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Whatever13
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, May 28th (Wednesday)

I'm curious. What is the most insane thing the A has made you do?

I once set up a fake email, so that I could create a fake Facebook profile. I stole a few images of an attractive young 20-something, and generated a fake person out of mid-air. She had a backstory, an alma mater. She was a bartender at a pub that she knew he'd once visited. She attempted to start a dialogue with AP, in hopes that it would become inappropriate. She'd planned on taking screenshots and displaying them to the girl he started dating when WW stopped talking to him, just to fuck his life up a little.

I just referred to myself in the feminine 3rd person. The fuck?

Yes. It was sick. I was sick, and I stopped myself before it got to that point. But looking back, it's almost comical now. Anybody else ever do anything so bat-shit crazy?


Me (BS): 27
Her (WS): 25

DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA

Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, May 28th (Wednesday)

I hacked all of her passwords and monitored her email accounts, including the three secret ones I found because she was smart enough to link one of them to her primary and the other two to the first secret account. I created a spreadsheet to track the amount of time they spent on the phone together and the number of texts they sent. I paid perfectly good money for a 30 day subscription to an Internet service that helped me figure out where her new dad lived. I rode my motorcycle through his neighborhood at 2 in the morning. I have no idea why.

I suppose the craziest thing I did was to wait for her to snap out of it and see the error of her ways. She had already thrown me away with less regard than a loaf of moldy bread and I was insane enough to think that what I thought we shared meant anything to her at all.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, May 28th (Wednesday)

I burned my wedding dress and shoes in an apartment complex parking lot.

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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Ha I made a fake fbk too. It was a good looking guy with a really cool job. I found out what high school ow went to and made it his too, hoping she would want to be my friend.
Didn't work, guess my ws is all the man she needed.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5242 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Whatever13
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Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

She didn't deserve you anyway, h0peless. :/


Me (BS): 27
Her (WS): 25

DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA

Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

I just referred to myself in the feminine 3rd person. The fuck?

I just laughed out loud!!

I once spent an entire week researching the email address of every religious and community body in DDOWs hometown (she was Indian) and every director and executive in her multinational company (including the wife of her manager). I crafted a seriously damaging email which I was going to send. I gave myself a week or two to think it over because I realised I was making her way too important.

I had the email sitting in my draft folder for several months. Deleting it felt so much better than crafting it.

I also had fantasies of papering the street his office is in outing him as a lying, cheating, fraudster with Genital Herpes (he's senior management and has worked there for 25 years). That one made me smile for ages.

I decided against it because I realised I was making him way too important.

Plus I didn't want anyone to think I was fighting for that guy. If you knew me IRL you'd know everyone expected me cut his dick off, set it alight and decorate my front door with it.

It's so weird to do/think crazy shit when you're aware that you're doing/thinking crazy shit. I was acutely aware I was acting like a crazy person. It wasn't funny at the time but I laugh my arse off about it now.

p.s: a little heads up for the in-house S Waywards - keep your toothbrush on your person at all times lest weird shit happens. Just sayin'.

[This message edited by SBB at 12:41 AM, May 29th (Thursday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

h0peless, I did everything you did-word for word. I don't think it was psychotic at all


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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curiouswiz
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

The toothbrush sent me over the edge with laughter...omg.

I washed the toilet bowl with shitlickers toothbrush. I filled her box of tampons with water and put it back under MY FN vanity. I threw her clothes out. Three times.

I wish I had been as creative as you sweethearts..ahahahahaa


God bless us, everyone.

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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Oh geez, do I have a TON of those and I'm not proud of them. Here we go...

- Stayed home from work one day on her day off. I pretended to leave but drove around the block. Once she left to take the kids to school, I got back in the house and waited for her to get home. I then listened to her on the phone to see if she was talking to OM. Even took my pants off so she wouldn't hear them as I was creeping around this house. I remained undetected for about 3 hours until I stumbled over something in the hall.

- During our same house separation, I used to not be able to sleep when she was awake. I would often go into the closet of the room next to hers and listen to her with my ear against the wall. Again, because I thought she was talking to OM.

- Once set up a spare cell in her room to act as a camera using the video chat app that she liked. It was short term and I only got about 30 minutes of live feed.

- Hacked all email and apps. What passwords I couldn't find written down, I obtained through keystroke logger or the "I forgot my password" option on the app or website.

- Set up an audit log on my router to capture all wi fi traffic in my house.

- Performed a deep recovery on my computer and browsed through THOUSANDS of jpgs.

