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MammaMia
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Member # 34030
Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

Why did you choose you SI name? What is the meaning behind it?


My SI name does not have any specific meaning. Before I found SI, I was cruising other infidelity sites. In one of them there was a member with this name. When I found SI and had to come up with a name, this is what popped up in my head.

PS: Personally, I do not like the movie. Sorry to the ones who do.

[This message edited by MammaMia at 9:13 AM, May 10th (Saturday)]


And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

Posts: 865 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Somewhere in the South
decimus
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Member # 40975
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

@MammaMia, your name definitely brings a musical note to mind.

I choose my nickname based on my typical initial reaction to stressful situations. I am happy to report that that as I get older, I have been able to tone it down.


There are just some things you never get over.
That is just the way it is.
You go on through as best as you can.

Posts: 6 | Registered: Oct 2013
DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Member # 42294
Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

Name says it all. Im really hoping my relationship can survive!




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
inconnu
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Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

this username - means unknown in French. When I picked it, it was right after I found out now-ex and OW/wifetress had been cyberstalking me here and elsewhere online. I just wanted to be anonymous and unknown, somewhere. And since I was so upset, I completely forgot that French has masculine and feminine versions of words... oh well, it is what it is, and a lot of people here now know who I am IRL, so it doesn't matter anymore. I've obviously gotten over my need to be anonymous.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12146 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

@ inconnu
so funny!
Mine's the same - just little 'ol initials...

Posts: 6572 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I really dislike my SI name. When I was trying to register (and I had problems and I needed Admin help) I was very distraught. Wasn't thinking very clearly. I started to use a name that started with "Sister" that I used in some other places and is a family name my sibs had for me that was a joke. (think of a very Catholic school girl name and add "Sister" to it) The name is my IRL name, and I realized I wanted to be anonymous. I was with a group of friends the day before and we were talking about the "Milkshake" song and it just popped into my head to use "milkshake". Ugh. So inappropriate.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9639 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Sparkle0504
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Member # 40379
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

Actually SMS I think your name's way cool!

Mine is my nickname - probs a bit tmi, but after my xh and I split, I decided to go on a voyage of sexual self-discovery. After the first time (KWIM? ) I went out with friends and they told me I looked all sparkly ("OMG did you get laid??!!")...and the name stuck.

Not feeling quite so sparkly now though

[This message edited by Sparkle0504 at 10:19 AM, May 10th (Saturday)]


Me 44 (BS)
Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
Children - two, mine from my previous marriage
Final straw 6/6/14

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies


Posts: 195 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I wanted a name that wouldn't reflect my emotional state at the time. Somehow I knew that I would heal, even though I didn't believe it. I didn't want to be stuck with "bawlingmyfrickin'eyesout,can'timaginelifegettingbetter,IneedtobewithhimorI'lldie" forever. I chose a name reflective of a portion of my heritage and the heritage of my children. That is who I am not the emotions of the moment.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Furious1
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Member # 42970
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I'm not very original or creative. When I found this site, I was so furious at my WH that my hands were shaking. I like my name. It reminds me that my anger and my outrage is natural and normal. As my IC puts it, it is my inner guide that tells me what I can and can not live with in my life.


BW: 41
WH: 48
Married 18 years. SD: 25 from his 1st. M. DS: 20 from 1st M. DD: 16 (autistic)

D-day: Oct. 2013 with ongoing revelations.
6 affairs, 1 OC, My sister was OW#5 with countless attempted A's.
Considering R but fully ready to D.


Posts: 292 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: United States
DepressedDaddy
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Member # 41521
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

Mine says it all, although I wish I would have thought about what IrishLass said in hers, for when I was picking out a name. I am not very depressed anymore, but now people have come to know me by this name, so I wear it like a badge of honor.

I definitely picked my name a few days after D-Day, so I was in a different state of mind.


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."


