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User Topic: A kick into positive?
Sadjacey
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Member # 41655
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, May 23rd (Friday)

I'm doing it so hard at the moment. I think I was probably more positive about dealing with this just after DDay. Now I can't seem to kick myself into a positive frame - have you been able to do it? I really need tips if this marriage is going to make it.


Me: BS 59
WH: 60
Married 39 years
Together more than 40
Porn use known since 2005
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute,
Disclosure: TT for months. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 2.20 2014 phone, txt to same prostitute found

Posts: 138 | Registered: Dec 2013
jjsr
Member
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, May 23rd (Friday)

that's the rollercoaster of emotions that all BS go thru. Hang on because it will get better and then worse etc for awhile


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1629 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
devasted30
Member
Member # 39439
Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, May 24th (Saturday)

Hi. I am about a year ahead of you and while there are better times now they don't last very long before I get all consumed with everything again. Are you still going to IC, MC? Have you talked to your therapist about this? They have ways to help us cope. This roller coaster ride has been going on, for me, for 19 months now and isn't showing any signs of stopping in the near future. They say 3-5 years. Yep, I believe it. Problem is, you are now past the "shock" stage and into the WTF stage. Wish I could tell you tomorrow it will be better but.........
All I can tell you is that eventually the goo days will come more often and the horrible thoughts will slightly weaken. And everyday will get Infinitesimally better.

Posts: 1187 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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