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onceacheater71
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Hi everyone. My DD was almost 6 months ago. We are getting a divorce because I cannot get past the affair. I posted my story here shortly after I found out.

Of course, hindsight is 20/20 and I've been thinking about all the signs that existed before the huge revelation. There is one particular incident that happened and I readily believed his explanation. He insists it's true today, though I don't expect that he would ever admit something was going on before the affair that I actually caught him in.

I'm interested to hear if anyone here thinks the following story might be true. Now I just feel like an idiot for ever believing it, but when you trust someone that's what you do--believe them.

Last year WH returned from a trip with a guy friend. A couple of days after his return I was looking in his laptop back for the power cord because I needed to charge the computer. Instead, I found a condom. We NEVER use condoms. When he came home later that day I asked him about it. Get ready for this. It's a doozy. He told me that because he had to drive an hour and a half late at night from the airport upon returning from his trip, he might need to jerk off (pardon my bluntness) in the car to stay awake for the drive. He said he had the condom so he wouldn't make a mess in the car. I TOTALLY believed it without question. How could I be so stupid. But I had no proof of anything and I really never thought of it again until weeks after discovering (with video evidence)that he was cheating on me. I do know it wasn't with the OW from this current situation. I just think he had a ONS with someone else or had at least prepared himself should the opportunity present itself.

Does anyone think there is anyway his story is true? Do people really do that while driving to stay awake? Is it even possible to drive while doing that? Wow. Amazed.


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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I think that people do an assortment of weird things, but, as to his story? No, I wouldn't believe it. It goes to his pattern of behavior.

Why did he have only one condom? Where are the rest? If he intended to use it, why was it back in his bag instead of placed for ready use?

Wouldn't believe it for a second.


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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Speaking for myself, based on my own experiences, I've never met anyone who didn't want to fall asleep immediately after an orgasm/ejaculation; myself included. Based on that, if I had heard that story, the bullshit flag would have popped with me.

Not saying it's not possible, however.


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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

This could go in the book "Stupid Things Cheaters Say". Even if true, it is so stupid your H deserves to lose you. He cannot drive 90 minutes without yanking? I am so sorry. Do not be embarrassed for believing him. He is the one who should be ashamed for using such a ridiculous story to trick you when he knew you would trust him. He has no morals in that.


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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Doesn't make any sense to me. He purchased just one condom and uses jacking off as a replacement for caffeine? Sounds kike he doesnt want to admit about possible OW than you know about until you have proof


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

The only times I have ever heard of a guy jacking into a condom has been here, when it's some story about why there are suddenly condoms where there were no condoms before.

Also, lol at jerking off to stay awake. Did he have a turkey sandwich and glass of wine to help with that too?


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onceacheater71
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

LOL. You guys are awesome! It helps me to laugh at the ridiculousness of it looking back. I definitely was so trusting and no, he doesn't deserve me.

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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, June 23rd (Monday)


..

.."jerking off keeps you awake at the wheel!!"

..of course it does..... and the condom is necessary to keep the wad from shooting himself in the eyes .... and blurring his vision!!

..not!

..TOTAL BULLSHIT>>>

smy.. p.s... tell him to stop for a black coffee next time.


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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

It's so funny the lies they come up with on the spot!!! They gotta have an inventory of lies they go to the well when they are caught in a precarious position. I believed my wife on three things should have totally deep dived into and put her feet to the coals woulda saved me 3 years. but like you said when you love someone you trust them and believe them.

[This message edited by WhereIsHome at 7:38 PM, June 23rd (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I think he deserves some kind of bullshit prize for that one. He couldn't even come up with the usual "I was carrying it for my friend" or "someone put it there as a joke"?

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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I'm going to say that unless he has some odd sexual gratification issue it's 100% bs. Creative bs though, but bs.


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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Um, what?

I'm curious - how do you know it wasn't for OW?


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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I guess anything is possible… Do you know him to be more awake after orgasm in your experience? I've never heard of such a thing but who knows…

I found a box of condoms in my H's drawer (the box was open…) before I found out what he was up to. He had already had a vasectomy so there was no need for us to use them and his explanation was that he thought it would be fun to use them... "condoms make sex fun!" said no man ever…

At the time I just brushed it off and thought it was weird and never thought about it again. After DD I remembered the incident and couldn't believe how stupid I was. Denial can be so strong.