- Created fake OM and random profiles and even had friends approach her online.

- I used to sneak in her room when she was sleeping to grab her cell. She always had it locked, but I was able to use Dr Fone to "recover" the contents on a few occasions.

- Sat outside her window one night just watching her do her nails through a small divide between the window ledge and the blinds. Her door was actually open and I knew she was just trying to be alone. I just wanted to see her.

- I used to document positions of certain items in her room or around the house to see when they were moved or interacted with. Items like her "toys", perfume, laptop, car keys, my journal, her journal,etc.

I have others that are just too embarrassing to post or that she doesn't already know about.

[This message edited by No12turn2 at 8:37 AM, May 29th (Thursday)]


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


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OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

I just referred to myself in the feminine 3rd person. The fuck?

I randomly burned some of his stuff in the fireplace. Then acted innocent when he kept asking "what happened to that fishing t-shirt? Have you seen my jogging pants?" I don't even know why I did that.

Most recently, I used his fb password and refriended the old suspect howorker and had made him unfriend last year, watching for her to initiate communication. She did not. I blocked her after watching for 4 months. I hate that she thinks HE is the one who friended her, but she's the stupid one. I like knowing that she probably got all flattered that he friended her again, knowing I didn't like her, and I like knowing that she has no idea it wasn't even him and then when he finally discovered her in his friend list he immediately told me and said he didn't want her on there (he is pretty clueless about how fb works) . Call me crazy *shrug*.


I once noticed last year he had had sent a different coworker what I viewed as a too friendly fb message (kind of a "wanna hang out sometime?" type of thing). I didn't want to tip him off that I had his fb pw, so I called him up and told him the coworker had forwarded me his messages to let me know, and that he "underestimated the sisterhood"
OMG I'm literally laughing out loud right now. He totally seemed to fall for it, felt totally stupid, went into work the next day telling everyone that his exwife had probably hacked his fb account and that he did not want any of them to think he was acting inappropriately (this is the same shit he told me, but I was like "whatever liar"). fucking hilarious

[This message edited by OutoftheDeep at 8:46 AM, May 29th (Thursday)]


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

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strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

1. I also set up a fake facebook - 3 actually - and tried to bait my H (early stages of R)

2. I found out OW's email address and added a number to it (that way I was able to activate a very similar address!) and emailed him to see if he would respond to "her". He called me and said, "Babe, she emailed me. How do you want me to handle this? I want to delete it and forget about her."

3. Installed a device on his phone that would track all ingoing and outgoing texts and phone numbers - even if he deleted it from his phone it would get sent to my account and I could view it online.


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


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idontknowwhy5
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

I considered creating a fake cheaters romance website, and then renting billboard space by the OM's work and using a risqué image of him in a fake ad for the fake site so he and all of his coworkers would see it every day they went to and from work.

I didn't do any of those things, but I weighed the pros and cons for a disturbingly long time. In the end I decided it was best to not make decisions while angry.


DDays- too many

Status - In D.


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

it's not that crazy in the scheme of things, but I wiped the hard drive clean on his work computer. He was NOT happy. Too bad, so sad.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Oh I forgot, I threw his cell phone and porn magazines in the river in the middle of the night. This required me to drive to a bridge, park, get out, walk to the edge, and toss his shit over.

I came back and told him what I did. He really better stop messing with me Now he constantly jokes about the fish having his cell phone.


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Yeah. I'm not the only looney tune out there.
I have made 2 fake FB accounts. The OW won't bite and accept my friend requests though. Actually thought about trying to make another fake one as my WH and try friending her that way. I feel I am so desperate to know what is going on with this whore. I want to read sad things on her page about how miserable she is. I think I'm losing my brain.
Of course I also posted her on an out the cheater type of site. That felt good.

I was also thinking about taking out an ad in her local paper about what she is. Of course only writing and using stuff I have direct knowledge and proof of. Thanks to her I do have all the texts.
Should I do that???


BS (me) 42
WS (him) 48
OW (downgrade) 48
Married 11 yrs
DS 9
DD 8
D-day 10/27/13
8mth

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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

WOW, I feel truly psychotic. lol

Only wish I could have retained some control during those times. It was like trying to tell a toddler not to touch himself.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


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OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

was also thinking about taking out an ad in her local paper about what she is. Of course only writing and using stuff I have direct knowledge and proof of. Thanks to her I do have all the texts.
Should I do that???