Posts: 751 | Registered: Dec 2013
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

SisterMilkshake - For the record, I love your user name! I don't think of that song at all. I think of this local place in town that serves up the best ice cream and milk shakes.

I was dumbstruck and speechless when I joined this site. Literally at a loss for words. Then I remembered that Iron Maiden had a song called "Losfer Words". For anonymity's sake, I figured if anyone googled my name, they would see a bunch of Iron Maiden links. And there you have it.

ETA: I can haz grammerz.

[This message edited by LosferWords at 11:01 AM, May 10th (Saturday)]


Posts: 7004 | Registered: Dec 2010
TrustedHer
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Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I don't usually post on these threads.

I figure people can guess why I chose my name...


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5153 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Ascendant
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Member # 38303
Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

Well, originally my username was 'FacePunched'

That one came about because when I found pictures of OM's dick in my wife's deleted emails, I literally felt punched in the face.

I changed it a few months back during a fit of happiness because I was feeling generally pretty positive about my life.

Ascendant:
1. proceeding upwards; rising
2. dominant, superior, or influential

I think the first definition fits for my improving mood, and the second fits insofar as how I feel in regards to control/responsibility of my own life and/or happiness.

I didn't dislike my original username per se, but I wanted to go to some G2Gs, and I dreaded the thought of introducing myself to another human being as 'FacePunched'. That's probably silly.

The only gripe I have is that it very nicely shortened to 'FP' for people to use in responses, whereas my new one doesn't have a great shortened version, yet.

[This message edited by Ascendant at 11:10 AM, May 10th (Saturday)]


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2064 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Unagie
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Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I'd love to change mine. It was an old name I used for just about everything for years. Didn't really think I just used what I knew I'd remember.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


Posts: 2727 | Registered: Oct 2012
DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Member # 42294
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, May 10th (Saturday)

I dreaded the thought of introducing myself to another human being as 'FacePunched'. That's probably silly.

I literally lol'd!

Still better then FOMDIWDE....Facepunched, sums it up. Glad youve gotten to a better place with a healthier name!




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
Branca
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Member # 42837
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Now you've got me wondering.

I chose this name before D-Day #2. This is a nickname WH calls me, it's an affectionate name.

It's kind of ironic, isn't it, that I should choose this nickname, which in our former marriage signified love and affection. And yet the reason I am here is because he failed to honour that love and affection, and I am furious with him, and even feel numb toward him and would react sarcastically to his attempts to show affection.

I don't even understand quite why I chose it. Perhaps it is a subliminal longing to regain that affectionate bond.


Me: BW, 36
Him: WH, 36
Married 13 years
2 children aged 9 and 5

DD #1 26 August 2013 - EA on FB and phone with a former flame OW#2 for about 8 months
DD #2 30 April 2014 - EA/PA for 10 months in 2011 with OW#1
Hoping for R


Posts: 119 | Registered: Mar 2014
RedRaven6500
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Member # 39626
Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Mine was originally my initials and last name, easy to remember. However, I changed it when I realized that one of the OWs was stalking me online. It would have told her exactly who I was. I also told my fWH about this site, hoping that he would take advantage of the site himself and learn something. I changed it so he wouldn't know it was me. He never joined, as far as I know. RedRaven is a user name I used online, back in the day, when a user name was all you needed to post comments, etc. on sites. I have red hair and ravens are some of the most resilient and intelligent birds around. Seemed fitting. :)


BW: Me 42, WH: Him 42, Married: 22 years
DD: 21, DS: 20 both in college
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 "serious" long-distance A's, several casual A's, some at the same time. Classy.
In R

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jun 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

I recently changed my name so this thread is good timing. My new name is a play on words of where I was at when I got here and where I'm at today.

When I got here I was a disaster like most of us were. I had knots of anxiety and panic attacks every day. I barely left my bedroom let alone the house. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I couldn't think straight. I was A Frayed Knot.

