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Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

I think it went great, we went to the woman that has been my IC since DDay. I wasn't really sure if that was going to be a good idea or not, I pictured my WH being defensive because she has been my IC.

It was just the opposite, he was so open and honest. It was like he was starving for guidance. I don't think he ever really tried in IC because nobody could dispute him or call bullshit on him. When we left he said he really liked this MC and what he liked the best is that she called him on his bullshit.

I don't think I am grasping at straws I see some hope, maybe separating and starting MC was what he needed to get kicked into gear.

My favorite part was the MC saying to him "Look this is not going to go away anytime soon and the only way to get through it to the other side is ALOT of hard work, so sign up or sign out."

I have had a really good day and I am very grateful for it. Yesterday even turned out pretty great after I wrote why that date hurt and let it go. WH and I worked on the garden together (for the first time ever) and I had a good time.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

I am hopeful for you, Breezy.

Keep watering those flowers. Maybe that can be your new thing.

Have you read the 5 Love Languages? Might be a good time to pick that up.

Take care!
LA


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2431 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Breezy150
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Member # 42421
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

I read it a lot of years ago, probably time for a refresher. I will do that.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
Hope2B
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Member # 40474
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday)

My favorite part was the MC saying to him "Look this is not going to go away anytime soon and the only way to get through it to the other side is ALOT of hard work, so sign up or sign out."
This is great!


Me: early 60s
Him: 65 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo or maybe ever 4x/mo

Posts: 359 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: out west/west coast U.S.A.
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