NO, definitely don't do that. It will make you look crazy and may set you up for some sort of legal trouble. Instead of that, out her to her BH or anyone else that may matter, like her boss if she was using company time to email your WH and things like that. And spend the money that you would have spent on an ad on yourself.

There are plenty of ways to get shadowy revenge without exposing yourself to problems. And that type of revenge is the worst for these OP jerks. For instance, I found out OW in my first marriage had several court cases against her in another state, each in the amount of several thousand dollars. I called up each plaintiff, and gave them all of her current info. I call it death by a thousand papercuts.


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

These are funny.

I just can't believe I hired a PI to spy on my husband. I mean, who does that?


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

I hacked his email (this is the sane part), read a message in which MCOW spun some crappy romantic story about his unusual ring (it was MY ring, he liked it, wore it all the time, I *thought* it was this cool connection between us) and his beautiful hands (barf), grabbed the ring when he took it off to do yardwork, stuck it in my sock drawer, said nothing. Watched him for weeks searching madly for the ring, said nothing. Finally he asks me if I've seen the ring. Wasn't it on the dresser? I asked? Yes, he says, getting panicky. You lost it? I said, very hurt, the ring that was mine and I loved how you wore my ring all the time? Laid it on thick.

Helped him look for it. Blamed the cat. He spends time every weekend for the next YEAR looking for the ring. Empties every drawer, moves all the furniture, etc. throughout the entire house. Every so often, I help him look.

Two years later, on Valentines day, I give him the ring (DDay was right after valentines, he got me NOTHING that year, what a doosh). Told him I found it under the washing machine. Blamed the cat. He went on and on about how was that possible, the cat never went out to the garage. Just looked at him and said, well, here it is now!

I also borrowed his office key very early one morning, went to his office, found a book she had given him, brought back the key, went out and hacked the book with an axe, then burned it.

Ahhhhhh! That was really satisfying!


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

After dday I found that OM had given WW the book *bridges in madison county*. I found the book on our book shelf and tore it up then burnt it in the back yard.

I also found a glass rose he gave her which I smashed.

After finding out they had sex in our bed I made my WW go out with me and we bought a new bed including a new frame. We got new sheets and pillows.

OM gave my youngest son a PC he had put together himself. I accidently destroyed it with a sledge hammer.

I created a fake email using OMs name and tried emailing WW.

I put spy ware on our home pc. Got her password. and copied all her emails she had saved from OM. then deleted her copy.

a psychotic t/j.

after dday I asked WW why she wanted to stay with me rather than OM.

her answer was *of course I dont want to stay with him.. he is a cheater!*

psychotic runs both ways it seems.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.

Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.
Friedrich Nietzsche


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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

LOL. I don't consider it psychotic, but I DO consider what I did extremely vengeful.

About 2 weeks before I moved out, I suddenly became Miss Passionate, yes I did. I plastered a smile on my face and went down to his new business one night and surprised him, telling him I wanted to christen his new business - and that's exactly what we did. I made sure to move all over that place so that I'd touched just about every surface in it.

Then at home a couple nights later, I ambushed him and made sure to once again 'leave my mark' in virtually every spot I could possibly get in the course of the night.

LOL - there was nothing left untouched when I was done with him.

A week or so later on the morning I was moving out of his place, I secretly tucked a card into the top drawer of his nightstand. He never went in his nightstand and would never find it - but I knew his fat-ass OW would have her stalker nose in everything within 8 minutes of my moving out and that card was solely for her benefit, not his.

In the card, I told him that even though we weren't able to make it as a couple, these last few days had been a blast, going at it like jack-rabbits and what-not. I then proceeded to mention how much fun it had been for us and I listed everywhere we'd touched - all over his new business office, on top of his parked motorcycle (yup, even there!!) all the kitchen counters and all the other rooms and surfaces we managed to hit all over his house. Literally, she wasn't going to be able to touch a THING without knowing my butt had been there recently.

I finished the card off by saying even though we weren't so great as a couple, these last few nights sure had been off the charts and since I'd touched just about surface at his work and home, it would probably be a long time before he'd see them normally again. Yeah, I laid it on thick.

Sure enough, within 2 days, he was whining and crying on the phone to me that she'd found a card I'd left for him in his nightstand and I acted very indignant, telling him she had some nerve digging through his stuff and opening a very private card I'd left JUST for him! Hmmmpf!!

She's a true psycho so she was going looney on him and the ex was ready to rip off his own eyelids and feed them to the wolverines.

Yeah, that was just too much fun. Like shooting fish in a barrel.

.