Today I am Afraid Not. I am no longer afraid of speaking my mind. I am no longer afraid of standing my ground. I am no longer afraid of whatever the future holds.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2580 | Registered: Aug 2012
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Ostrich....head in sand by choice . Hopefully one day I will be, soaring eagle the 80.is just a significant number to me.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:07 PM, May 10th (Saturday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5022 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Sad in AZ
Member
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Well, I started with SI in AZ, moved to TX and now I'm in NY.

I guess I'm just Happy in the USA


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20144 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

Sistermilkshake - I love your name! Some of you others have some really creative ones as well!

Mine was just the first thing that came to mind when I signed up...followed by my birth year!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
lovehonorcherish
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Member # 41843
Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

lovehonorcherish...the promise I made the day I married and a promise I intended to keep for the rest of my life. Life and the WH had other plans for me though...


I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 125 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
brokensunflower
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Member # 38674
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

My s I name is what's it is I am broken and I love sunflowers


me 33
him 32
5 wonderful kids 12 yrs 8 yrs 5 yrs 4 yrs and 2 yrs ..and new baby
married 10 years together for 12 yrs
working on R

my give a damn is busted


Posts: 220 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: cold ohio
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, May 10th (Saturday)

I tried my initials: pas. I wasn''t allowed that one, so I just threw the other s on the end. I recently decided to capitalize the first letter. After some work with my shrink, I''ve decided that I''m a real person too - and real people have a capital letter at the beginning of their name!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1894 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Thella
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Member # 43236
Default  Posted: 6:26 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

My name is inspired by Othello. My inner lit major often references Shakespeare in response to major life events. Either that or The Simpsons, but the Othello reference felt more appropriate thematically

Posts: 39 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: East Coast
mike7
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Member # 38603
Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

mine is purposely anonymous. it has no connection with anything. my name isn't Mike. But I like the name Mike, perhaps because of the Archangle.

[This message edited by mike7 at 6:39 AM, May 11th (Sunday)]


BH 53
WW 52
Two kids 21, 18

DDay 1/15/2013


Posts: 542 | Registered: Mar 2013
madsadalone
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Member # 39201
Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Still mad, still somewhat sad, but I was never alone. Just didn't realize that at time.


Me: BS 47
Him:WH 55
M: 27 yrs
DD 4/29/13
3 kids (25,23,22

Posts: 82 | Registered: May 2013
WarpSpeed
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Member # 32051
Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Came home to a note on the bed and an empty closet.

1 month later she filed

2 months after that we were divorced

1 month after that she left the state and moved back to her hometown.

1 month after that she finally told me about the A that I never knew had happened and we decided to reconcile.

1 month after that we got remarried on what would have been our 23rd anniversary.

In six and half months I experienced her leaving, filing, divorcing, moving, a belated D-Day and remarriage.

It wasn't until almost a year later that I found SI and I was looking at how fast that all went and thought Warp Speed.

[This message edited by WarpSpeed at 6:57 AM, May 11th (Sunday)]


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 26 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1489 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

I'm not a mom- willie is my much loved welsh corgi. I was trying to be anonymous.

However, my brother became a victim of infidelity about a year after me, so I told him about SI.

An hour later, he called me and said " you're willies mom, right?"

So much for anonymous.....


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7638 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Sadmumma
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Member # 42192
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Mines pretty obvious. I joined on my d day...(I think?) I never thought about long term.


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 535 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

I didn't want to be stuck with "bawlingmyfrickin'eyesout,can'timaginelifegettingbetter,IneedtobewithhimorI'lldie" forever.

I'm pretty sure I tried that name and it was taken.

My memory of that time is vague but I remember really struggling to find a name that wasn't already taken. I'm pretty sure the first name I tried was IJustCantFuckingBelieveIt!!

I think it actually delayed my registration for a while. I lurked for almost 2 months before posting only a few days before the start of False R. Anyone who knows me IRL would most likely recognise me by my posts.