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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Hmm wonder what kind of distracted driving charges they would fine him for with that one....pity the cop who pulls someone like him over! Ya sounds like bs, but dont blame yourself for believing his lies...it sounds too stupid to be made up!

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onceacheater71
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I know it wasn't for the specific OW that I learned about on DD. He just met her in the fall and this condom story happened around Feb or Mar 2013. So it would have been a different AP, which I don't doubt at all. Nothing surprises me anymore. He had the excuse right on the spot. I think he came up with it on the fly, though. He's creative and had the benefit of my complete trust. I really don't see how it's possible to jerk off while driving. In my mind it's akin to patting yourself on the head and rubbing your stomach in circle simultaneously. Too much coordination required!

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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

He must like to live dangerously and I would hate to be in oncoming traffic with him on the road...one hand on the wheel. nah I don't believe it.
When my ws and I were dating, he threw a runner and was MIA for a weekend. He came home with a hickey on his neck..yea apparently when he passed out drunk, his friend (male) gave it to him as,a joke to get him in trouble with me and yes I believed him there was my first red flag I chose to ignore.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 10:44 PM, June 23rd (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

OMG - this is funny.
of course it does..... and the condom is necessary to keep the wad from shooting himself in the eyes .... and blurring his vision!!

But it's about as plausible as having an orgasm to stay alert. Right!! Wink Wink


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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

I laughed hard Once:
"I think he came up with it on the fly."
Ahem: on the fly

Oh you made me laugh!

P.S. He's so fulla sh*t!


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, June 23rd (Monday)

Most people's *first thought go-to* when they want to stay awake is caffeine -- not *pleasuring* themselves. I don't know, condoms and coffee both start with co- ..... so maybe the little muffin got them confused.

20/20 hindsight is a bitch. There are lots of things I look back on now and go "oh, so THAT'S what was really going on." Yea, it sucks. I cannot believe some of the bullshit that happened during my marriage that I said "ok, that makes sense" to.....and then I remind myself that it made sense at the time because what the gaslighting fucker told me was plausible, but ONLY because he was leaving out significant details of the story....which, if I had known at the time would have TOTALLY changed the context, kwim?


"condoms make sex fun!"

I'm not a guy, but this statement goes against everything I've EVER heard a guy say about condoms. I've NEVER heard of a guy that really,really wanted to wear one.....quite the opposite actually.


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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

No, I'm so sorry, this story could not be true in any universe, and I'm actually a proponent of the multi-verse theory. So no. There is no 'verse with men wanking off to stay awake. While driving. Using a condom to contain the mess.


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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

OK, so very few things make me laugh these days...but seriously, someone else above had the right idea...this should go in a Book or Post for 'Stupid Cheater Lies'.

1. Almost all men are tired after they have an orgasm. Its biological. So the chances that a man would have an orgasm to stay away is a joke

2. A Condom takes away a significant amount of the sensitivity. The idea that a man would wear one by choice for anything other than stopping a baby/disease is also a joke (as is evident by SI, many men don't even do that). Growing up with brothers, playing men's sports, having almost all male roommates before getting married and having a man's job I'll say, any guy I have EVER known would grab a napkin or take the sock off his own foot to clean up before putting on a condom to pleasure himself.

Sorry, you were snowed. Don't ever expect the truth from him about this (because you can't prove it and he will lie about anything you can't prove) but add it to your internal list of why you have made the right decision to D.


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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

As a man, I can confirm MMF's point number 1. Based on that , I found your WH's explanation laughable from the start.

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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

20/20 hindsight is a bitch.

Amen.

This just reminded me of a condom incident that I, too, believed. Stupidly


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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

This is so funny. They sure come up with the most creative excuses, huh? I think a tissue would suffice to clean up the mess. On the flip side, at least he attempted to practice safe sex when he was cheating on you, unlike many other selfish WSs .

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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

Wish that were the case betrayedpregnant. Only in that instance. The affair that I know about consisted of unprotected sex and back and forth between the two of us. I have been tested twice at 6 month intervals for stds and fortunately all is ok. Still astonished I believed such a ludicrous story!

