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jackfish
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 12th (Monday)

Haven't posted on here in awhile. DDay was 7/13. Sep shortly after that. So, after all the grief, etc., here I am, still "sane" after 10mos. I hired a lawyer back last summer, and put forth everything he asked of me to begin "the process". I get notification in early April that STBX finally has a lawyer, or is at least taking action. She lives with the slimeball and is engaged to him! I really don't care at this point(I won't re-explain my sitch cuz I've done so on here in the past). Anyway, God this stuff is slowwwwwww. There should hardly be anything to contest, and I don't believe she's the one making things difficult. Just slow lawyers/legal-stuff I'm guessing.

At this point, man I just wanna move on. I've done almost everything I can to be improve myself and become better than ever. But, I hit the end of the leash because I still have the LEGAL BULLSHIT to wait for! You know, the settling of the house/cars, other assets, the forms to fill, any debt, bla bla bla. Arrrgghhh. I fully cooperate and paid the retaining fee, etc. To me, this should take far less time than it has been. Has this drove anyone else nuts waiting ""patiently"" for the final stages to happen?!

[This message edited by jackfish at 11:22 AM, May 12th (Monday)]


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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, May 12th (Monday)

Oh hell yes! The legal stuff takes forever, even when the STBX doesn't contest anything!

Part of the delay is just busy lawyers doing their schtick. Okay, I can deal with that. It's frustrating and slow, but at least progress was being made.

Now my idiot STBX is letting his lawyer run up the fees by renegotiating things we've already agreed on! (I'm remembering that there was a reason I handled all the paperwork in our household.)

Sounds like your STBX was too busy living in La-La-Land to deal with reality. She probably only got a lawyer because she suddenly realized, "Oh, I can't get married until I'm divorced." At least she has a reason not to drag it out. But that would require sane reasoning, and we all know how that goes.

But I hear you. The whole process just sucks.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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jackfish
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, May 12th (Monday)

Wow Gem71, Perfectly put! Thank you. And I wish you the best with YOUR situation.
I know there's an end at some point. But like a rash, my impatience sometimes flares up. Like being stuck in rush-hour traffic, lol.

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kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, May 12th (Monday)

As Woody Allen once said, "my wife and I couldn't decide whether we should take a vacation to Bermuda, or get a divorce. We decided on the divorce because a vacation lasts a few days, but a divorce is forever."

You could change that quote to "getting a divorce takes forever".


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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