I came up with StrongButBroken and it was accepted! It ended up being quite a fitting name. I am incredibly strong and incredibly broken all at the same time. I'm a lot less broken these days. Still not yet unbroken though.

I changed it to SBB a while ago because the old name didn't feel like it fit anymore. I wasn't keen on a full name change and SBB can be anything I'd like it to be. Right now I'm feeling Strong Bolshy Brave.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5553 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Lucky2HaveMe
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Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

During TT my H kept saying me he was sooooo "Lucky to have me"... Maybe there should have been a ? at the end of the name because when I came here I sure didn't feel lucky.

But the name fits still to this day

Sister - Your name always makes the song "Sister Christian" run through my mind


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6355 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

I was feeling kind of Bolshy last night!
I start talking in cursive when that happens.

Posts: 6572 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
gahurts
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Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Started to write out why it hurts so much to be in GA. The list is long and depressing. Suffice it to say that since I've moved to GA I've gotten beat up a bunch and it seems to be continuing. Maybe I need to change my name to something like Satisfied in the south or happy in the hills or something like that to give me some good Karma.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3415 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Zayda1
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Member # 35387
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Zayda is my dog's name. Zayda is Yiddish for Grandfather. I am not Jewish and my dog is female...we named her that because we liked the name (saw it on a dog we wanted to rescue from the pound).

It also is a reminder that OW is an idiot. I remember taking out kids to the park for a playdate and I asked her to walk my dog because I was having an issue with my youngest child and needed my hands free. OW didn't know how to walk a dog. She looked like an idiot because my 25 pound dog was in total control and kept trying to run away from her. Makes me laugh when I think about how much my dog hated her.


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 465 | Registered: Apr 2012
phoenixrivers
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Member # 38314
Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

I like river phoenix, but that's a tragic name. To honor him I reversed the nouns. I like the implication of resurrection as well.


Me: xBetrayedBF (xBBF)
Her: xWaywardGF (xWGF)
TT: 12/21/12
Splitsville: 1/6/13
DDay: 7/20/13
In active reconcilliation
"Nobody knows anybody...not that well." Tom Reagan, "Miller's Crossing"

Posts: 136 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Orleans, LA
solus sto
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Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

My first name was one that was quick and easy--and easily identified me to OW, who liked to join my husband in harvesting my pain as evidence of how horrible I was as a wife.

So I picked another. Mine means, "I stand alone." It fits.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8674 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
LovelyDaffodils
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Member # 42822
Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, May 11th (Sunday)

Mine is from the Cranberries song, Daffodil Lament.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRCUK18-JV4

When I came here, I was looking for answers to help me see my clear path. Right now it's clear as mud. But for some reason I have always thought-for years when listening to the song, that my relationship with WH would end in this sort of way. That I would be able to one day decide to see the daffodils instead of continuing to hang on. Those thoughts go back to the beginning of our relationship. Before As, even when we were just starting. Did I always know he wasn't right for me? I just thought it was natural/normal to continually doubt a relationship. I now think I was most likely wrong about that.


BS me 49
WS 42
OW easy NSA he says he told he was single
9 mo A
DDay 1/3/14
TT 2 wks later
still waiting for the rest
Married 11 yrs
Together 20
In house S, Divorcing

Posts: 73 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Southeast US
twitching
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Member # 42399
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

Since the trauma of finding out, my hands (especially my thumbs but sometimes all of my fingers) twitch and shake. My right eye twiches and spasms. My right leg shakes and bounces uncontrollably.

Plus i like that my name has "witch" in it. For some odd reason that makes me smile.

[This message edited by twitching at 12:25 PM, May 11th (Sunday)]


"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
Vulcanized
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Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

Totally roundabout riff on what XH used to call me.