[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 11:14 AM, May 29th (Thursday)]


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

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BrokenheartedUK
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Awesome questions!! Oh the crazy things I've done that if you had told me I would do before the shitstorm that is my life erupted I would never have believed you...

My all time favourite was a few weeks after I found out, I had too much to drink (duh!) and emailed the OW photos off of my iPhone of all the lives she's ruined. One of them was a photo of my mother's head, post brain surgery which was HIDEOUS. Still...my girl friends made me laugh when they said, well, thank God she hadn't had a hysterectomy....The other pictures were of the kids etc...The next day my husband said he got a text from her (the second and last text to my knowledge) where she accused me of being abusive and threatening. I wasn't technically threatening...

Other random things like hiding my husband's passport, crushing his sunglasses, throwing away his favourite cork-screw. It did take me days to recall where I had put the passport...

Good times as the Mayor of Crazy Town I say! Bring them on!


Dday: 4th of January, 2014
WH 50
BS 49
18 years of marriage...three children
One affair PA/EA
"You didn't see me I was falling apart, I was a television version of a person with a broken heart." The National

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

When packing up his stuff, I got all the extra school photos of the kids I could find and inserted them into his porn magazines. Also packed for him anything I didn't want anymore, including the trash. - This was fun.

Burned our Decorative marriage license. Left all the wedding photos and the cross stitched "wedding announcement" I made in the house when I moved out. - This was cathartic.

And the common, tracked him on cell phone GPS, called every number his cell had called trying to find Craig List OW's number. - This was miserable.

Then I truly went psychotic and checked myself into the hospital so I wouldn't carryout my plan to become a widow. - This was hell, but very necessary.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Then I truly went psychotic and checked myself into the hospital so I wouldn't carryout my plan to become a widow. - This was hell, but very necessary.

omg!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


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TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Then I truly went psychotic and checked myself into the hospital so I wouldn't carryout my plan to become a widow. - This was hell, but very necessary

Me too. It was the smartest decision that I have ever made.


ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

Both feet pointed forward; positive


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MakingMyFuture
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Oh man, this is so refreshing to read and know I'm not the only one!!! I had an up close video of my WH jacking off. His face is off screen but you can here him talking about how he wants to 'throw you down and fxck u up the xss".

He owns his own company, i used keylogger software to hack the account and got the contacts for every one of his customers. I drafted a fake email as if he were gay to send to all of the construction companies and home owners he has done business with. Thankfully, a very strong and caring friend talked me out of it just in time!


When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou

DDay 1 - 1/13, False Recovery Discovered more + Broken NC so DDay2= 7/14

9/9/14: filed for divorce

BW: 42 (me)
WH: 40 (him)
DD-10, DS-8


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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, May 29th (Thursday)

Several times, I put on a sort of disguise & borrowed a non-descript car, & parked in the parking lot where they work. I watched OW with binoculars, so I could get a really good look at her. I also would follow her or WH at lunchtime, or check on the restaurants that I knew they liked to go to.

Good thing I did, because I did actually catch them having lunch together twice, after Dday, when WH was insisting there was no contact.

I also put a VAR in WH's car, but was never able to find out much with that.

I also would drive to his IC, during his session, & search his car---I did find more evidence by doing that.

[This message edited by mchercheur at 12:04 PM, May 29th (Thursday)]


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

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MakingMyFuture
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

Oh, almost forgot...only thing I regret (because I do not consider tracking software, GPS, VARs, etc crazy...just good common sense!) but on the crazy side, I did dissolve an Ambien in his beer one night to make sure he was knocked out while I went through his crap. Not so proud of that, although he had 'borrowed' them before, it could have ended very badly...not my finest moment!

[This message edited by MakingMyFuture at 12:15 PM, May 29th (Thursday)]


When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou

DDay 1 - 1/13, False Recovery Discovered more + Broken NC so DDay2= 7/14

9/9/14: filed for divorce

BW: 42 (me)
WH: 40 (him)
DD-10, DS-8


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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

Not my psychotic story but an interesting one that I never had the balls to do. A friend of mine served up some alpo spaghetti for her ws I thought about it but knew I couldn't watch my ws eat dog food, I prob wouldn't have dove across the table and grabbed his fork first. Sometimes.I wish.I had a psycho streak in me.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

Well besides burning all our wedding pictures in a bonfire during major snowstorm while I consumed too much wine. in my nightgown.....and attepting to burn HWH's 1973 rickenbacker guitar.
I spent a week searching for plane seating manifests to see if OW number 123 had visited him in MB. The dept of home security didn't like that.
Also creating a fake email very simlar to OW's to catch him..it worked. DDay 3.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

These have been refreshing to read to know that we're not alone in our crazed times. I had to be talked down about creating a craigslist ad for the OW with the graphic photos she had emailed men of herself and including all her personal contact info. I backed off when I realized I could go to jail for that. Not worth it!!