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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

I think he’s misunderstanding what’s meant by driving a stick-shift…

Condoms are usually sold in packs of three or ten.
You found one.
So on a 90 minute drive he either jerked off 2 or 9 times.
I guess that would keep anyone awake…


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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

Last year WH returned from a trip with a guy friend. A couple of days after his return I was looking in his laptop back for the power cord because I needed to charge the computer. Instead, I found a condom. We NEVER use condoms. When he came home later that day I asked him about it. Get ready for this. It's a doozy. He told me that because he had to drive an hour and a half late at night from the airport upon returning from his trip, he might need to jerk off (pardon my bluntness) in the car to stay awake for the drive. He said he had the condom so he wouldn't make a mess in the car. I TOTALLY believed it without question. How could I be so stupid. But I had no proof of anything and I really never thought of it again until weeks after discovering (with video evidence)that he was cheating on me. I do know it wasn't with the OW from this current situation. I just think he had a ONS with someone else or had at least prepared himself should the opportunity present itself.


I am a woman so this sounds like a crock to me. Why not just use a tissue?

I also got this story from my wayward after learning of his affair two years ago.

About 15 years prior I had found a box of condoms in his drawer, and some fell out of his computer bag.

I asked him about them because we never used them, and he claimed he used them to jack off in so there wasn't a mess.

I believed it because I wanted to trust him.

I wish more man would answer.

Maybe the men are embarrassed to admit to whacking off in a condom, but it would really help to hear if some men actually do this.


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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

Think about it. He's driving at night on an unfamiliar road in an unfamiliar car. He feels sleepy. So, he decides to do what he says he's going to do.

So far, so good

To do this he has to unzip the computer bag in he dark and fish around for the condom

Hen he has to either pull his equipment out first and unwrap he condom (those buggers are notoriously difficult to open one handed if he keeps hat least one hand on the wheel), or vice versa. In any event both items have to be ready.

Then, unless he has remarkable abilities, he has to begin the process so he can put the condom on. Again, one hand on the wheel

Then he has to roll the condom over his equipment.
Then he has to return to the matter at hand.

Once complete, he has to remove the condom, without spilling the um er contents.

Then he has to get rid of the condom

Then he has to reposition his equipment.

Sure, this is exactly what happened, all while driving an up unfamiliar road with an unfamiliar vehicle at night.

Maybe you'll understand better,if you imagine using a diaphragm while driving.

One more question to ask him. Was it a three pack, twelve pack or the giant economy size he bought?

And was th e condom prelubed? Really messy if it was one of those types. I'd hate to be that cars next renter.

If you feel like living dangerously, ask him to take you on a "demonstration" ride so he can display his talents to you up close and personal.


Or, you could,simply laugh in his face and tell him you know he is lying.

Even more shocking, did he ever watch Brokeback Mountain and feel moved by its love story?


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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)


This one needs to go in the hall of shame of excuses used by a cheater.


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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)

For 90 minutes there isn't one bathroom to stop at??? Who wants to sit with a dirty dick after jacking off into a condom? That just sounds wrong.


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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)


Agree this story sounds fishy.... BUT I disagree with posters who say guys never use condoms to catch the mess. I've known several who do. Otherwise they have to do laundry. And between the two evils of wearing a condom and doing the laundry, the condom is the lesser. :)


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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

Agree this story sounds fishy.... BUT I disagree with posters who say guys never use condoms to catch the mess. I've known several who do. Otherwise they have to do laundry. And between the two evils of wearing a condom and doing the laundry, the condom is the lesser. :)

Wrong, sort of. Being intimately familiar with my own anatomy, I can say that a condom may avoid a messy dish towel or sock or whatever, but it still means cleanup. It's not like I take off the condom and my cock and crotch region are magically clean, I wipe off or take a shower. On those occasions I have had to leap into some manner of lower body clothing, those clothes had to go into the wash as soon as I could get somewhere to clean up.

I am sure there are guys out there who use condoms for masturbation but if they are, it's not about convenience factor when it comes to laundry. Honestly the only reason I could think of is to hide that it is going on, so the wife/gf doesn't find spooged up clothes in the dirties. Or if it's just enjoyable.

A napkin or paper towel is far less messy and leaves no dirties, either. I mean I know there must be other guys out there like me who have a release like a shotgun and it will just blow through this other brand of paper towel or napkin, but that's why I use Brawny, the quicker picker upper. When it comes to mopping jizz, nothing gets the job done better.

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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

We use a lot of abbreviations here.. What does TMI stand for????

