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Pass
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Cool  Posted: 1:11 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

What''s going on this week:

First:
13 has been in a "mini-enrichment" program at the university this week, so he is living with me for the week. The Princess tells me that she offered to let him stay with her for one of the weekends because she will miss not seeing him for two weekends (my usual time) plus a full week. She was quite shocked when he answered, "No way."

I would never encourage him to be rude to her, but I have to admit to finding joy in that response. She planted the seeds for that.

Second:
My sister from out west was here from Saturday to today. We drank a metric shitload of wine, and hung out with the kids. When we had time away from the kids, we bitched about The Princess.

Third:
Last night I took my sister and 13 to my weekly open stage. 13 got up on stage with me to do a couple songs, and totally nailed it. We were harmonizing, we were trading off lines and verses, we were frigging amazing - if I may say so.

That all adds up to a fantastic week. Now that my sister has moved on to our parents'' farm, I get some time to hang out with just 13. He has requested a supper of ham and scrambled eggs tonight.

Then on Friday, his little brother gets back here for our usual weekend activity. ''Tis a good week. I''ve been needing one of these lately.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

AWESOME!!!!!!

And so good to read!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

It's wonderful you all had a great time. Life really can be good


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

A good week, indeed!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Woohoo! I am happy for you pass.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Awesome Pass! Thanks for sharing; you deserve it!


“Nothing more completely baffles one who is full of trick and duplicity, than straightforward and simple integrity in another.” ― Charles Caleb Colton

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GreatRoleModel
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Nice...isn''t it great when you can have a connected emotional time with your kids and there is no stress.

[This message edited by GreatRoleModel at 2:53 PM, May 6th, 2014 (Tuesday)]


BS (me)
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DIVORCED!!!
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― Robert Frost

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Like!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Definitely hitting the like button.

She was quite shocked when he answered, "No way."

Amazing how actions have consequences. Why on earth would anyone want to spend time with someone who threatens to stab them with a butter knife? Oh yeah, the Princess's Sh!t doesn't stink.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Love good weeks! Soon it will be good months!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Sounds awesome!


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Thanks y''all!

And Gem gets the prize for observing something that The Princess will NEVER figure out:

Amazing how actions have consequences. Why on earth would anyone want to spend time with someone who threatens to stab them with a butter knife?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

Awesome week Pass


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

We drank a metric shitload of wine,

Kind of like the post card saying "wish you were here"
Glad you had some great time with sis. I think I'll text my brother and plan us a get together. Thank you Pass for sparking the idea!!!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Wanted to reply to the music part of your post, so awesome! It's amazing when one of our own interests clicks with our kids.

We are having similar experience here because my piano arrived yesterday, yay!

It takes up most of the living room but I couldn't part with it-it's an heirloom. I was so excited I wanted to share that it didn't get lost to divorce because of anon financial donor to move it.

So yesterday DD11 made a big mess of my books because she wanted to find her books from when I was teaching her a few years ago.

As the baby ages he can sit and play for minutes at a time, so I can bang something out if he sits where I can see him. We haven't gotten DD11's clarinet out-it's an apartment building with wood floors so loud, but is tempting.

And I, too, love when she makes fun of her father and OW-it's more and more often, though I do not encourage it, a good snicker now and again is pretty good. It's cool that they are starting to stand up for themselves and see the "forest through the trees". Kids are amazing little people...they are in there and always, always listening.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:30 PM, May 10th (Saturday)]


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You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

I''m so glad you have your piano, Ash. That''s great!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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