However, I still consider posting "Men Wanted" flyers all over the county that instruct them to go to her physical address for a good time....


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

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Truly
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

Oh I am enjoying this and they have made me feel so much better about my own small revenges!

I have burnt stuff...a lot of stuff...piles of clothes, bedding, beds, chairs, sofa, cards, gifts, letters, scarves etc. I never said a word just had a HUGE bonfire.

I then smashed and trashed key rings and other tawdry momentos.

I did such a good job over time that when my WH found two items when we moved house he smashed one and burnt the other...all without saying a word!

And yes I considered all the other stuff but the bunny boiler was so insane she made me look like Julie Andrews!


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

She didn't deserve you anyway, h0peless. :/

Thanks. I know that now! At the time, though, I was in the middle of two weeks without any sleep and a little more than a month without eating anything and I wasn't my usual rational self. I really took her blame shifting to heart because I felt like I could save my marriage (to a cold, unfeeling, empathy lacking, selfish, terrible person) if only I would do things like fold the laundry RIGHT when the buzzer on the dryer went off instead of waiting an hour and letting things get a little bit wrinkly, or do the dishes every night instead of every other night. That's why it was so insane. My ex was objectively pretty horrible to me and my self-esteem was so shot and I was so codependent that I thought I deserved it.

I'm much better now.

[This message edited by h0peless at 5:43 PM, May 29th (Thursday)]


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Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

Not psychotic because I didn't want to go to jail over him and her but

I was the kind of person who would order water in a bar. Never tried beer until 2012 after the divorce. I don't like red wine and I tolerate blush wine and mixed drinks.

The one thing I DID discover while married to him was ICE WINE. I LOVED ICE WINE. For those of you who don't know about this delicacy, it comes in a bottle smaller than a standard wine bottle and is WAY FREAKING EXPENSIVE. Not something a non rich person can keep consuming. On a vacation, we bought a bottle that cost over $100 to consume on a very SPECIAL occasion.

Fast forward 2008, he pissed me off and hurt me for the 11 millionth time in 60 days since I found out about his dalliance. The cruelty was unbearable. I slammed the phone done and grabbed bottle and drank the whole thing. He was PISSED.

[This message edited by Guinness23 at 7:25 AM, May 31st (Saturday)]


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

I found out my x (h at the time) was emailing the OW through myspace. I read the emails, but there was no way to mark unread, and I wanted to test him.

I set up another myspace profile. Identical to hers. Same profile, same photos, same stupid "about me" surveys. My kids were still little enough for nap time back then.

I copied the email, then deleted it from his inbox. Pasted it in my fake profile, resent it. They emailed each other through me for a couple months. I found a lot of stuff out. He never did know how I knew everything I knew.

I changed all his dating profiles to say he was looking for men for one night stands.

I changed the computer password to "WeatherlyMarriedAnAsshole" and wouldn't tell him how to change it.

He held me down one night, wouldn't let me up. I tried very hard to kick out the bedroom window so the neighbors would hear me scream. Not worrying about the damage that might do to me.

Finally, when he actually left, I sent him with most our wedding pictures, and a folder I had of bullshit love letters he'd written me. At the top of each one I wrote something like "I never deserved any of this, you say so yourself right here. I'm awesome." (Last I knew, he still had the folder, oddly enough)

Looking back now, I realize, I should have just left his ass. And, I know he uses all of it as justification for his bullshit. But, at the time it all seemed perfectly reasonable to a 22 yr old practically newly wed.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

I am so glad I am not alone

I think my psycho one was parking down the street from her apt & watching her for 2 days with no sleep.

Next was marking his tires with chaulk when he got home then checking in the morning to see if he snuck out.

I had a friend do a fake FB and "watch" her for 3 months.



ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
RedRaven6500
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Default  Posted: 4:43 AM, May 30th (Friday)

This Post Is AWESOME!!!!!

I am so glad that all of my out of control thoughts for retribution are "normal".