Also, a surprising number of "experts" offering commentary on the topic. Myself included. There's actually two threads on this issue of vital,importance running at the same time posted by two different ladies whose WH's offered masturbation as a reason for otherwise inexplicable condom possession.

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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

he might need to jerk off (pardon my bluntness) in the car to stay awake for the drive.
That is one of the strangest lies I have ever heard.

He never heard of coffee?


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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

Usually too hot when applied to the genital,area, Craig. And even the smallest coffee cup at the drive through is way too big for me to use for gratification purposes.


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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

I really don't see how it's possible to jerk off while driving. In my mind it's akin to patting yourself on the head and rubbing your stomach in circle simultaneously. Too much coordination required!

It's possible. Twice I've had men follow me out of a store and then VERY OBVIOUSLY masturbate while driving up next to me. One even tried to block me from taking my exit on the highway! I had to slam my brakes on when we were next to the exit and cross two lanes to get to the exit. He of course missed the exit, but he had been driving right next to me, to my left, to try to keep me from getting off the highway.

BUT - just because the world is filled with perverts does NOT mean that's how guys stay awake while driving. His story is bullshit. And as you mentioned, if he used this technique, why just the one condom? Why was it not in his glove box instead of buried in a bag?

It's bullshit


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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

OMG what BS!!!!

Yeah I know the first thing my FWSO does after orgasm is want to paint the house

Most guys can barely roll off you never mind drive for miles & miles


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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Thanks everyone for the replies on this thread and the other one. I have been able to find the humor in such a ridiculous lie. I was a little surprised by my emotional response to the firm realization that though DD was in January for the affair I know about, he was almost certainly unfaithful or at least prepared to be almost a year before that. And who knows how far back it goes beyond that? Reading the responses and having the truth sink in was almost like another DD (without the explicit. videos). One step forward five steps back.

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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

The quicker picker upper


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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Now I'll never look at a package of Brawny and not think of this thread.

I'll think of it as the quicker dicker wiper upper.


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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Has he by chance heard of an invention called "coffee"?


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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, June 25th (Wednesday)

Ok,

I hope this doesn't come across as a t/j, just trying to answer OP question.

I answered in the other similar thread that this is not only possible, I have first hand experience (get it...first hand).

Before I go any further, your wayward is more than likely lying. It was probably a "just in case" rubber for a ONS. Whether or not he ever had one who knows?

But I feel I have to chime in because by the other comments made, I must be a liar or pervert. I am neither.

Imagine driving 16 hours strait through because you absolutly had to be somewhere and only got a limited time off work. Do you know how much coffee a human can drink before it's no longer effective? The road lulls us to sleep, even if we aren't tired. It's the monotony. It's deadly. In all my years of driving long distances, the only thing that I can consistantly do to stay alert is engage in sexual fantasy. Most of the time (99%) I don't beat off. Just thinking about hot detailed sex keeps me awake. But when I've had enough coffee to puke, sure I'll take it to the next level. I'll get a condom at a gas station at the next piss break and keep it in the car in case I get the sleepys again. Sometimes I do and use it, other times I don't and toss it. If my W found it, I would be embarrassed to tell the truth (that she wouldn't believe anyway).

I can explain the logistics, but it's not hard at all. Is it safe? IMO safer than falling asleep. My FWW has given me road head before. You won't believe how hyper vigilent my driving became understanding the risk at hand.

I haven't done it in years but not because I think it's wrong or unsafe. It's because I think I'm more likely to get hit by a drunk driver when I'm in the act. That's not how I want my body discovered.

And I've had a vasectomy. I would use a condom with my wife to prolong my finish to extend her pleasure. It doesn't feel as good (duh) but it's not always about me getting mine.

I'm sorry for your lying H. I really am. I do not want to minimize the crap you are dealing with, but the answer to your question is "yes". At least in my universe.


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Default  Posted: 3:37 AM, June 27th (Friday)

If guys are whacking off the nine times Bigger suggests it may be pain keeping them awake.

And who sez they are driving during this activity?
Could just be extending the pee break.

And ANYONE who has ever done litter patrol on even a two-lane can tell you where the condom winds up. My state is currently trying to pass a law to prevent truckers from tossing urine filled plastic drink bottles on the highway.


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Sleepingbeauty
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, June 27th (Friday)

No way. Although I might've believed him if he had said he had to relieve himself. Amazing isn't it how much we believe until we come to understand that a ws s a fantastic liar.

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