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Acer0112
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Member # 43241
Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)

I guess it's the feeling like my world is caving in, changing too fast, being lonely and sad, worrying about the kids, trying to find a job with summer starting, preparing our financial and parenting plan paperwork for mediation in two weeks, that I'm having a hard time focusing on preparing the house to sell.

Yes, I feel like my feet are in molasses, I'm waiting for WH to give me the 'why are you dragging your feet' speech. It's my weekend with the kids, but we are now spending it de-cluttering, fixing, and cleaning. With soccer tournament and garage sale mixed in. fun.

I know we have to sell the house, I know we are going to have to find rentals or some miracle to buy a new smaller house, I know it has to happen now while selling season...I just can't motivate.

I do get started, and then get sidetracked with the memories, photos, kids art, 9 years in this house - we were going to move out when the kids went to college...reminds me of the plans that never will be...the memories we had...the what is not anymore.

How do I train my brain to shut off and move forward....


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids 13, 11
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 201 | Registered: Apr 2014
BeHappyAgain
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Member # 41289
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry. :( I wish I had words of wisdom, but I'm facing the same struggle with the house situation. Hugs to you.

Posts: 111 | Registered: Nov 2013
one2ndchance
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Member # 14759
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)

I asked for D at the end of summer, so we missed the selling season and I didn't want to be rushed. You shouldn't feel rushed either.

If you get the "dragging your feet" speech, tell him to go pound sand. As your kids might say...he isn't the boss of you. Don't feel like you have to jump when he says "jump." Take your time, starting with one room at a time. Get a bunch of boxes and start organizing. Accidentally, throw some of his crap in the Goodwill boxes. Then when he asks for it, say, "I don't know where it is." That's what I did with some of my STBXWH's stuff.


Me: BW 60
Him: STBXWH 62
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorce final: 9/2014

Posts: 486 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California
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