I have a file with every email the Bunny Boiler sent to my fWH. She was stupid enough to even send some of these emails to me, trying to sabotage my relationship with my fWH. In one email, it had a chain that pretty much gave a timeline of her dating and having men live in her house before she was divorced from her now XH. She was emailing and sleeping with a few other men besides my H, from 2008 to 2010. She didn't get divorced until 2010. I think she was trying to send a portion of the email where my H was bad-mouthing me. However, in the chain was all of the other "relationship details" that incriminated her being unfaithful and lying in their court proceedings! I sent all of those emails to her XH so he could take her back to court and gain custody of their children. I sent her X all of the "I'm suicidal" emails she sent my fWH so he could solidify his case against her unstable mental state and lifestyle. I sent the pictures of her sticking out her stomach pretending to be pregnant and the ultrasound picture she sent to me, trying again to sabotage my marriage. Her ex told me that the ultrasound she sent was her sisters youngest child!!!!

I'm not sure how their custody hearing went, but I do know that her X told me that she foreclosed on their house. And then she moved in to a rental home with a dude she had only known for a couple months. Karma, Karma, Karma!!!!!


BW: Me 42, WH: Him 42, Married: 22 years
DD: 21, DS: 20 both in college
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 serious long-distance PA/EA's, several casual PA's, some at the same time. Classy
In R

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HowToLiveWithIt
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 30th (Friday)

LOL you guys make me feel so much better, though maybe not creative, I thought I was so clever and crazy with my little antics, but I see it was kids play! Hats of to You!


Me BH 50, seemingly married happily 25 years
Wife 47, had 3 PA affair, last one developed as EA but then turned PA and sporadic meeting 2 times a year at conferences but lasted for 8 years. Trying to reconcile.

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SadieMae
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, May 30th (Friday)

Ok, I'll share...

OW is on an "amateur" picture sharing site. That is where WH started talking to her and his A began. OW has a thread where she shares her pictures and these men (and women) comment on them, telling her how amazing she is and all the ways they want to F her...

I created a login (male) and started posting about how hot she is and that by looking at her older pictures, it's apparent that she's gained weight recently and it's so hot. When her admirers tried to make her feel better, I commented about the recent pictures and pointed out how amazing her double chin was in one pic, and how hot her stretch marks were in another one. And ok, I also told her that the way her @$$ cheeks sagged between her thighs was totally hot.

She deleted all the pictures I pointed out. She also commented that now she was conflicted, because others had told her she's lost weight recently (I usually use a scale, guess I'm weird).

So there it is, I trolled her and it was great. I'll probably do it again. It felt great and I didn't need any xanax!


Me: BW 40
Him: SAWH 40
Together half our lives.

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steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, May 30th (Friday)

So... I set up a male account on a message board he frequented... and was his "buddy". He cried on my shoulder about having to choose between me and EAP... I gave him advice on how to save his marriage from the books I was reading and here, after I pointed out all of the fantasy of this A...


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 30th (Friday)

After 2 years of being harassed by OW, and her new BFF (my FWH's own XW), and having their myspace and Facebook profiles dedicated to talking shit about me and FWH, I sat up alone one night and decided to hack their emails.

I guessed their security questions in one try.

Locked them both out of their own profiles, forwarded some messages to people who weren't supposed to see them, etc.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


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OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, May 30th (Friday)

lol, NeverAgain, you are my hero. I would bet she will NEVER get over that.

I have loved reading all these.


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

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Whatever13
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, May 30th (Friday)

Wow, a lot of feedback! I'm glad to see so many of you looking back and taking some humor out of these truly damaging situations. It's a real sign of strength.


Me (BS): 27
Her (WS): 25

DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA

Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.


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Melian40
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, May 30th (Friday)

I always believed that good thinking before action makes people win in bad situations.

1.Before confronting him about the first OW I built a good story about me having cheated on him and I "confessed". He bought it, became pale and he spitted all out. (He only kept her name out but it didn't take me long to find)

2.To get the truth for OW2 I sawed the VARS on his jackets.

But I can't deny that a couple of times I thought torturing him like in the movies to get the truth. Thankfully the logic prevailed.
Liars disgust me.


BW-me:40
BH-him:41
DD-age 9
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.

"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"


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mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, May 30th (Friday)

Melian40:

To get the truth for OW2 I sawed the VARS on his jackets.