My original name would have been a dead giveaway, so I had to change it when XH was stalking me on a diff site. He'd never make the connection that it was me.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 745 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Gunsmith
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Member # 42761
Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

Mine is my hobby....would love to make a living out of it one day.

Posts: 11 | Registered: Mar 2014
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

Because I played Nikola Tesla to ex-shat's Thomas Edison.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4619 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
jrc1963
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Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, May 11th (Sunday)

Mine are my initials plus a year that is actually more important to FWSO than myself...

I guess I wasn't thinking clearly... but since we've R'd I guess it's ok.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24504 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
trumanshow
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Member # 25624
Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, May 12th (Monday)

The Jim Carrey movie-my life was a lie and I was oblivious


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
idiot85
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Member # 38934
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Mine's because I kept messing up registering- ended up having to send an email like "this this and this are all me because i thought it didn't work so registered again then again and again blah blah blah" what an idiot and 85 because that's how old I am...29 not 85. Idiot fits


BH-29 (me)
WW-28

Multi famam, conscientiam, pauci verentur.


Posts: 575 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Old Blighty
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Mine was what I did for a living at the time. It was really my safe place, and my respite from the whole total obsession of my time and energy. Without it I lacked the ability to stand up on my own, and walk away if I needed to.

Plus it makes people smile a bit.

I am no longer a nurse of tushes, but spend my days helping to get people the resources they need, and to help them learn how to be healthier, and take better care of themselves. I do think this experience allows me to be more empathetic, and empowering at the same time.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8433 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, May 12th (Monday)

I registered on a site with an ID that bears absolutely no relation to my real name - 'soon'. I wanted the pain to be over soon.

They trashed SI on that site because SI treats WSes as human beings. I didn't see how I could R unless I saw my W as a human being, so I checked out SI and liked what I found.

I became 'soon on si' - 'sisoon' is the easiest way to say that....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10057 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Wayflost
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Member # 41583
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Mine is because I immediately recognized that I am: Way F***ing Lost.

Pretty much sums me up. I'm lost.


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

Appalled by my actions, and the choice to set off several atomic bombs in my life.


Posts: 391 | Registered: Dec 2013
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Mine relates to diving, which is a hobby I have enjoyed. I didn't want anything pain or mom related. I wanted something about ME and this reminds me that sometimes the best strategy is just to take a breath.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6428 | Registered: Jan 2011
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Ahh, I was wondering how you came up with your name, Rebreather. Mine is my first/middle initial and my age when I joined. That simple.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2281 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
deena04
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Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Nickname plus had to pick a number or something since deena itself was taken. (Hi deena)...and on a side note, I love the name SisterMilkshake. It just sounds cool.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 946 | Registered: Dec 2013
EZ4U
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Member # 37703
Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, May 12th (Monday)

EZ4U. Cause it was easy for him to cut and run.. Ex's life not 2EZ no more.


"I shall Forgive and Forget.
Forgive myself for being stupid and Forget about you."

Posts: 38 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Central Florida
1Faith
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Member # 38975
Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, May 12th (Monday)

1Faith came from my looking for grace and courage to get through the mess that my FWH and the OW created.

I was so lost at times the only thing I could do to get through the day was give it up to God.

Thankfully He was always there just like my SI friends.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1137 | Registered: Apr 2013
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, May 12th (Monday)

It's my love experience in 8 letters(though not limited to). Five for five for real. Five long term relationships, five cheating women. Need a new picker.

Wayflost, new respect for you. I read waif lost. Completely different take.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2803 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
MissesJai
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Member # 24849
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, May 12th (Monday)

Jai is my nickname and H often refers to me as "The Misses" so I just put them together and voila! MissesJai


FWW - 41
Fawk you.....pay me!

Posts: 5893 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
TheRealDeal
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Member # 39560
Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, May 13th (Tuesday)

On Dday3 I told fWS that he had no idea what he was losing in me, that I was the-real-deal and he'd only realize it when I was gone.


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
Topic Posts: 56