OW's baby daddy actually lives a couple houses down from her parents. I mean, how sick is that? You just fuck the guy down the street who has a wife and family?
And she was married to a different guy when ex and her started their affair, and my ex actually worked with him. Her BH knew way before I did, and I'm pretty pissed he never told me. But he knew another of my mutual friends, and we ended up chatting over a Facebook a couple months ago, and that's how I found out about OW's son..
I have no idea why ex and OW feel the need to lie so much. I saved the texts between OW and I, so I'll just share some of them here.. Some backstory is that I had left the marital home with the kids and stayed with my parents since FTFred refused to leave and was escalating his anger and abuse and my first lawyer was no help at all getting exclusive use. And OW and her kid moved into our house almost immediately when I left..
These text exchanges were from August of 2013. I was emailing with FTFred trying to work out some scheduling issues, and she just texted me out of the blue.. I had already tried to warn her that he was cheating with another girl from his work, but she decided not to believe me..
I should have gone with crickets from the beginning...
OW: would u just leave FTFred the alone shit
ME: You should mind your business. And I should mind mine. I don't need my friends telling me how they keep seeing FTFred at the bar kissing a long haired blonde. That's your problem now.
OW: he is my business and that's funny bc he's always with me
is that another one of your lies to make u look good in court
ME: Florida is a no fault state. Cheating doesn't matter. It's just another truth that makes you look naive.
OW: ur fuckin crazy bc he's ALWAYS with me bitch.... just leave him the fuck alone psycho bitch
ME: No wonder the kids come home cursing every week. You guys should work on your anger issues.
And I'm trying to coparent with him if you didn't notice, so get used to me having to communicate with FTFred and mind your own business.
OW: we don't curse around the kids or let them curse so nice try... we don't have anger issues ur just mental and really need to get some serious help
ME: Gee, I'm really gonna that to heart from an abusive lying cheat.. Unless you're encouraging him to be reasonable to his wife, just mind your business, k?
OW: no u aren't ur sending ridiculous messages just trying to start shit... u get used to it bc it is my business
ME: Can't wait for you to figure out what's really going on. Don't say I didn't warn you, and don't come crying to me..
OW: it is my business and u guys aren't together so i wouldn't refer to u as his wife.... and he IS NOT ABUSIVE or a liar or cheater so it would be nice if u didn't refer to him as such. .... just quit harassing him all the time and there wouldn't be a problem.. i understand u guys have to talk regarding the kids but u don't have to say some of the things u say to him
ME: He's not a lying cheat?? Lol.
How about you tell him to just answer my questions and we could stop emailing back and forth so much.
I would be happy to have the title of ex wife if he would just agree to the best things for the kids and not make me go to trial to get it.
Until then, I am wife, and you are mistress.
OW: he puts the kids first unlike u putting them in the middle of your made up shit... ur not the wife and sorry I'm not the mistress .... u really need to grow up
ME: Yeah, everyone's right. You can't argue with crazy.. Open your eyes honey.
You are the very definition of a mistress. Lying to yourself doesn't change it..
OW: yep and u r the crazy one... my eyes r open i just know the difference between reality and fantasy unlike u
ME: At least you have company since you're not his only mistress.
OW: lol i really don't care what names u call me or FTFred it's not going to change the way we feel about each other... keep making up more lies
ME: I would have appreciated a decent coparenting relationship with you, but after the toilet thing, the rated R movie, the spanking, the forcing my children to lie to me, cursing and sleeping with him right in front of my children before they have even accepted our divorce, I just don't see how you can be reasonable at all. You even lie to my kids now about the status of your relationship. You are as bad as he is..
OW: all a bunch of lies u made up... the only reason we don't tell the kids is bc we we're going to wait to tell them that's not something u just go and tell kids i mean really i thought u could at least understand that.. do u really want us to tell them we're together?
ME: I prefer the truth. Though i do admit "daddy has a mistress and broke up his family for her" is a hard one..
If you really wanna coparent, let me know how they react when you tell them you've been lying to them all this time..
And I know this will be a hard one for you guys, but being parents is about having morals and setting an example. Sleeping with another woman while still married wasn't something I was hoping to teach my sons.
OW: lol ur such a dirty bitch ... u really don't think about the kids do u
ME: Nice deflection. You two are the ones who blew up their world.
All for a 5 inch dick, how sad for them..
And DS10 knows already. He said FTFred told you, "you better play or I'll dump you."
He knows you guys are together. You've made it more than obvious. Try the truth for once..
(Here I send a pic of a DVD of an Adam Sandler movie called "That's My Boy", a rated R movie ￼with cursing, drugs, cocaine, marijuana, nudity, etc, that they gave to my kids..)