How did you do this^^^^? I was trying to figure out a way


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

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angerisme
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, May 30th (Friday)

Well call me old fashioned, but I dont think ANYTHING the betrayed spouse does is crazy. I think the things we do are protective and survival instinct. I did have to stop doing destructive behaviors in favor of CONstructive behaviors. I was much more satisfied contacting AP husband than cursing out AP. I decorate my house when he says I dont ever cook anymore. Now mind you...these are not passive aggressive behaviors. They are the behaviors that I WANT TO DO for myself. I have stopped letting his NPD nutjob asshole yelling stop me from doing what I want to do; neither do I let his bad behavior toward me push me into bad behaviors of my own. When he tries to hurt me...I make sure my response is something that strengthens ME!

uhm...and the healthiest thing that I ever did was smash his cellphone into a million pieces <smiles her angelic smile>.

[This message edited by angerisme at 3:08 PM, June 7th (Saturday)]


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Melian40
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, May 31st (Saturday)

@mchercheur:

You cut a little thread from the inner cloth of the jacket. You sew velcro, so you can put the VAR in and take it out without it dropping.


BW-me:40
BH-him:41
DD-age 9
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.

"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, May 31st (Saturday)

On DDay#1, I dragged our huge picnic table off the porch and into the yard where I set it on fire. I then spent the night burning his 5 foot tall stash of porn that I always called the "Williesdad Memorial Library".

The next day, I came home, and that bitch was at my house. When I pulled in, she ran to her car and tried to leave. I drug that bitch out of her car by the hair into the garage. I then proceeded to let her know that it was not acceptable to come to my house ever. All this while WXH stood there with his mouth shut. So much for being a kisa.

She was really pissed that he didn't defend her. His response: "No way! williesmom was really pissed!"

Fucking jagoffs. Both of them.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, May 31st (Saturday)

What an awesome post!!

I'll admit that over the past year I've had some what I thought were "crazy" thoughts. You guys are all awesome! I wish I was as creative as you!!

I don't have a story as unique as you guys, but here's mine:

After DDAY it took me a couple months to realize that WBF was a chicken shit and would never tell me the truth. He was TT all over the place and I knew in my gut that more happened than he said. He was all "We never hooked up I swear on our dogs life" bullshit.

I got so fed up, I downloaded an app that lets you have a fake text message conversation with any number you choose. You pick the number, and you write both sides of the text.

I convinced WBF that OW and I were texting and going to meet up to discuss what really happened between them.

He immediately changed his tune. He said he didn't want me to hear the truth from her, instead of him, and finally told me the whole truth. I still pretended to meet up with her that night because I knew that he might still be hiding things from me and that if I told him I wasn't going, he'd might still hold things back.

NOW - I guess this would be the embarrassing part...a couple months later I was using the same app to fake a conversation with a friend...so I could show WBF what some of our "really" thought of him after DDAY, when all the sudden I got a REAL text from the friend basically saying "what are you talking about" !!!!!

Luckily, I hadn't said anything damaging (yet) but in that instant I knew that the OW had probably gotten all of my text that I had faked a while back. She never saw what I wrote pretending to be her, but she probably got the text I sent in reply. LUCKILY, I only sent things like "Ok" and "When". But still...she was probably like WTF if going on...this crazy bitch is talking to herself.

I had already texted her once after DDAY (for real) to see if she would talk to me (she never responded) so I'm pretty sure she had my number (saved or blocked?) and knew it was me at the time of the fake texting. My only hope is that she blocked me from day one and never got the texts. LOL.

So word of advice, if you use a fake texting app, don't use a real number (make it off by one # or something?) because they will get the text!

From now on I'll just be using a google voice number I set up in case I need it...hahahaha

[This message edited by 4everfaithful83 at 7:24 PM, May 31st (Saturday)]


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


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MissMovingOn
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, May 31st (Saturday)

The "worst" I can think of is when I made him pick up a box of his crap he left at the house after he left me for the COW and on top of everything was every card I could find that he had ever given me ripped in half. He was super pissed, but I felt it was totally justified as he had told me a week or so before that he didn''t buy people cards based on how he felt but on what he thought the other person wanted to hear. When he texted me whining about me ripping them up I said "you told me you picked cards based on what I wanted to hear and not how you felt. As far as I am concerned they were garbage then and they are garbage now." One day I might regret not having them anymore but today is not that day.


Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
FINAL FINAL DDay - August 8, 2014. I AM DONE!

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Raven96
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, May 31st (Saturday)

I don't have anything, but these are awesome! Great thread!! WH better beware!!


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

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madsadalone
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, June 1st (Sunday)

After a year of waiting for the Grub to let me in on his secret life, he finally gave me the body count and I was able to hold it together for a couple of days then fell apart.

