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User Topic: Some progress made...
hurtyetstrong
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Member # 38372
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, May 9th (Friday)

I've been on and off this board since last February. I've finally committed to divorcing my WH and have taken the following steps:

Hired an attorney who has everything ready to file
Scheduled movers to pick up my belongings
Packed away a few things from my house that WH wouldn't notice are missing
Dropped off clothes and other essentials to my parents' house
Applied for jobs and had 2 interviews - job #2 wants me back for a second interview
Searched for home/apartment, had a couple viewings


WH is currently away at military training. He comes back tomorrow which is the day of our daughter's birthday party. So Sunday I plan to confront that it's over. Tuesday movers are supposed to come for the rest of my belongings. Lawyer will send paperwork to court on Tuesday so he should be served by the end of this week or beginning of next.

Prayers, good vibes and happy thoughts needed. Thank you for all the support and 2x4's!!!


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
one2ndchance
Member
Member # 14759
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, May 9th (Friday)

Kudos to you for being organized and ready. This is a great show of strength.


Me: BW 60
Him: STBXWH 62
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/2014

Posts: 486 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California
myowndystopia
Member
Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, May 9th (Friday)

The one thing I did - which I think I got from SI was got a credit card in my name. so if you don't have one I'd suggest add that to your list. I did that back in November. Of course I was crying when I did it and said just for emergencies so low limit. I said like $250-$500. The lady at bank laughed and said that amount would cover very few emergencies. So went to $1000. I use it a little every month and pay it off each month. My credit score is going up! And Im a little worried about the cash flow after I pay for all the mediation stuff this month so I just doubled my limit. STBXWH has a credit card but I always stick with debit. Just another tip.....

Sending positive thoughts your way!!!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
hurtyetstrong
Member
Member # 38372
Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

I do have a credit card and my own checking account that I opened over a year ago in case we eventually went down this road. I'm so glad I had the foresight...


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
Topic Posts: 4