ME: And that's not the movie DS10 said you bought for them to watch? Yeah, all a lie...
Really wish he would just stay with Twink (the other woman FTFred was cheating with). Even at 21, she is way smarter than you..
OW: sorry i never got that movie for them nice try bitch... lol he's not with Twink he's with me get use to it
ME: And I'm his ex and DS10 and DS6's mother, so keep your wicked witch of the west nose out of our business.
OW: it is my business bitch get use to it
ME: Mistresses don't get a say.
Especially not ones that wreck homes and set bad examples for the children.
If you didn't want the kids to know, you shouldn't have involved them.
Real nice that my kids knew you before I did. Most cheating men would just keep the kids away from their affair partners, not involve them and have them lie to the wife.
You guys have done nothing but lie to them and fuck with their minds..
And you tell me to learn fantasy versus reality, when you guys are creating a fantasy world for my kids instead of teaching them reality.
What a mindfuck you guys are putting them through..
"Yeah kids. She's here EVERY day, and we lock the bedroom door and pretend she leaves, and we just hang out so you guys can see (OW's son), and friends sleep together, and (OW) and I are just friends." Real smooth.. I'm sure they are buying it. Thanks for setting such a good example of what adult "friends" do.
My opinion is you should tell them the truth or stay the hell away while he has them once in a while.. If you're a family now, act like one. If you're not, then give him a chance to be a dad without his "friend" there every time.
And since you admit you are ALWAYS with him, maybe you could help him with the city and water and electric on the house so he can start paying some child support. He's down thousands in retroactive.
ME: Is that your "ha ha I got his money face?"
Nice, way to put the kids and their financial support first..
OW: sorry but i buy him stuff and go grocery shopping i don't take his money
u really do need some serious mental help
ME: And FTFred needs some legal help.
His mistakes will start catching up to him very soon.
If you were a good widdle girlfriend, you'd tell him to pay his child support on time.
Taking his electricity and water IS taking his money.. Have you seen the bills?? They are not amounts for a single man with kids a couple days a month.
His child support should come first. I would tell you to remember that in case you ever have a kid with him, but thank God he said you can't have anymore..
OW: lol u wish
like u that have mommy and daddy paying for everything
ME: Well since FTFred is a deadbeat, yeah, I'm lucky I have people who help me give them a good life.
You should laugh at FTFred for not being able to support his kids.
OW: lol grow up
wtf ever dads have the same rights as moms shouldn't you be working anyways oh wait u never do that
ME: And just wait till his work records come in. You know how many times he lied under oath??
OW: lol ur delusional sorry but everything isn't your way bitch
ME: We will see then. Good luck..
You picked the wrong family. You picked the wrong wife to mess with. And all I had to do was give you guys enough rope to hang yourselves.
Tell him to stop being a deadbeat and support his kids already..
OW: ohhhhh wow u got a couple emails from April... go ask mommy and Daddy what u r gonna do next
ME: Lol. Just wait..
OW: lol u wait
ME: Real original. I'll assume you're a dropout just like him..
OW: lol sorry but your assumption is wrong grow up quit trying to put him down all the time
ME: Yeah, he cheats, mindfucks my kids, dunks my sick kids head in the toilet, brings his mistress around my kids before the divorce is final, doesn't pay child support, has horrible parenting techniques, and I'm supposed to be extra sweet to him?
I'm business professional in my communications with him. Perhaps he misses me and that's why he's so rude. You know, like the boy who pulls the girls hair on the playground?
I don't miss him, but I'm sure as hell he misses me and his old life and all the friends he lost. Hope you are worth it, but I'm doubting it..
You helped turn him into his dad. Congratulations.
Now if I can just break the cycle and prevent my boys from turning into abusive assholes, I will have done a good job..
Would be nice having your help preventing the cycle, but you're just part of the problem. Laughing at him dunking their heads. Yeah, real funny. The type of shit an abusive person would do and tell you "its just a joke" and to laugh about it. You guys are some sick fucks. Can't believe you don't see a problem with that.
Finding out you slept with him knowing he was married was your first strike.
Finding out you involved the kids and forced them to lie to me was your second strike.
Laughing at my SICK sons head being put in a toilet? Strike 3. You're out. Don't ever expect me to respect you.
ETA: For anyone that doesn't know, I ended up wiping the floor with his ass at trial. I got the house back, the schedule I wanted, the parenting plan I wanted with me being the tiebreaker if we can't agree on parenting decisions, and his wages are being garnished. Yeah, suck on that OW...