I went into super pisstivity and was yelling, screaming and was out of control. Not my finest moment. He decided that he could not handle my anger so he was walking to his car to leave, I'm sure to go see one of his whores, anyway my son had mowed the lawn and found an old saw blade and put on the porch railing, so when the Grub was walking to his car he said "I better get over this shit"! I totally lost my shit and threw the saw blade,aiming at the back of his head, by the grace of God the blade did not have enough height. But hit his car door and did enough damage for him to realize that I was not the sweet, docile, easily controlled wife of a year ago.

So glad that I am not in jail. Now I remind myself that I don't look good in orange, keeps me in check.


Me: BS 47
Him:WH 55
M: 27 yrs
DD 4/29/13
3 kids (25,23,22

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Furious1
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, June 1st (Sunday)

This is not what I consider truly psychotic, but I did burn the mattress set and all of our old bedding in a huge bonfire in our back yard. I made a ceremony out of it and took pictures for my IC.

Just prior to the burning ceremony, I demanded we get rid of that mattress set. WH wanted to wait until after we got back from summer vacation. Instead of arguing about it, I took my handy little wrench and turned the satellite dish so that it would not pick up a signal. WH was freaking out about the tv not working when I came back in. I just smiled at him while holding up my little wrench and told him that if I had to wait until after vacation for a new mattress set that he had not had sex with my sister on, then he would have to wait until after vacation for television. I got my new mattresses and bedding the next day.

Back when WH had his "Get over it" attitude, I piled all of his clothes in our front yard and lit it. He was screaming at me to help him put out the fire. I went over to the other side of the pile that wasn't burning yet and lit it too. I looked at him, shrugged my shoulders, and told him to "Get over it" before going back inside like nothing at all was wrong. I think I carried off crazy well during this one.

I outed his A with OW#6 to their co-workers on FB. The fallout was priceless with OW#6 whining and crying to WH about how mean and hateful everyone was being to her the morning after I posted. It wasn't until later in the day when someone let her know what I had posted. WH was in CYA mode from the word go and was too busy worried about getting fired since he was her boss to be bothered with her petty drama. The land of unicorn farts and rainbows ended with a nasty little lover's quarrel. Imagine that.

My sister (OW#5) made the mistake of confronting me on FB about why I was avoiding her. While I did not want to do it on FB, it was better than face to face since I was more than a little angry at her. I let her have it just as fast as my fingers could type. She threatened me with a lawsuit. I laughed at her and reminded her that it had to be a lie before it could be slander. I let her know that WH was willing to testify about every sordid detail of their 3 year A and that both my kids and her kids (only the adult kids) were witnesses and were willing to defend me if she was stupid enough to try to take it that far.

One other thing, I shot my WH on the butt with a Nerf gun. While it is not the craziest thing I did, it sure was funny.


BW (me): 41 WH (him): 49
Married 19 years. SD: 26 from his 1st. M. DS: 21 from 1st M. DD: 17 (autistic)
D-day: 10/4/13 with ongoing TT (last TT was 10/2/14).
2 OC with 2 different OW. 7 year EA followed by 8 year PA with my sister.

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struggling16
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, June 1st (Sunday)

I don't think these are "psychotic".

I think these actions are a way to reclaim control over something we had no control over. Our spouses' decisions to have an A made us invisible and inconsequential. I keep telling my WH that perspectives change when you learn you and the M are disposable and expendable.

These actions may seem extreme but acting out aggressively enabled me to reclaim some of my stolen power.


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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, June 2nd (Monday)

You want psychotic...hmmm.

Bought a stun gun. Looked up how to make bombs. Invested in making traps and working out to basically assassinate OM.

Looking to get brass knuckles, blow torch and setting up to destroy OM.

And this is all pretty recent.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1041 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, June 2nd (Monday)

I am not proud to admit that I put my Christianity on the shelf and lost my
mo fo mind.

1) When I saw the FB pictures of "the lovely couple" I beat his a$$. I mean, I really fought him like I was a dude. When my hands got hurt, my eyes got huge (according to my H) and I began to scan the room for weapons. Afterwards, I saw that I had broken many sentimental objects. One was a picture frame with a picture of my deceased father. Then I had to clean up the mess that included lots of potting soil.


2) Spent time and money searching out info on AP. Got in my car, drove 70 miles with the intention of causing great bodily harm to "it". Here's the crazy part: donkey lives in a project in the inner city. There's no place to park Plus, the "hood" is dangerous. I was later told that the locals would have immediately sniffed me out and would have "jacked" me for my $, jewelry and car.


ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

Both feet pointed forward; positive


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