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User Topic: he is disgusted by me
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, May 26th (Monday)

Last night he got out of bed last night and slept on the couch I asked him why this morning and he said he couldn't sleep next to me anymore because he was so disgusted. How do I change this. I am so desperate to fix my marriage im ready to do anything.I wish I could take it all back but I cheated and I ruined everything. I want his soul to have a calm to it.

In need of healing for my husband and I

Posts: 12 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: nw ohio
Member # 42111
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, May 26th (Monday)

It's really common for BS to be disgusted by their WS, after all, what we've done is disgusting, right?

YOU cannot change anything. Time can.

Give him time. Show him every day how much work you're putting into changing, fixing your shit. Let him process those feelings, ask him what he would like from you during those times. He will probably just need space, so give him it.

Don't try to control his feelings because they scare you.

Me - 27
Him - 27

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.

Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
Member # 36684
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, May 26th (Monday)

What are you doing to fix you?

(It'll probably be a bit slow on here today)

FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children

"Your secrets keep you sick"

Posts: 1145 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, May 26th (Monday)

Work on changing, let him see the work. Mine did the same thing. Would sleep on the couch because he couldn't bare to touch me. He eventually was able to again though. Be patient and understanding.

Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"To be loyal to myself is to allow myself to grow and change, and challenge who I am and what I think."

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