User Topic: Recommend books for healing during divorce
Member # 38372
Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

I checked out the healing library, seems like most of the book recommendations are geared towards reconciliation.

I have made up my mind to separate and need help building a backbone to stand up to WH when he tries to hoover me back.

Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)

Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan Elliot.

Living and Loving After Betrayal by Steven Stosny.

The Breakup Bible by Rachel Sussman.

I read all of these and found them helpful. The Sussman is the fluffiest, the Stosny is the most calming, and the Elliott is the most practical, quick-and-dirty.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4203 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 42858
Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

Getting past you breakup. Im half way through but love it so far. Practical and direct.

I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

I always recommend The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. It's the only one of these books that really impacted me and which I go back to again and again.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

This is what I am reading and it is fantastic...

"The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie

It is a daily meditation guide. It has a ton of great topics. I highly recommend it!

Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."

Posts: 836 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, May 2nd (Friday)

Getting Past Your Breakup. And do the exercises she suggests!

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10007 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, May 2nd (Friday)

I found Runaway Husbands to be very helpful.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 3477 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
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