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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Mack9512
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Member # 38619
Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

JerseyCowgirl posted in S/D yesterday.


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

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WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, May 2nd (Friday)

That's great! I'll send her a note.
thanks!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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steadfast1973
Member
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, May 2nd (Friday)

Sometimes when things are going well in R (or S/D for that matter ) you have no need to post, or even log in... Often, as time passes, the lengths between log ins gets bigger and bigger. I hadn't logged in in like a year on dday2...


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
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